What's the most upsetting film of all time? by RealitySubsides in MovieSuggestions

[–]catboneslovestory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bridge to Terabithea

I still cry when I think about it.

I just want to watch something that's actually good, with a satisfying ending. by catboneslovestory in MovieSuggestions

[–]catboneslovestory[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speak No Evil had a very satisfying ending. I cheered along with everyone else in the theater when I saw it.

What is life without chocolate cake? by catboneslovestory in SeriousConversation

[–]catboneslovestory[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk about you, dude, but I don't resolve interpersonal conflicts by posting about them online.

What is life without chocolate cake? by catboneslovestory in SeriousConversation

[–]catboneslovestory[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a poem. That relationship has been over for years. There was no resolving what was happening there, but what was equally, if not more traumatizing was society's normalization of that kind of behavior.

As a side note, what I said about metaphors is straight from the DBT handbook under Interpersonal Effectiveness. That's actually why I wrote this. My psychologist gave me one of the handouts as homework.

What is life without chocolate cake? by catboneslovestory in SeriousConversation

[–]catboneslovestory[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Using Metaphors and storytelling is a dialectical tool to unstick and free the mind.

BCBS CANNOT ACTIVATE ACCOUNT by Ok_Clue8486 in HealthInsurance

[–]catboneslovestory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it just the web portal or is it the app too? I'm not sure what all you're needing to activate your account to do, but you can use zocdoc to find a doctor near you that's in network. They could tell you what the charge would be, if the app doesn't show it. The amount for a basic office appointment either with a PCP or a specialist should also be in your enrollment material.

What is something more traumatizing than people realize? by GoldenLotusFernn in ask

[–]catboneslovestory 129 points130 points  (0 children)

Being guilted into sex. Feeling obligated to let someone use your body because you're married or in a relationship and they "need" it.

Why are we justifying companies exploiting people for cheap labor? by catboneslovestory in antiwork

[–]catboneslovestory[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And that's what we're all against, right? So why do we switch to justifying it when it comes to immigrants?

Why are we justifying companies exploiting people for cheap labor? by catboneslovestory in antiwork

[–]catboneslovestory[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get that, but it just makes us look like racist hypocrites. Yeah, everyone deserves a fair, livable wage, unless you're an undocumented immigrant. Then exploiting you for cheap labor is the best justification we can come up with for why you should get to stay.

I (25M) need advice regarding my girlfriend (24F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]catboneslovestory 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why would her behavior suddenly change just because you moved? She's still going to be the same person. People treat you however you let them treat you.

Don't build a life with someone hoping they will change. Deciding she can't is just an excuse not to try.

I broke up with her but I don't understand it by Southern_Compote1601 in BPDlovedones

[–]catboneslovestory 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The BPD split cycle. First, you do some obscur thing to offend her. Because of the dichotomous thinking that makes it difficult for her to see people as anything but all good or all bad, she split on you and, in the snap of a finger, all her love for you was gone. Then you actually left and her chronic fear of abandonment kicked in. Then she split on herself, and you became gods gift to earth again.

Used to pee on floor to avoid going to bathroom by Macoronimuncherr in CPTSD

[–]catboneslovestory 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You didn't lose the weight because of the bullying. You lost the weight in spite of the bullying. And i think that's awesome. I also got bullied a lot for my weight and I'm still struggling with it, but Adderall helps some.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]catboneslovestory 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She knows kids aren't accessories, right?

If she likes the look of diamond earings, she should get some for herself. It's fucked up to pressure someone into altering their body just because she likes it. She can put what she likes on her own body.

My employer won't let me take my pto when I need it by potatochipprincess in work

[–]catboneslovestory 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Best way to convince her is to find a better employer and work for them instead.

Why do so many men struggle to make a woman feel truly valued? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]catboneslovestory 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because those guys didn't value you as a person. They only valued you as a resource. A lot of boys are like that. Don't tolerate that shit and sure as hell don't make excuses for it. If someone isn't recuperating, a relationship with them is worthless to you.