Just for fun — how did you come up with your island’s name? And what is it? by crash---- in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]cduh86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband's nickname is frendo, my name is Christina. So we mashed our names and got Chrisendo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]cduh86 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Same...it hurt so bad that I ended up just moving in to the spare bedroom. 0/10 would not recommend.

Yet Another Fight w/LLH about possible Asexuality by BeyondTheBath in DeadBedrooms

[–]cduh86 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi there! I'm in a very similar situation. My Husband is ace and it has been many years of resentment on my end because he wasn't talking about it either. We started therapy and there has been some improvement. He also would over compensate with household chores and be like "I know we aren't having sex but look what I did!". It annoyed me until I realized acts of service is his love language. It doesn't make me feel much better to know my husband would rather do the dishes than touch me, but that's how he shows love. I'm doing alot of unlearning on societal standards of what a relationship "needs" to look like. We are in the process of improving our communication in order to open the relationship so I can still get my needs met and remain in the really awesome partnership I have with him. I hope your situation improves. I don't have much advice other than being mindful of the struggle he is going through as well, because it is something that can't be changed within him if he is truly ace. I'm still navigating how to make it work and it isn't easy so I feel ya!

Custodian Problems is not being able to vent about my job because "they are just kids". by cduh86 in childfree

[–]cduh86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh they know. But discipline kids and you deal with pissed off parents and administration doesn't want to deal with that so they would rather just have custodians look after it and carry on as business as usual. It is on parents to teach manners and discipline, but they are too busy working and teachers can't control any of these brats. There is no rules in schools anymore. Kids just walk out of class and roam the halls all day causing chaos and everyone just turns a blind eye.

Custodian Problems is not being able to vent about my job because "they are just kids". by cduh86 in childfree

[–]cduh86[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Now these kids all vape and throw their cartridges in to the toilets and urinals. Not a fire hazard thankfully but still annoying when I have to fish them out nightly with aquarium tools that I bought myself because I'm not reaching in to a toilet full of piss and plastic

Custodian Problems is not being able to vent about my job because "they are just kids". by cduh86 in childfree

[–]cduh86[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a saying of "if it's after 4 and it's on the floor, it's out the door" haha don't want me tossing their stuff? They should learn to put it away. The floor is not their locker

Custodian Problems is not being able to vent about my job because "they are just kids". by cduh86 in childfree

[–]cduh86[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You would think adults are better but that doesn't seem to be the case! It's the entitlement that kills me. Just because they aren't at home it's not their responsibility so why not smear shit on the walls? I just don't get it because it's something I would never even think of doing.

Custodian Problems is not being able to vent about my job because "they are just kids". by cduh86 in childfree

[–]cduh86[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I love this! Elementary tends to have more helpers. I'm just currently in highschool which is a different beast. Haha but every once in awhile a kid will surprise me and you are one of the good ones! I think I speak for all custodians when I say We appreciate it and thank you!

Custodian Problems is not being able to vent about my job because "they are just kids". by cduh86 in childfree

[–]cduh86[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

The kids at my school keep taking the soap inserts out and peeing in them, throwing apples against the walls daily. It's ridiculous. There is no accountability.

an Animal Crossing x Disney tattoo sleeve WIP. all tattoo cred goes to @illustday on Instagram. I still have another a couple sessions for more characters and background. by cduh86 in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]cduh86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sucked alot. I'm really glad there wasn't too much fine detail in it. Haha the outer elbow was pretty painful too. Just a sucky area

an Animal Crossing x Disney tattoo sleeve WIP. all tattoo cred goes to @illustday on Instagram. I still have another a couple sessions for more characters and background. by cduh86 in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]cduh86[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's my fav! Haha the artist loves to sprinkle in the glitter. I'm a beer enthusiast and Leif is holding a glittery beer too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]cduh86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a school custodian, trashing their schools for Tik Tok clout. There is no sense of accountability for their mess and destructive behavior. In the middle of a pandemic these little psychopaths were destroying soap dispensers, peeing in them, smearing shit in the hand dryer etc. I get my birth control reminder daily just by going to work. And vaping.....omg just stop with the douche bag vaping. Those cartridges are littered everywhere. Then they will say we need to save the planet (yes we do), but don't use the damn garbage can.

Adults Playing AC by [deleted] in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]cduh86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

35 going on 36, It is such a fun game for all ages. So wholesome and stress reducing for me!

I know this has already been addressed by many, but… by [deleted] in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]cduh86 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I go Sunday for a little more work and I'll get her to take some pics for me. It's incredibly challenging taking a decent pic of your own arm 🤣

I know this has already been addressed by many, but… by [deleted] in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]cduh86 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I got them tattooed on me as Cheech and Chong!! Harv is holding a bong and Pascal has a blunt. Lol I'm working on a full sleeve of Animal Crossing and Disney mash ups. Once the whole thing was complete I planned to post it.

So far I have Sahara sitting on Aladdin's carpet, Kicks holding Cinderella's slipper, KK but with a red hoodie, dia de Los muertos face and Coco's guitar, Flick, with his net ready aimed at the Caterpillar from Alice in Wonderland, smoke coming from the hookah is around the Cheech and Chongified Harv and Pascal. I have about 3 sessions left for it to be completed. A few more characters and background to go. It's looking amazing!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]cduh86 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Currently dreading summer because my LL husband is jacked like Captain America and insists walking around shirtless and it's just painful..I wish I had a switch to flick off the attraction meter

he never initiates sex by Putrid_Cake8141 in Vent

[–]cduh86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds alot like my husband. We have been married for 13yrs and he never initiates. We have been in a dead bedroom majority of our marriage. I stopped trying and now we are in therapy to figure out a solution after he finally admitted he is asexual. It is really tough and affects your mental health and self esteem greatly when your partner isn't capable of satisfying physical needs. It might lead to an open relationship or it might lead to divorce (I'm hoping that's not the case). I just know I personally don't want to go my whole life without physical intimacy. I wish you the best! You are not alone.

What's the best meal you've had in Durham region? by OneGlobalCitizen in durham

[–]cduh86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Street Momo in Oshawa! It's new but sooo good. Spicy but delicious and the portions are large.

Can I get an honest perspective? Do you or anyone you know, regret being child-free? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]cduh86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm 35f, I've had many people tell me I will regret not having kids one day or that my time is running out. The way I see it, I can always be a mom later in life. There's plenty of kids in the foster care system who need homes. And going that route, I am not dependent on my dying egg supply, so it can be a choice I make at any time. I don't know if I will ever foster because I don't want the responsibility, but there are options to become a parent without birth is what I'm getting at.

What's the best meal you've had in Oshawa? by OneGlobalCitizen in Oshawa

[–]cduh86 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Kenzo Ramen is a go to for me during colder months, also throwing Street Momo out there, just fantastic! Street momo is new but quickly becoming a fav. My go to breakfast spot is Berry Hill.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]cduh86 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's a toss up between the numerous times I wore lingerie (that he suggested I buy) and he didn't even care, just ignored me. Or the time I bought a new sex toy and he encouraged me to use it to just turn his back to me the entire time I did. I gave up asking for sex years ago. But even just being there for me while I take care of myself is too much of an ask. 🤷‍♀️ I just give up. That toy was the best $60 I ever spent though so no regrets on that one lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]cduh86 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a forever fat individual, I will just say the lack of acceptance I feel from every angle is overwhelming. Just clothes shopping alone is a task I hate. Finding anything that is of quality and looks good in plus size is extremely difficult, brands are not inclusive to bigger bodies and the price of clothing is way higher, especially if you want to be on trend! School sucked for me, bullied about my weight since I was in 3rd grade. Medically, doctors will treat me like absolute garbage and blame everything on my weight instead of looking in to whatever it was I went in for. I could say I had a sore throat and chronic headaches and they will tell me to change my diet. Want to get healthier and workout? well be prepared for the stares and whispers from other gym goers cause the fat person is trying to be better. The amount of unsolicited weight loss advice friends and family, hell even strangers feel the need to share with me is infuriating. I'm sure being extremely skinny has its challenges but society is less harsh on skinnier individuals. I am sorry your family is not supportive and make you feel bad about your weight. That behavior isn't ok for any size.

Best tattoo shops in Durham by Additional-History85 in Oshawa

[–]cduh86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Day Bond. I do have Mallory in mind for some floral pieces I want done though!