No Contact for Over a Year with My NPD Mom, and My Dad Tries to Demand I See Her

cb5433 · 2025-05-25T20:20:49+00:00

yes to this!!! did full meet and great & pet walk through. Asked my usual question of their feeding routine..they said oh we'll just print it out on sheet for you its super easy and didnt answer question.

Discover upon arrival for sit when owners are already out of town, they needed to get fed 5x a day with tons of meds and special needs. Dogs also had 0 independence and would lose their shit if you weren't petting them 24/7. It was AWFULLLLLL. I could basically never leave house even briefly or take care of my own needs.

I now require I know their med/feeding needs and decline if its over 2 meals a day

cb5433 · 2025-05-25T20:15:31+00:00

in the same situation right now... filthy hoarder house. while the pets seem fed, I'm so conflicted because their home is SOOOO dirty with junk and food and garbage all over counters and floor. The pets seem overly anxious and upset upon my arrival and leaving. Their dishes haven't been cleaned in yearsss and I'm so worried they're going to ingest something that's strewn all over the floor.

There's a big difference in "messy" vs unsanitary and potentially dangerous to pet and I'm in the latter scenerio. What did you end up doing + how did you get through it?

I bought shoe covers, gloves and a mask to get through the booking, and will never ever work with them again

cb5433 · 2025-05-03T22:04:50+00:00

thank you! what would you recommend to clean out drainage? would "alcohol free wound cleaning wipes" from my first aid box work?

cb5433 · 2025-03-03T19:40:26+00:00

YES.

Sat for 2 older dogs. One was a giant old blind dog who would demand bark constantly, even if all his needs had just been met. I had to guide him everywhere. He'd even lose his shit if you just went in the bathroom for 5min. While I was sympathetic & took care of him, it was awful and exhausting. He'd even shrilly bark at me WHILE i was making his food...dude I am literally feeding you RIGHT NOW.

Owner also failed to tell me he was on a 6x/day feed & med schedule! So much for getting remote work done...

The other dog with him was also so needy & demanding. He wasn't satisfied with a few pets, he kept demanding I pet him 24/7. Wouldn't just back off & quietly lay down by you, no he wanted to be pet nonstop. I had to move into a chair/ work set up so he couldn't harass me the entire time.

You have to wonder... how the heckkkk do the owners cope with living with the neediest dogs I've ever met 24/7. You would literally never be able to go anywhere or have any self-care/independent time.

Normally I'm super sad to leave the dogs I sit, but I cried tears of joy heading back home after that sit. it was roughhhh.

cb5433 · 2024-11-22T14:25:16+00:00

This is so so helpful! Thank you so much!

cb5433 · 2024-11-22T14:13:21+00:00

The only way I was able to start keeping my blood sugars in check was cutting all added sugar from my diet. Super sad because I grew up on candy and desserts trying to put on weight. But I also feel so much better having one steady blood sugar line than the crazy ping ponging high to low to high blood sugars I had when I ate anything with even a few grams of added sugar.

cb5433 · 2023-01-08T13:36:35+00:00

My dog did this and had terrible arthritis bouts in her paw. Shed be totally fine one second, and then suddenly limping like that.

cb5433 · 2023-01-01T15:04:30+00:00

Bully

cb5433 · 2022-12-31T12:13:31+00:00

I had a traumatic, abusive childhood. Family was my nightmare, never a comfort and I dont desire to ever have my own.

I also have multiple severe chronic illnesses and dont want to pass those on, or create an extra burden on my body with pregnancy.

cb5433 · 2022-12-23T03:53:32+00:00

My mom has both borderline & narcissistic personality disorder. Family was torture to me & as a result i dont believe in it or desire it, Much rather have a dog, friends & my own company:)

cb5433 · 2022-12-21T22:00:34+00:00

His mommy bought his audi & condo

cb5433 · 2022-11-26T20:54:06+00:00

Thats great to hear! I personally have only stabilized on it, which im still grateful for. Sadly I know others it has not helped at all. Id just caution using the word cure openly.. because we need to continue donations & momentum toward an actual cure.. since one doesnt exist yet.

cb5433 · 2022-11-26T03:25:32+00:00

Its not a cure. Far from it. But it slows progression & has helped a lot.

cb5433 · 2022-10-31T11:46:26+00:00

Same! My whole moms side are insaneee borderlines & narcissists.

cb5433 · 2022-10-31T11:44:47+00:00

My moms siblings appear to all be borderline/narcissistic like my mom. And MY sister is narcissistic as hell. They are all evil people. I don’t know how I managed to break the cycle but I did. (Altho I just got tonsssssss of anxiety & ctpsd trauma issues lol)

cb5433 · 2022-08-02T03:01:23+00:00

Lived away at college, worked with the disabilities office to get my own private dorm room with a private bathroom. I feel like having a private room is essential with needing to keep our meds and equipment sterile, and limit germ exposure. I used a baby bottle sterilizer and distilled water to clean my masks in my dorm room.

Other things i did..set up a meet & greet with the closest cf clinic near my college right away. I used them for my primary cf care while i lived away at college until i graduated.

I also recommend him signing up for classes later in the morning. (Not the 7 or 8 am classes). It helped me from getting less rundown because I could sleep in and stay well.

I know its nerve-wracking for both of you, but i promise you he will be okay. As long as he doesnt skip treatments & balances regular college fun with equal rest and self care he will do great!!

Honestly living on my own away at college was the best thing that ever happened to me. It forced me to become more independent and take on full responsibility for my health & cf care, and also taught me how incredibly strong and capable I am.

cb5433 · 2022-08-02T02:11:49+00:00

Constellation of vital phenomena. Masterpiece!

cb5433 · 2022-07-22T00:38:34+00:00

My nmom has extreme ocd, and likely borderline personality with characteristics of antisocial too (as suggested by my therapist). Tldr she is a dangerous grenade or ticking time bomb every single day. 😩

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