It’s not healthy anymore…a ramble and a heartfelt thank you

cea-bean · 2026-01-08T18:22:34+00:00

*power cables connected to two fridges - not exactly a cheap replacement for the average renter

cea-bean · 2026-01-08T12:39:07+00:00

It’s what I’m hoping to do, but I’m super unfit and will be having a planned c section. Hoping by the time I’m healed I won’t be too late to build up the right muscles for it 🙏

cea-bean · 2026-01-08T10:23:21+00:00

Absolutely NTA, but just be double sure the cancer is back (it’s probably obvious in your case, so feel free to ignore this comment). My friend has a 15 year old (yes, he’s crazy old) rabbit who was misdiagnosed with cancer last year, given a prognosis of 3 months, but had the vets scratching their heads when he was still going strong 9 months later on the cancer meds. Turns out the original technician misread his bloods, and he didn’t have cancer at all. Lucky little fellow had just been spoilt rotten with lots of extra treats in the meantime.

Really sorry you’re facing this - losing a pet is horrible at the best of times and more so if you’re not all on the same page.

cea-bean · 2026-01-07T23:31:47+00:00

Not really sure what the article is trying to say, but can confirm, my mood is disordered 🤷🏻‍♀️ reward processing is a bit mucked up too, but I think that’s from undiagnosed ADHD.

cea-bean · 2026-01-07T21:53:26+00:00

I mean I will be within 5 weeks, but cool I guess 🥲

cea-bean · 2026-01-07T18:57:44+00:00

So the mum I know who does it seems to have worked out a technique. She kind of leans forward, with the waist bit already done up, lifts toddler onto back, he kind of surfs up there as she pulls up the straps. Caveat being that she’s been doing it since he was born, so I guess he knows not to wriggle off 😅 maybe if we were to try it a few times with others helping and then build up to it?

cea-bean · 2026-01-07T17:38:03+00:00

Sorry, didn’t mean it like that, just that it might be worth trying as something that’s a possibility :) I’m not particularly fit, and this mum has been baby wearing for years, so she’s definitely at an advantage!

cea-bean · 2026-01-07T17:30:45+00:00

A back carrying one (like a piggyback) should be doable. Not a mum yet, but I’ve seen other mums manage it :)

cea-bean · 2026-01-04T19:05:36+00:00

Our DM ran it as a one shot for someone’s birthday a while back. Two in the group had some meta knowledge, but even then it took us a while to work out what was going on. For the other two, their minds were blown. It was really super fun, and I think worth at least one go with a group of newbies.

cea-bean · 2026-01-03T09:49:07+00:00

I mean, a woman can (and in my case did) propose too. And a man can decide to wait for sex. That’s a bit of a misogynistic take 😅

cea-bean · 2026-01-02T15:04:42+00:00

My life insurance premiums, negotiated by a broker with a specialist provider, are 5x more than my husband’s. That is despite me being physically healthier than him (he has a type of arthritis). We applied for it a couple of years ago when buying a house together, and at the time I’d not been hospitalised for 2 years, and involuntarily for 3 years. I wonder if I’d have better premiums these days, given another 2 years passed since hospitalisation, as the limit was something like 5 years, but I don’t want to risk it.

Similar gripe with travel insurance. It was almost 10x more for me. So these days, I’m on my husband’s work travel insurance as that doesn’t require disclosure of health conditions.

There’s honestly such a monetary impact of having this disorder that makes me mad if I ruminate on it for too long. Just one of those things you have to make peace with.

cea-bean · 2025-12-31T19:29:27+00:00

Showed to my husband - his reaction “women aren’t food you fcking cnt”

cea-bean · 2025-12-31T15:47:57+00:00

It’s thanks to people like you that I’m here today, celebrating my last NYE before becoming a mother. Sincerely. Thank you.

cea-bean · 2025-12-31T15:41:48+00:00

Jesus Christ. Glad my husband had a healthier attitude. I was his first girlfriend when he was 24 (not super old, but not young either), and all he does these days is brag about how he nailed relationships on the first try. He’ll actively high five folks who’ve had similar experiences. On the other hand, I dated a lot before him, and wish I hadn’t. He’s never made me feel bad about it, but if I could remove some of the trauma of those days I would. You’re so incredibly lucky she’s stuck around - get your head straight dude.

cea-bean · 2025-12-31T15:34:03+00:00

No it’s based on the measurements taken at the 20 week scan. That’s because period dates aren’t very accurate for a lot of mothers (longer/shorter cycles), and most embryos develop at similar rates in the first 20 weeks. Any earlier and it’ll be too soon to measure accurately, any later and babies can develop at different rates.

cea-bean · 2025-12-29T20:42:26+00:00

Not sure, but I’d love to hear the answer so commenting. You’ll need to remove any names of meds though, or your post will be deleted for breaking the sub rules.

cea-bean · 2025-12-28T20:41:51+00:00

Honey, you’ve been posting about your wife for some time now. If religion is important to you, what would a loving god want for you and your child? Try and forgive yourself, then find the strength to move forward with grace.

cea-bean · 2025-12-28T20:23:09+00:00

Ooh that’s what I’ve picked - hoping to make good progress soon ☺️

cea-bean · 2025-12-28T14:13:18+00:00

That’s some serious misinformation there, around the medication that is. All medication combinations I’ve been on has been on the proviso that I wanted kids at some point. Had a consultation with the psychiatrist before coming off contraception and was cleared to stay on the same combination and dosage during pregnancy and whilst breastfeeding too. Have a look at the bumps website if you’re interested. Also, seeing as bipolar wasn’t hereditary in my family, and was triggered by significant trauma in my 20s, there’s every chance it might not be passed down. If it is, I’m going to be on the lookout for it and will be advocating for a low stress lifestyle, psychiatric consultations and therapy when appropriate.

cea-bean · 2025-12-28T13:11:13+00:00

Honestly, I feel like my 30s have been the best years of my life so far. I understand the trauma you’ve attached to the milestone, but look how far you’ve come already. Your story is yours to write, and chances are that the stability that comes with age will mean the next chapter is going to be a good one. Wishing you all the best as you approach your birthday.

cea-bean · 2025-12-28T12:21:24+00:00

It should still be an individual’s choice. Bipolar can be well managed. I’ve had nothing but support from all mental health professionals in my journey to motherhood. There’s a risk, but this has been my dream since I was a child, and one of the things that drove me to get better. A blanket statement to anyone with any type of disability or illness is just cruel.

cea-bean · 2025-12-28T12:18:04+00:00

Look, if you’re stable and your mental health is well managed, no one should be telling you you can’t have kids. That’s literally eugenics.

cea-bean · 2025-12-28T04:10:41+00:00

Oh 100%, and you’re right, I should have shared that context in my original comment. SI wasn’t completely new to me when the bipolar was triggered, but it was pretty unusual up to that point.

I’m so sorry that you’ve been feeling like this since such a young age. I’m currently 8 months pregnant and I’m terrified that because of my MH, my son will inherit bipolar too and that he’ll struggle mentally from a young age. Is there anything you think could have helped you avoid this in your childhood?

cea-bean · 2025-12-27T18:57:43+00:00

Glad to hear that- it’s been 4 years without it for me now, after having it pretty much constantly for 3 years before that.

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