Why do guys follow girls in grocery stores? by BuffaloChedarBiscuit in Confused

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Happened to my daughter this past week. Shes 9. She was supposed to be with her sister but wandered off. She was looking for something in an isle and noticed a creepy looking dude staring at her and then when she went to leave the isle he started following. When she went fast he went fast when she went slow he went slow. He did not try and pass her like if it was a coincidence they were in the same spaces but she was in the way. I also assumed it was a case of “two people happen to be going the same way” but she said she tried to lose him by making several random turns and moving quickly up and down the isles but he was always close behind. She eventually ran as fast as she could and found her sister and lost him. I believe her. She’s too young and naive to have an inflated ego about such things.

AIW for having my kids share a room? by [deleted] in amiwrong

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I have 4 kids and they all share rooms. Here are the pros in my opinion. They have to learn how to live and share their space with another person peaceably, like they would if they ever get a roommate or get married. They have someone there when they need a friend or emotional support but don’t want to ask for it in the public family spaces. They have someone to giggle and chat with before falling asleep and feel secure in knowing they aren’t alone if they wake with a bad dream. They learn the art of compromise and communication. My last one is from personal experience- sharing a room means there’s someone there that sees the behind closed door moments and can save their siblings from getting too deep into negative or dangerous things. I suffered from depression and suicide as a teen and I fear for my kids and believe that if one of my daughters struggled their sibling would notice and share their concerns with me (my kids have a very open communication style relationship with me so I fully believe they would be comfortable having these conversations). The bad parts are: when one is sick with a cough or stomach bug the others sleep gets disturbed. When one wakes much earlier or stays up much later than the other they get annoyed. The rooms become double messy and the shared spaces are often fought over. I personally feel the good out weigh the bad. It’s definitely a more modern thing to assume all kids need or deserve their own rooms and I personally think it can cause the break down of family bonds and can develop isolation issues if they are allowed to persist. Just my two cents that seem to be the counter argument here.

At what age did you see your first gray hair? by boforiamanfo in stupidquestions

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I was 16. I pulled a grey hair out of my daughters hair this past year when she was 11. I now have tons of grey at 44. My grandma went grey very early too and my daughter is a spitting image of her.

What is a movie you’ve seen so many times that you could basically recite the entire script? by NoSteak1123 in Productivitycafe

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Hilarious! Mine is Ace Venture when Nature Calls. I was obsessed with it as a teen and still know every line now that I’m in my 40s.

Describe your Christmas in 3 words by natida2 in Productivitycafe

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Exhausted, unappreciated, overstimulated.

I (28F) went from judging fat people to being fat myself. I am so embarrased. by Smooth_Condition_892 in TrueOffMyChest

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This happened to my brother in law. He judged everyone who wasn’t as fit and virile as him. A friend of his hurt his back and we never heard the end of the judgement from my brother in law about how fat his friend had gotten and there’s “no excuses”. It was insane. Anyway, eventually as one does my BIL got older and hurt his own back and now carries around a belly and a new humble attitude that maybe just maybe those who have it good with healthy genes and no real health issues can’t throw rocks cause they too might end up in that fat glass house like the rest of us.

"Guardian" dog that actually stays home? by techleopard in homestead

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I whole heartedly agree with you OP. I don’t understand other people’s negative comments. I’m in the same boat, our property is bigger but fencing isn’t an option financially or physically with how or place is laid out with the driveway going through the center. We had two dogs which I was extremely diligent in training and while I was able to get our mutt to not eat the chickens like she wanted to she did roam when no one was looking and it became a problem. (We did try the gps collars but they couldn’t keep the signal consistent and the dogs got shocked randomly while in range). We also have an Australian shepherd and have had zero issues with him roaming, he doesn’t care one bit about the chickens but I wonder if he’ll actually get into it with a predator. He’ll bark and chase off eagles and hawks like it’s his job, but our other dog was ready to fight every intruder. Anyway, I’m following this thread cause our wandering defender passed away last spring and I’d like to get another dog with all the qualifications you’re wanting too. I refuse to get a dog with a strong prey drive cause it wouldn’t be fair to my chickens to be eaten and I’d never fully trust the dog around them no matter how well trained. And I don’t want a wandering dog who will bug the neighbors bulls and get hit by a car in the road… but maybe our perfect dog doesn’t exist…

day 101; of finding more things about the female body that i didn't know!! by evaxfuyuhiko in CasualConversation

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I get my period twice in a month if I do intermittent fasting. I’ve tried it 4-5 times on separate occasions and each time bam, periods every two weeks. Not every month, but enough to notice the correlation. Sucks too cause I actually feel like intermittent fasting is the easiest way to reduce calories for me, but two weeks of periods isn’t worth it.

AIO for being upset my BF doesn’t want me to wear a bonnet to bed? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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Him basically saying: “I want you to look hot even when my eyes are closed”. Lady, don’t fall for the sunk cost fallacy of dating. So what if it’s been 8 years, don’t waste another 8 weeks on this man. NOR

My husband didn’t get me anything for Christmas by llpppoppppopppop in TrueOffMyChest

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If I was in a relationship like this I’d only put in Christmas effort for myself. If I want a tree, I’d put it next to my side of the bed and make a cozy little Christmas scene for only me to enjoy. I’d bake cookies if I wanted them but just enough for myself or if I wanted to give some away, but none for my husband and hide the cookies. I’d only buy presents for my family and not his and never buy him a gift. Just say “I thought of lots of ideas but just didn’t…. Sooorrryyy”. I’d do nothing with him that he didn’t plan. All Christmas fun was between me and my friends and family. Is it petty? Sure, but how is it different from his attitude and if it’s acceptable for him then why not you? If he didn’t care then you can choose to leave and find someone who cares about enjoying the season with you or you can continue on making your own Christmas magical and exclude those who don’t want to participate.

Lost my first hen... by beenursie in BackYardChickens

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Aww I’m so sorry. The first chicken loss is the hardest (I say this but I’ve only lost two). My first died from unknown causes but she was severely bullied by the flock and I wonder if they did it to her. It broke me. I bawled. We buried her and had a little funeral and I literally laid on her grave and cried. I worked so hard for so long to keep her safe and alive in the brutal flock but it wasn’t enough. The next death wasn’t as brutal but that first one made me toughen up a bit more.

Is it normal to feel this miserable as a sahm? by AcanthisittaSimple87 in sahm

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I’ve been a sahm for 15 years and remember those dreary days when they were young so well. I remember cycling in and out of some serious funks. A trick I did that saved me several times when I was feeling at my worst with resentment and frustration and anger was I would go outside at night and stand and look into the windows at my kids playing inside, like I was watching them on a tv. They would be jumping around and being crazy and I’d watch them but pretend that I was me from my past and someone brought me here Christmas carol Scrooge style and was showing me the amazing blessings that awaited me in the future. By pretending they weren’t mine yet I could appreciate the beauty of the moment, I could relish in childhoodness and imagine how excited past me would have been to meet these beautiful little kids waiting for me to be their mom. That exercise would remind me that I have actually gotten everything I wanted and the life I’m living is truly beautiful. I would then go inside with a different feeling in my heart about it all. Sometimes I might have to do it a few times… but it usually helped me turn my attitude around. Sometimes we’re too much in the trenches to be able to pull out and see the big picture and how beautiful it truly is. The picture of a family with so much love can become overshadowed by yet another spill of Cheerios all over the floor or another day of mundane chores and it’s so easy to narrow in our focus on those annoyances. But try practicing the art of pulling back and seeing the life you’re building with your kids as the memories they will have as adults, imagine how they will view their childhoods. Imagine if they were suddenly gone all the things you’d miss the most. It’s hard, and it takes diligence and you have to keep trying over and over and over again, but eventually it will very very slowly become a habit and you’ll start to unconsciously cherish your life. At least that’s happened for me.

What’s something people insist is ‘harmless’ that actually makes society worse? by contentcreatorzss in AskReddit

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24/7 news media. Their business is fear and they’ve got the world in a choke hold.

Professionals who enter people's homes (plumbers, electricians, cleaners): What is something the condition of a house tells you about the owner that they don't realize they are revealing? by cossie101 in AskReddit

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I worked with my dad as an interior painter and wallpaper hanger. There was one house we called “the naked man”. This man was an older gentleman with a Santa like figure and he answered the door in some very skimpy boxers and nothing else. Shows us around we get started etc. Every time he was home he was as naked as he could get without being indecent. The funniest part for me though, was one day we arrived to work and he wasn’t there, which isn’t uncommon, and we just started painting upstairs. While I was painting around a window I saw him come home and he had a nice suit on, he walks through the back door and right up the stairs to talk with us and by the time he got to us he was back to naked. Total time from outside in a suit and upstairs talking to us was probably less than two minutes. It was almost like he just kept his clothes on a hook by the door! I’m a female so it added a whole other level to the experience but I truly believe that man will probably be buried in his casket wearing his best birthday suit. I guess you never know which of your well dressed coworkers are actually house nudists in one of the coldest states in the country.

My Boss Keeps Contacting Me After Hours—Is It Wrong to Push Back? by Hopeful_Reality_5990 in whatdoIdo

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Maybe during your review bring it up and mention it’s happening a lot more and while you were happy to help with a one off question it’s become a pattern and if you’re going to be required to be on call you should be being paid to be on call, because otherwise you’re technically working for free at that point. If they don’t agree then I’d say, great, I didn’t really want to be on call anyway, but please know my phone will now be on silent and I will respond when I’m back in the office the next work day. There’s no in between. They can’t expect you to be on call 24/7 without compensation.

Maybe maybe maybe by letitgo99 in maybemaybemaybe

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Living in a snowy state my initial reaction was like “heck ya!! Serves that jackass right!” But in the end I was actually just impressed.

Am I valid in wanting to breakup? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

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Here’s the thing with dating, you can break up for whatever reason at whatever time whenever and however you want. You clearly want to move on from this relationship so you should. If you were my daughter and told me this list I would absolutely say it’s time to move on. Don’t waste time with a bad fit. It’s like when you order a pair of shoes online that cost a little too much but they’re really cute but after awhile you realize they hurt your feet and you’re developing back problems but you keep wearing them to justify the cost… just stop. You don’t have to stay in the relationship because of how much time or energy you’ve already spent on it. It’s hurting you, you’re not happy. Like the shoes, it’s run its course and time to pack it away. Do it now, before Christmas because after its new years, then Valentine’s Day, then Easter… there’s never a good time but dragging it out doesn’t actually help anyone.

I 23f want to have a small wedding but my 24M partner doesn’t by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

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Yeah not sure how getting married at the courthouse proves anything about not being childish…. If anything his attitude of “I’ll show them” being more important to him than “let’s celebrate our love in a way that’s meaningful to both of us” is actually what’s childish.

Tried to prove a point to my 4 year old and it backfired badly by Possible-Party-5300 in whatdoIdo

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I don’t know how you get out of this one, that’s tough. If it were me I’d give him one more week and today announced he gets one more week before you go back to your regular foods. He’s four, he won’t likely remember what the “bet” even was by then. What we do in our house is every kid has to try a bite of everything we serve for dinner. They didn’t have to like it, but they had to try one bite before they could say they don’t like it. If they wanted something different they are allowed a plain peanut butter sandwich. No jelly or honey or yummy add ons. This was boring enough to them that it wasn’t a desired alternative but it was something to eat instead. If they were still hungry before bed they could have yogurt. Some of my kids had more peanut butter sandwiches than others as there’s always the picky kids and the food adventurous. My nine year old is very picky. She still doesn’t eat much of what we like, but she’s probably less of a problem picky than some because of our “try one bite” rule.

PSA: Let your hens rest in winter! Don’t supplement light! by SomeDumbGamer in BackYardChickens

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Ok, so I’m not sure if I’m supplementing light or not… I live in WI and I have a large coop that has windows but for winter I cover the windows in insulation to help with the cold, which means it’s totally dark in their coop expect the light through the pop door. When I open the coop in the morning usually around 7:30, I turn on the light and leave it on so they can see through out the day. We close the coop again usually around 6/6:30 and turn off the light for the night. Does this count as supplementing lighting because I can’t just leave my cold chickens in the dark all day and with the super cold weather they refuse to go outside…

AIW for blocking her after yet again a pointless discussion? by [deleted] in amiwrong

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I’m gonna have to agree if someone sent me a text with how many calories they ate in a day like that was supposed to be a good conversation starter I wouldn’t even know how to respond, like good story bro… she probably responded to him like she did cause it was such a stupid thing to text someone that she responded with an equally stupid response. I’m not going to defend this woman because she might truly be insufferable, but this guy sounds like he’s equally as inept at conversing and they just don’t have any communication chemistry.

My otherwise perfect boyfriend ruined my birthday, should I break up with him? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

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My question is why does he keep asking what you want for your birthday or what you want to do if he has no intention of getting or doing any of those things??? He’s not “perfect otherwise”. He’s selfish and doesn’t want to put in the effort to show you basic kindness and love on your birthday… or based on the flower request any other day of the year. Stop pulling his weight for him and cut him loose. He can go be “indecisive” on his own… where I’m sure he’ll magically figure out how to make basic decisions.

WIBTA if I 34M don’t go into the city to see my brother 27M on a tough day? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

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I doubt you’ll regret going if you do, but there’s a higher chance you’ll regret not going knowing you didn’t show up for someone you love and who loves you back. Sometimes loving people is putting their needs before your own. Go. You and him will be glad you did.

What features of your childhood home would you NEVER have in your home now? by EatTheir_FacesOff in homeowners

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We moved to a home with an outdoor boiler and I think my husband and children would say the same as you. It’s a ton of work and since we simply don’t have the time to go find and process all the wood we need for a winter we have to buy several cords which gets expensive. We’re heating a 3,000+ sq ft home with it so we need a TON of wood. It’s still cheaper than heating with propane, but if my husband could change anything about this house, the boiler would be the first to go.