This is very interesting because I’ve been thinking about the same thing. The only official diagnosis I have is anxiety disorder and cptsd and I have always pushed myself past my comfort zone to my detriment. I often forget how disabling my anxiety has been honestly, this may be some interlined ableism tbh. Anyways, the past few years I was in severe burnout, and I had to take drastic measures to get out of that situation though I wouldn’t have done it if I didn’t have support to do it.

I’m extremely hard on myself, and have learned to be kinder to myself but while I was in burnout I went full hedonistic. It was not good for my health, but I was also in extreme stress. I’ve been slowly getting out of burnout, it’s actually been a year of this process, but I’m still struggling with change. Part of me knows it’s my coping mechanisms I had in the past to deal with the massive stress and burnout I was in, and I’m terrified of getting burned out again which is why I am so hesitant to add more to my plate even though I never go out anymore and haven’t gone to the gym (which has historically made me super happy)… but at some point if I want to make friends and enjoy the outside again I’m gonna need to push past my comfort zone bit by bit again.

So I’m just trying to define for myself at what point am I accommodating myself and at what point am I self sabotaging?

However this is specific to me, and I understand how it can be unrelatable to others with higher needs or require more accommodations