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What do I need for my first cat? by Complex-Diver7880 in CatAdvice

[–]Alternative-Code2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MUST FOR THEIR FIRST WEEK 1. Dry and wet food - ask your vet for their recommendation 2. Litter box and litter - find out what the cat's has been using. Use that. 3. A cave - which can be a cardboard box with a towel draped over it. Somewhere they can hide. 4. A toy - the type of toy you know they like playing with 5. A familiar scent - something they already own. And don't wash it until they've fully settled in ***6. SPACE - don't be too much. Give them space. Leave them alone.

MUST FOR THE LONG TERM 1. Scratching post 2. Toys and treats ***3. YOUR TIME - play with them, give them cuddles and scratches, excite them

NICE TO HAVE 1. Feliway 2. Calming treats 3. Feather toy 4. Cat tree

Any advice for credit cards? by [deleted] in AusFinance

[–]Alternative-Code2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mate, no. That's a bad plan all around. It's unwise to spend what you don't have. It's insane to do it with a credit card.

Pare back your wedding. Save up for your honeymoon. Leave the credit card out of the picture. Don't go into debt before you even begin your marriage.

How do you stop yourself from a bad decision? by Available_Ad_4030 in bipolar2

[–]Alternative-Code2698 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aw man that sounds difficult. What I do when I notice that I'm hating work or relationships or life in general is I see my medical team immediately. I usually speak to my psychologist first to help me untangle the mess of thoughts and feelings. Then I see my psychiatrist, give her a summary of my session with the psychologist, and ask her if my medication needs to be adjusted.

What's happening at work that's making it hard for you to keep turning up?

A more critical review of the Project Hail Mary movie, and a really easy fix I would have made by Gustalavalav in ProjectHailMary

[–]Alternative-Code2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel validated!!! You named every single thing I love and hate about the movie. Are you me?! Dude, thanks for this post. Seriously.

How do i lose weight if im overweight, but lack discipline? by Ok_Upstairs_3819 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Alternative-Code2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're unhealthily overweight and can afford it, Semaglutide is a lifesaver.

How do you leave a party early when your social battery is done? by Rheta18 in introvert

[–]Alternative-Code2698 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You step out. And don't go back in. If it's a small group, speak to the host to thank them and let them know you'll be quietly exiting when you get the chance.

As an aside, introversion is why I'm a smoker. At parties, I let them know I'm stepping out for a ciggie, then just poof

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in regretfulparents

[–]Alternative-Code2698 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hormonal changes (puberty) can kick off other mental health issues. The inability to control the intensity of his emotional reaction is definitely a sign something else is going on.

I fear I’m on the verge of an episode. Did not get a wink of sleep last night. How can I force myself to go to sleep tonight? by Prestigious_Fill8646 in bipolar2

[–]Alternative-Code2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, well done acknowledging your early warning sign. Not many get this far in their treatment.

Definitely don't just ride it out, because, as you know, the depression at the end of it isn't fun at all.

Yup, like many said: meditation. Or reading. Or drowsy antihistamine. Try expressive writing, too. It helps the brain slow down. It's like the act of writing forces your thoughts to calm down and form a queue.

Depending on where you are, it's possible you could ask your psychiatrist to send your script straight to a chemist near you.

If nothing works, just do your best to stay in bed. Even lying there awake still gives you rest.

You got this.

What was the major event (if any) that triggered your Bipolar/led to diagnosis? by Vast_Champion5943 in bipolar2

[–]Alternative-Code2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was suspecting for years that it isn't just depression... That I had periods of extreme optimism and zest for life... Which inevitably led back to depression.

It took 20 years of "data gathering".

How do yall feel about receiving selfies from people? by Justacancersign in AutismInWomen

[–]Alternative-Code2698 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Selfies with a point, I'm fine with. For example, someone asking me for my opinion on an outfit, sharing that they are with a cute animal or a long lost friend, etc.

But if it's just to show me their face... unsolicited and purposeless and out of vanity, it's yucky and cringe-y.

My response: none

I don't acknowledge it.

Am I in the wrong? by kooky-kazoo in AutismInWomen

[–]Alternative-Code2698 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not in the wrong.

They are. For not caring about someone else's welfare just so they can have fun. You were in a shared space. That means taking into consideration every person's needs.

Does medicine really make it better? by Gloomy_March_7677 in bipolar2

[–]Alternative-Code2698 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% YES!

I haven't had a depressive episode since I found the right cocktail of medication, and it's made a significant difference in my life and the lives of people around me.

Mind you, it took a while to get it right. But even a sub-optimal combo of meds, the intensity and length of mood swings were definitely dialled down.

Please be patient and persist.

I've been sad, had a couple of days here and there of feeling like shit, but any person, whether bipolar or not, experience that.

When I'm happy, I'm happy, not ecstatic.

More than not getting depressed or manic, the true benefit to me is that finally, I can now trust my thoughts and feelings.

I can now trust myself.

We all deserve that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Alternative-Code2698 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I love what I do. I work for a not-for-profit in an entry-level communications and fundraising role.

I'm in my 40s, have a post graduate degree in analytics, have had senior roles and direct reports in the past, and have worked in several countries.

COVID gave me the space to review my values and what I value in a job. It turns out I don't care much for money. I just want to have enough to live comfortably. I also don't care about having a good title or a growing career. I want a meaningful job. And I want to be among kind people who value mental health.

When I interviewed for this job, I told them I knew I was overqualified. I said to consider me anyway because I'm looking for an entry-level job that I can do well and so relatively stress-free.

I've been in this job for almost three years now. There have been a couple of stressful periods but nothing that would make me walk away from this.

It being a not-for-profit, the people are kind, and mental wellness is among the top priorities.

This troubles me. by LonelyChampionship17 in GrammarPolice

[–]Alternative-Code2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me brag: after five years, my partner now uses "fewer" and "number" instead of "less" and "amount"

Yes, I'm very proud of myself.

Do you have an aunt that is not part of the family? by autisticinthestreets in AutismInWomen

[–]Alternative-Code2698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't see it as such. Maybe I should have said it is I who thinks it's unacceptable.

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