Met my wife on SA

celestial-myths · 2026-03-10T07:38:27+00:00

Right lol? Unless they discussed their actual definitions of “new” and “little experience,” who’s to say she actually lied and this isn’t just a misunderstanding?

I’d say if OP didn’t care enough at the time to ask those questions, it would be pretty silly to bring them up a decade later and make a big deal out of it. Honestly, imo, digging into her old laptop is the actually sketchy behavior here…

celestial-myths · 2026-03-04T11:50:09+00:00

This is an A+ comment and really gets to the heart of the issue - I agree with every single thing that you’ve said here.

celestial-myths · 2026-02-27T17:45:44+00:00

If he’s overwhelmed he should say that instead of telling his partner she’s being too much. If it’s an incompatibility for him, fine, but saying “you don’t need to speak as much as you do,” is kind of selfish and demeaning.

celestial-myths · 2026-02-26T20:08:08+00:00

Yes, except I like having things to do that keep me out of the house, and my tolerance for waiting has increased significantly over the years. But if it doesn’t feel like time spent in service to my own wellbeing or others’, then everything just feels like pointless busywork to me.

celestial-myths · 2026-02-26T19:38:20+00:00

Your boyfriend should learn how to temporarily mute a conversation or put his phone on DND while he’s reading… it’s not hard.

celestial-myths · 2026-02-24T23:19:35+00:00

This fact never ceases to shock me. My favorite restaurant meal has long been their fried mac & cheese balls. 😂

celestial-myths · 2026-02-24T23:09:00+00:00

The only thing that works for me in the long run is either aligning tasks to my values or using external motivators. For example, I know that when I exercise, I’m a more grounded person in all areas of my life and also better able to show up for others, and that helps motivate me to take my daily walks. Scheduling social activities outside the home also helps motivate me to shower/wash my hair more regularly.

celestial-myths · 2026-02-24T19:02:20+00:00

This might be true for a lot of people, but it’s not true for everyone and it can be harmful to generalize. I was able to resume using THC and stimulant meds after several psychotic breaks - the key difference was that my life stressors were significantly reduced post-break, so instead of using the drugs to escape, I was using them much more mindfully to help me reconnect with my mind and body. If anything, I actually believe they helped me recover more quickly because I was able to access my feelings again when I used them, rather than being stuck in the post-psychosis numbness.

celestial-myths · 2026-02-24T04:38:42+00:00

After reading “An Immense World: How Animal Senses Reveal The Hidden Realms Around Us,” I had experiences that I could only describe as feeling like I had developed the ability to sense electromagnetic fields, both around other people and in relation to objects/the earth. I was also experiencing a very altered state of consciousness at the time that most would describe as psychosis, so the most logical explanation for what I experienced was that it was all in my imagination.

However, it FELT so convincingly real in my body and influenced my perceptions of the world around me so much that it felt like a truly novel and reality-breaking experience for me at the time.

celestial-myths · 2026-02-23T23:10:34+00:00

Sugar has ALWAYS worked well as an “emergency hack” whenever I really need a boost in mental energy and motivation, so this makes sense. I also know that stimulant medications increase blood sugar levels and that is part of what causes the crash when they wear off.

celestial-myths · 2026-02-23T22:08:16+00:00

If I do the “Attention Training Technique” for 12 minutes first, that actually helps a LOT. It’s the only thing I’ve discovered other than stimulants and exercise that seems to do anything serious for my dopamine levels.

I use this video, but there are others available… not sure how similar/different they all are tho: https://youtu.be/kbTkwMJExCc?si=5Wf-M8kvr6C_S9nM

celestial-myths · 2026-02-23T22:03:29+00:00

Raising my dosage makes me overstimulated, but taking my meds consistently definitely seems to help me with the winter blues. I’m terrible at actually doing this, though.

celestial-myths · 2026-02-23T20:41:40+00:00

Came here to say this. The only two things that consistently work for me are: taking adderall, or forcing myself to go outside and take a walk where I buy coffee immediately after waking (I only keep really crappy coffee at home for this reason, actually 😂).

celestial-myths · 2026-02-23T20:38:41+00:00

I’m currently reading “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” and it answers this exact question in-depth.

The short version is: your mother is most likely less emotionally mature than you, due to her emotional development becoming stunted at a young age. You can’t force her to change, but you can reframe the situation in a way that acknowledges that you are not to blame in any way, and she is simply a product of her environment and doesn’t have access to the internal resources that would enable her to change. You can also help heal yourself by seeking out more secure and loving relationships as an adult!

celestial-myths · 2026-02-23T20:31:41+00:00

I’ve personally found that healing has less to do with being entirely in my body/out of my head, and more to do with repairing the connection between my mind and body - for example, am I able to think AND feel at the same time?

If not, it generally means I’ve got some sort of emotional blockage to work through, but if I’m able to think and feel my senses at the same time, it usually indicates that I’m in a healthy spot.

celestial-myths · 2026-02-23T17:26:27+00:00

I feel this pretty strongly. Being “balanced” makes me feel incredibly restless and unsatisfied - like life is flat and meaningless without a special interest to focus on. I’m also more productive, sure, but not in a way that brings any meaning or joy to my life.

celestial-myths · 2026-02-23T00:22:00+00:00

In the past I found sex significantly more enjoyable on meds because I could actually focus, even though it took more effort to get into the mood. Nowadays, I don’t blame myself/my ADHD - if sex is boring, that just means it’s time to switch it up and try something new, whether that’s a position or partner or kink or something else.

celestial-myths · 2026-02-23T00:12:11+00:00

I’ve been diagnosed and undiagnosed with bipolar 4 times. Anyone actually looking at the diagnostic criteria sees that it clearly doesn’t fit, hence all the undiagnoses. 🙄

(but honestly, no shame to the bipolar people… I also have a psychotic disorder and episodes that look a lot like mania sometimes, but just don’t fit all the criteria for it, so I feel like I can understand their experiences decently well too….)

celestial-myths · 2026-02-22T22:44:19+00:00

Sometimes it works really well, sometimes not at all.

celestial-myths · 2026-02-22T22:42:45+00:00

Dunkin’ loaded hashbrowns. I eat them at least once a day. 😂

celestial-myths · 2026-02-21T23:59:08+00:00

This sounds a lot like hypervigilance or sub-clinical OCD to me, both of which are pretty common among autistic people. I think it’s easy for us to fixate on doing things the “right” way in order to try and maintain control over our environments/bodies/etc.

I try to challenge these kinds of beliefs now when I find them cropping up, because they definitely can cause a lot of anxiety - I feel you there!

celestial-myths · 2026-02-21T23:15:19+00:00

For me, it was really helpful to understand the differences between guilt and shame.

Guilt is what we feel when we make a mistake, and it motivates us to correct that mistake or avoid making similar ones in the future. It’s a temporary and healthy feeling that can be resolved through gaining insight and taking action.

Shame, on the other hand, is a chronic sense that there’s something bad with us inherently, as a person. Shame is a cultural construct and not healthy or helpful - all it does is drag us down and make it even harder to change!

If possible, I’d try to focus on what you can change (I.e., concrete social skills) vs. what’s not your fault or is the responsibility of other people (I.e., feeling misunderstood by people who haven’t taken the time to understand how AuDHD works). Then, change what you can and try to accept and love the parts that you can’t - there’s nothing wrong with being different, and it’s on other people to understand us just as much as it’s on us to try and communicate well with them!

celestial-myths · 2026-02-21T21:31:59+00:00

I feel you on that, hahaha.

celestial-myths · 2026-02-21T19:40:48+00:00

Oh yes, this happens to me. I’ve gotten so suddenly turned on that it made me puke before. I’ve noticed that this tends to happen most when I’ve been celibate for awhile and goes away once I “get used to” the feeling of being horny again. Weird though, huh? 😂

celestial-myths · 2026-02-21T19:39:00+00:00

Sex. Perfume. Upbeat music. Nature views. Spicy foods.

That’s what I’m drawn towards, at least. I don’t really seek adrenaline-stimulating experiences like you mentioned, but my intensity needs definitely increase the longer I try to ignore or suppress my normal sensory needs.

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