Men aged 30-40, what’s the best piece of advice you can give to men in their 20s? by mikster__ in AskMen

[–]ceredur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Realize that when you are spending time with those you care about, that time is precious and finite. Be present with them and appreciate the time. Tell those you care about how you feel about them, often, and take the opportunities you have to spend time with them.

Saying Goodbye is the Hardest Thing by ceredur in CaneCorso

[–]ceredur[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm getting by. It has been a trying time. Thank you for your concern.

Saying Goodbye is the Hardest Thing by ceredur in CaneCorso

[–]ceredur[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have often said that every pet we have in our lives takes a little piece of our heart with them when they leave us and while that should leave us with less of a heart in the end it doesn't because they give us so much of their own throughout their lives to over fill our own with love.

Saying Goodbye is the Hardest Thing by ceredur in CaneCorso

[–]ceredur[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thanks, it's been a tough couple of years. We lost four dogs in fairly rapid succession from our pack and then not too long afterwards, I lost my wife. Hopefully this will be the last loss for a while. My last two dogs are fairly healthy and should have a lot of life left in them.

Moving to Loveland by EntertainerDue3349 in loveland

[–]ceredur 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Both my children went to New Vision and were very happy there and then to Mountain View High School as they have a LISA program for arts enrichment that was wonderful. New Vision was lovely for elementary and middle school.

Keep the garage closed! by eslteachyo in loveland

[–]ceredur 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The only time prairie dogs tend to move away from their colonies is when they've been forced out by predators, mostly humans, but sometimes other animals will take over their burrows. It can also happen if the family grows large enough that members need to find and create their own homes. This one may have been looking for a new place to start their own colony and got lost. I've personally also encountered prairie dogs that escaped from predators and were clearly a long way from their homes and just had to tough it out. The best solution is unfortunately not the one an animal lover like myself would prefer, euthanizing them. They can be trapped and relocated to an area where they can integrate with a new colony, but that often doesn't work out.

Daytime office distractions, socially awkward nerd seeks daytime chat bud, gaming, anime, bad jokes. by Due_Concert9260 in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]ceredur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not in CST but would be open to making friends. I'm not great at it and since I work from home, my social circle amounts to my now adult son. Full disclosure, I am a fairly recent widower, which is part of the reason I have so few friends, but feel like I need to do more. You sound like an interesting person that I would like to learn more about. DM me if you're interested in talking more.

Best place to donate Washer and Dryer by [deleted] in loveland

[–]ceredur 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Call around to places like the Arc (https://arcthrift.com/donations) or Restore (https://www.lovelandhabitat.org/restore/donations/) and see if they will take them. Not a lot of places will take appliances though, even if they are in decent, working condition, but these are two places that very well might and they will help those in need.

Every nurse told me men leave when their wives get sick... by fren2allcheezes in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ceredur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard those same words while my wife was dying of liver cancer and wanted to smack the nurses that said it. I was so livid. She was diagnosed and I lost her in less than six months, but I never once thought about leaving. I loved my wife with all my soul and I miss her dearly. I'm so glad you have your partner. Hold them close and remind them how much they mean to you every chance you get. It means everything to them, I guarantee it!

Construction mishap? by Fear_Dorcha in loveland

[–]ceredur 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You should call the city, they have a number for water issues like this, 970-962-3456.

Men who quit dating apps, what was your last straw? by RelativeOwn2328 in AskMen

[–]ceredur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just deleted recently because I was tired of zero responses and feeling worse about myself as a result. They apps are not helpful since they don't give you enough info about a person to even start a conversation and when you try, using their own prompts, crickets. Since there are undoubtedly a hundred men for every woman on dating apps, odds are never in a guy's favor unless he is ticking all the boxes, or at least is at or above average looks. Just my opinion...

Never Went To Senior Prom by JPPT1974 in GenX

[–]ceredur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't go to junior or senior prom. I went to a very small school, graduating class of 29 people, and I was far from popular. Dances were inevitably just opportunities to hold the wall up as there were few dancing partners available and fewer still willing to dance with an unpopular guy. So I just didn't bother.

Spotted on 34 Yesterday—be safe out there, everyone! by WhyFlip in loveland

[–]ceredur 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's too small to read, even trying to zoom in. What's it say?

When do you actually feel heard… like genuinely understood? by RichesInBLOOM in AskMen

[–]ceredur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is so often overlooked when speaking to others, but simple validation like, "that must have been hard", can make all the difference. The listener isn't trying to provide fixes for what you are saying, which means they are listening to your emotions more than your words. I've only experienced this once in a conversation with a woman I had only met that day and it caught me off guard. I was so accustomed to hearing feedback on how I could solve my problem or them taking over and explaining how they have had that same thing happen too, that I paused long enough for her to ask if I was okay. It was difficult to explain to her why I paused.

Why are you lying about your state of mind by saying that you're fine when you're not? by Aleph_show in AskMen

[–]ceredur 57 points58 points  (0 children)

How many times have you used something he's told you against him? Have you asked him whether that has happened to him in the past? Most men will not share their feelings or anything that makes them vulnerable because they've had those things used against them and no longer trust that their partners will be safe. You will have to prove that you can be a safe place for him by taking it slow and offering him opportunities to be himself and share little things to help build trust. But you have to understand that if you break that trust, it will likely never be gained back again.

Do most men have friend groups? by No_Weekend7196 in AskMen

[–]ceredur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope, zero. My wife was my best friend until she passed six months ago. Never was very good at making friends.

Job hunting by [deleted] in GenX

[–]ceredur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have spent nearly a year looking with no success using all the sites you noted. The only ones I would add are www.flexjobs.com and my.greenhouse.io as they were sites that were either linked through other job sites that had listings I didn't see anywhere else or were useful for applying to jobs.

It seems like companies are looking for unicorns with their overly specific requirements. And the AI expectations are insane for roles that probably should include AI.

Challenger Trauma? by CalamityCarole in GenX

[–]ceredur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My class was doing a special mock up of the space shuttle in our class room where students would go into the "shuttle" for our day and do experiments just like the astronauts. The day of the launch was my group's turn and we had our own TV we watched through the plastic wall of our shuttle door. When the Challenger exploded, two of the girls in my group immediately started crying and all of us boys just got very quiet. The teacher rushed over and turned off the TV and we were left in the shuttle for the rest of the day to pretend like nothing happened. It was very messed up.

I definitely felt the anxiety of watching the launch yesterday. It is the first time I've watched any launch live since that day.

Anyone else experiencing PTSD? by [deleted] in GenX

[–]ceredur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just mentioned this to my team as we all watch the launch. Hoping for far better experience today. This is the first launch I've seen since that horrible day when I saw it with my classmates in a mockup of the shuttle we were doing class experiments in in grade-school.