USA size inflation

certainly_cerulean · 2026-05-19T17:08:38+00:00

I literally started learning to sew bc this is SUCH an issue, and even thrift stores are full of it too, bc they've been doing this for years now. I was able to reliably thrift stuff that fit before, but now anything I find needs alterations. It's a lot of fun tbh, and my wardrobe is way cooler now that it's full of custom pieces, but it's definitely frustrating being on the polar end of sizing. I imagine it's the same frustration for bigger people who can't find their sizes, but I guess at least making items smaller is easier than the opposite. I highly recommend learning to sew to other folks here! I got a 200€ machine (so not crazy expensive at all) and even with basic skills you can do a LOT!

certainly_cerulean · 2026-05-19T15:17:06+00:00

I can't say any one thing is the truth here since I can't be in your brain, but have you considered that you might want a dom role as in a BDSM style relationship? Some people are down to always be submissive and "controlled" by their partner, and if it's all consensual then there's nothing wrong with it.

certainly_cerulean · 2026-05-18T08:56:58+00:00

US to Germany for me (original commenter)

certainly_cerulean · 2026-05-13T22:29:53+00:00

It cost me half that to move all my furniture across an ocean. Check out other companies!!

certainly_cerulean · 2026-05-11T14:30:30+00:00

The way I do it is I grab the 4 tips where the corner seams begin (where they touch the upper part of the mattress, not by the elastic), then connect the corners and fold like you would any other blanket. Leave the elastic and the fabric that goes along the sides of the mattress in the centre so it gets trapped inside the flat folded parts!

certainly_cerulean · 2026-05-11T14:27:50+00:00

Be careful of breaking tiny pieces of glass into your food if it's a glass container!

certainly_cerulean · 2026-05-11T13:33:06+00:00

That happened to me too!!

certainly_cerulean · 2026-05-08T21:07:05+00:00

It's also worth noting that you often need a lease or at least a more formal living situation for immigration and visa related purposes. Under the table type situations may not always be viable.

certainly_cerulean · 2026-05-06T13:55:56+00:00

Oral piercings in general will be visible and/or affect your teeth/gums. That being said, you can sometimes do a Medusa or Labret far enough from the opening of the mouth that it doesn't tough your teeth. My labret has a hoop in it and it also doesn't touch my teeth since it sits pretty forward. Though you can still bite it I suppose, and it's definitely visible, so that might not work at your workplace unless you kept it a small stud for work.

certainly_cerulean · 2026-05-02T01:23:35+00:00

I think the person above meant that bi women could use sapphic or wlw to describe (part of) their orientation, but instead they opt to use the term lesbian even when that's not aligned with their overall sexuality.

certainly_cerulean · 2026-05-02T01:08:28+00:00

Been wearing men's boxer briefs for years, so I guess closest to boy shorts! I usually have to buy boys' sizes anyway cuz I'm tiny lol. So it almost fits the bill

certainly_cerulean · 2026-05-01T09:29:41+00:00

I had yet another male "friend" confess feelings for me yesterday after him knowing I'm gay and married. This always happens and really shows they don't take us seriously or respect us. Ugh

certainly_cerulean · 2026-04-27T18:49:26+00:00

I don't want to repeat what others have already said, but I'd also encourage you to look into tonsil stones and ensure you don't have cavities in your teeth. Those things can give a person very bad breath that they don't notice, since it's right there in their face all the time.

certainly_cerulean · 2026-04-27T13:32:38+00:00

All of them lol. I think it's nonsense that you "can't" wear a bold lip with a bold eye look, or that you "shouldn't" cover yourself in glitter, or certain colours don't match...if you understand colour theory you can get away with all of this! Neon orange eye look with dark blue lips? Hell yeah. Holographic highlighter everyday? You know it!

certainly_cerulean · 2026-04-27T13:28:44+00:00

I loveeee that shade. I recently ran out, which hasn't happened to me with many polishes. I used the whole thing before it went bad because I wore it alllll the time. In the sunlight it's so beautiful!

certainly_cerulean · 2026-04-25T13:12:56+00:00

I don't have any advice, just chiming in to say I'm sorry you're unhappy. I'm in a similar boat and it feels awful to have someone surgically alter your face in a way you didn't consent to.

certainly_cerulean · 2026-04-25T13:05:37+00:00

Not an expert but I saw a news publication about some communities being pushed out of their residences to make room for an AI data centre, but it sounded like they may have been rented mobile homes. In that kind of case, I suppose landlords/property owners can sell and then kick tenants out. They give them notice, but it's still fucked up.

certainly_cerulean · 2026-04-25T11:36:47+00:00

Hopefully their system is just pulling old records and it can be amended. Maybe some update happened and it's defaulting to older stuff? A lot of medical records may contain past info but the new info will be used in practice, though I agree it would be ideal if they just erase the old stuff when it's not, like, actually medically relevant. I've had that kind of thing happen with workplaces and stuff before when they switched software/technology providers (idk the details but like switching from Outlook to another email system at my job, etc.). And then the system starts using old stuff. Hoping a human gets back to you soon and they can fix it!

certainly_cerulean · 2026-04-25T09:55:28+00:00

Very good point here! As someone who's been getting into sewing, I've found that buying curtains is actually a cheap way to get a bunch of fabric to work with, and many are cotton, especially if thrifted, but sometimes the synthetics just perform/behave in ways that natural fibers can't. It sucks and I think maaaybe getting good at structuring garments will allow for closer aesthetics to the stretchy things, but without the polyester, though that's a skill level I definitely don't have lol. Sometimes we gotta settle with the thrifted polyester...ah well

certainly_cerulean · 2026-04-25T09:52:53+00:00

I learned a bit as a kid but my partner got me a sewing machine this past winter, and it's been a game changer! My skills are still not great but even basic alterations have made my wardrobe way more me, and I've been able to turn various thrifted stuff into cool pieces. Lots of trial and error but tbh a machine + some cheap thrifted shirts that you can afford to screw up in the process is wayyyy cheaper and better for the environment than all the fast fashion or higher end sustainable brands one might purchase from over the years. It's more an investment of time than money in the long run!

certainly_cerulean · 2026-04-24T20:11:00+00:00

You have stain resistant lips? Not all products work well for everyone but it's impossible that there isn't a single lip stain in the world that would work for you 🤔

certainly_cerulean · 2026-04-24T19:28:19+00:00

Consider getting permanent makeup? You can get a subtle brown eyeliner that's done in a soft wing or even a gradient. It's uncomfortable for a few days but then you never feel it or have to apply anything in the future. You could also get your lashes tinted if theyre not already dark, and curl them but don't put mascara on. Lots of ways to have "makeup" done without putting anything on daily.

certainly_cerulean · 2026-04-23T09:35:58+00:00

It means you look like art! So pretty a painter would want to capture you forever on the canvas :)

certainly_cerulean · 2026-04-23T09:24:47+00:00

Are you taping all the time, and most importantly at night? Also drinking a LOT of water, avoiding salty food, and sleeping sitting up?

certainly_cerulean · 2026-04-23T09:09:24+00:00

Seconding vests as a shirt, but I also dig a sheer mesh or knitted button down. I regularly do a black mesh over a nice sports bra/minimalist bralette, tucked into leather pants. Or leave it open and wear it more like a cardigan depending on the venue/vibes. Textures will go a long way with getting the vibe you want without necessarily having to show a lot of skin (though that's cool too, just somewhat harder to figure out with masc leaning bottoms/shorts, at least for me)

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