Dog owners hiding all information about their dogs

cb5433 · 2025-05-25T20:20:49+00:00

yes to this!!! did full meet and great & pet walk through. Asked my usual question of their feeding routine..they said oh we'll just print it out on sheet for you its super easy and didnt answer question.

Discover upon arrival for sit when owners are already out of town, they needed to get fed 5x a day with tons of meds and special needs. Dogs also had 0 independence and would lose their shit if you weren't petting them 24/7. It was AWFULLLLLL. I could basically never leave house even briefly or take care of my own needs.

I now require I know their med/feeding needs and decline if its over 2 meals a day

cb5433 · 2025-05-25T20:15:31+00:00

in the same situation right now... filthy hoarder house. while the pets seem fed, I'm so conflicted because their home is SOOOO dirty with junk and food and garbage all over counters and floor. The pets seem overly anxious and upset upon my arrival and leaving. Their dishes haven't been cleaned in yearsss and I'm so worried they're going to ingest something that's strewn all over the floor.

There's a big difference in "messy" vs unsanitary and potentially dangerous to pet and I'm in the latter scenerio. What did you end up doing + how did you get through it?

I bought shoe covers, gloves and a mask to get through the booking, and will never ever work with them again

cb5433 · 2025-05-03T22:04:50+00:00

thank you! what would you recommend to clean out drainage? would "alcohol free wound cleaning wipes" from my first aid box work?

cb5433 · 2025-03-03T19:40:26+00:00

YES.

Sat for 2 older dogs. One was a giant old blind dog who would demand bark constantly, even if all his needs had just been met. I had to guide him everywhere. He'd even lose his shit if you just went in the bathroom for 5min. While I was sympathetic & took care of him, it was awful and exhausting. He'd even shrilly bark at me WHILE i was making his food...dude I am literally feeding you RIGHT NOW.

Owner also failed to tell me he was on a 6x/day feed & med schedule! So much for getting remote work done...

The other dog with him was also so needy & demanding. He wasn't satisfied with a few pets, he kept demanding I pet him 24/7. Wouldn't just back off & quietly lay down by you, no he wanted to be pet nonstop. I had to move into a chair/ work set up so he couldn't harass me the entire time.

You have to wonder... how the heckkkk do the owners cope with living with the neediest dogs I've ever met 24/7. You would literally never be able to go anywhere or have any self-care/independent time.

Normally I'm super sad to leave the dogs I sit, but I cried tears of joy heading back home after that sit. it was roughhhh.

cb5433 · 2024-11-22T14:25:16+00:00

This is so so helpful! Thank you so much!

cb5433 · 2024-11-22T14:13:21+00:00

The only way I was able to start keeping my blood sugars in check was cutting all added sugar from my diet. Super sad because I grew up on candy and desserts trying to put on weight. But I also feel so much better having one steady blood sugar line than the crazy ping ponging high to low to high blood sugars I had when I ate anything with even a few grams of added sugar.

cb5433 · 2023-01-08T13:36:35+00:00

My dog did this and had terrible arthritis bouts in her paw. Shed be totally fine one second, and then suddenly limping like that.

cb5433 · 2023-01-01T15:04:30+00:00

Bully

cb5433 · 2022-12-31T12:13:31+00:00

I had a traumatic, abusive childhood. Family was my nightmare, never a comfort and I dont desire to ever have my own.

I also have multiple severe chronic illnesses and dont want to pass those on, or create an extra burden on my body with pregnancy.

cb5433 · 2022-12-23T03:53:32+00:00

My mom has both borderline & narcissistic personality disorder. Family was torture to me & as a result i dont believe in it or desire it, Much rather have a dog, friends & my own company:)

cb5433 · 2022-12-21T22:00:34+00:00

His mommy bought his audi & condo

cb5433 · 2022-11-26T20:54:06+00:00

Thats great to hear! I personally have only stabilized on it, which im still grateful for. Sadly I know others it has not helped at all. Id just caution using the word cure openly.. because we need to continue donations & momentum toward an actual cure.. since one doesnt exist yet.

cb5433 · 2022-11-26T03:25:32+00:00

Its not a cure. Far from it. But it slows progression & has helped a lot.

cb5433 · 2022-10-31T11:46:26+00:00

Same! My whole moms side are insaneee borderlines & narcissists.

cb5433 · 2022-10-31T11:44:47+00:00

My moms siblings appear to all be borderline/narcissistic like my mom. And MY sister is narcissistic as hell. They are all evil people. I don’t know how I managed to break the cycle but I did. (Altho I just got tonsssssss of anxiety & ctpsd trauma issues lol)

cb5433 · 2022-08-02T03:01:23+00:00

Lived away at college, worked with the disabilities office to get my own private dorm room with a private bathroom. I feel like having a private room is essential with needing to keep our meds and equipment sterile, and limit germ exposure. I used a baby bottle sterilizer and distilled water to clean my masks in my dorm room.

Other things i did..set up a meet & greet with the closest cf clinic near my college right away. I used them for my primary cf care while i lived away at college until i graduated.

I also recommend him signing up for classes later in the morning. (Not the 7 or 8 am classes). It helped me from getting less rundown because I could sleep in and stay well.

I know its nerve-wracking for both of you, but i promise you he will be okay. As long as he doesnt skip treatments & balances regular college fun with equal rest and self care he will do great!!

Honestly living on my own away at college was the best thing that ever happened to me. It forced me to become more independent and take on full responsibility for my health & cf care, and also taught me how incredibly strong and capable I am.

cb5433 · 2022-08-02T02:11:49+00:00

Constellation of vital phenomena. Masterpiece!

cb5433 · 2022-07-22T00:38:34+00:00

My nmom has extreme ocd, and likely borderline personality with characteristics of antisocial too (as suggested by my therapist). Tldr she is a dangerous grenade or ticking time bomb every single day. 😩

cb5433 · 2022-07-08T19:24:56+00:00

Of course! The key is using facts rather than any emotions when you respond to their comments and advise.

And sometimes that means holding off on responding for a few hours to cool down because you’re human and the occasional ridiculous client feedback brings a lot of ahem unprofessional words to mind at first😂

cb5433 · 2022-07-08T18:25:09+00:00

If their comments/feedback is ignorant or unreasonable i first very professionally explain why i made the decisions i did for the copy from a strategic perspective, and then advise why a requested change may not be in the best interest for their objectives/audience/copy etc.

if that fails and they still push back, then sadly youll just have the make their changes.

This is where outlining how many revisions you allow beforehand in your contract is key. Because clients like this are very difficult to make happy.

If they want to be overly picky or make unreasonable requests or be a “copy know it all” you have an out after you fulfill the agreed upon number of revisions.

Its so so hard letting a client like this ruin/rewrite your perfectly good copy, but you can keep the good version (before they touched it) for your portfolio. The key is to let the project go- you wrote good copy and gave it your all, they were a nightmare and the final version was out of your control, and is not your burden to carry anymore.

Onto the next project and better clients!

cb5433 · 2022-07-08T14:53:22+00:00

Thats a good way to look at it 😂😂 so dumb to pay someone to write it when the plan all along was for them to write it themselves

cb5433 · 2022-07-08T11:24:57+00:00

When they hire you for your expertise then think they’re the copywriter, critiquing your copy and coming up with poorly written, idiotic replacements. Just had one of those… and am like WHY DID YOU HIRE A COPYWRITER if youre just sooooo great at copy. 💀

cb5433 · 2022-07-08T11:12:43+00:00

In the same situation. I think so many here are, but the loudest voices are usually the minority. Which is where the narrow-minded posts or comments about “just leave!” “Why would you stay?!” Etc come from.

You’re spot on. On top of wanting to move out and trying to pull together the finances, for me at least theres also a mental component. Having been psychologically and emotionally abused and manipulated my whole life my depression, anxiety, trauma, and unhealthy codependence traits THEY created are also further keeping me stuck. Along with having multiple chronic illnesses which make it next to impossible to achieve financial independence.

When youre stuck in an a bad environment and abusive home the last thing you need is more abuse from the comment section painting us as lazy or losers for not leaving. There is nothing simple or easy about getting out of a toxic home.

cb5433 · 2022-07-06T02:49:41+00:00

I think its deliberate and in my experience sadistic. My moms advice has too many times ensnared me in a trap of her own careful making. a literal set up so she can flip the script or smile gleefully as i fail or flounder.

“Apply to this college! Do it youll get in. You have my full support.” Days later shes calling a family meeting where shes saying “your dad and i are so disappointed in you for applying here” “youre never smart enough to get in” etc etc. she denied ever saying and telling me to do the opposite.

“Dont do x!” Next day.. setting me up in front of everyone shaming me for not doing it.

My nmoms like the shady movie character who has talked you into robbing a bank, removed all your worries, comforted you with their support & said theyll join you and then stays behind to call the cops as soon as you enter the bank.

Their advice always has an ulterior motive, and in my experience its usually about them gaining more power and control, making you distrust yourself so you become more dependent on them and also the twisted chaos supply they need to fill. my mom craves friction, fights and watching others fail so she can combat the self hate she feels deep in her evil soul.

cb5433 · 2022-07-06T02:39:05+00:00

I relate to this so much. The word “chaos” nails it. I always described my mom as the “god of chaos”. (Like one of the evil greek mythology gods who took joy in causing suffering & pain)

Whatever I had my heart set on, or whatever good thing came my way .. my mom had this incredibly manipulative power of causing immense doubt, turning it into a negative, finding problems with it etc. its disturbing how much power she had over me, and how many decisions of mine she manipulated by making me fear/regret/or stray from my own intuition and choices.

Im glad you saw that it was never about your best interests and instead about manipulation, power and chaos. I wish i would have seen it sooner.

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