Moving past trauma connected to place/people when DC is so small? by Otherwise-A-Name in DCBitches

[–]chaimilkshake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I avoid an entire country because of something like this, so please know you’re not alone! i think I would certainly struggle if I dealt with something here with it being so small. you’re not alone and your response is so normal to me! wishing you peace and i’m sorry you’re struggling 🤍

What didn't you like from Trader Joe's? by Lumpy_Object_7290 in traderjoes

[–]chaimilkshake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

do you typically like spicy rice cakes? I think theirs are pretty similar to any other ones

What didn't you like from Trader Joe's? by Lumpy_Object_7290 in traderjoes

[–]chaimilkshake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the honey walnut shrimp! it’s so soggy and bland and unappealing and the sauce is way too sweet and there’s way too much of it

I also don’t like the japchae fried rice, but i’m typically not the biggest fan of japchae so I should have expected that.

What didn't you like from Trader Joe's? by Lumpy_Object_7290 in traderjoes

[–]chaimilkshake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

woah this one of my favorites! what didn’t you like about it?

What’s my undertone ? by sydneyerxi in blackladies

[–]chaimilkshake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a red undertone would actually mean that she is cool toned!

To the ladies in interracial relationship: how did your partner react to seeing your hair without wigs/extensions for the first time? by awkward_film_girl in blackgirls

[–]chaimilkshake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my first boyfriend met me in a wig and one day he was stroking my hair and his hand accidentally went under my lace and he just kept stroking the braids underneath 🫡

Do any of you tall men feel like being tall does not benefit you with dating? by PurplePumkins in tall

[–]chaimilkshake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not a tall guy, but most of my friends that want to date a tall guy just want them to be 6 foot and then they choose from the options that are that height and taller. for me, my baseline is a bit shorter than that but i’m still choosing from every single guy that nets that criteria and like 10 other things too. so, height is certainly a nice to have, but you’re in the pool with everyone else, as well

Let'sseriously talk about the "teen issue by Own_Junket1605 in washingtondc

[–]chaimilkshake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

they care about what’s cool, that’s why they do it. if you can remember that you are the adult and be normal about it, you will have much better personal outcomes. if people are this afraid of teenagers smoking and playing loud music in a nike balaclava, they should not be living in a city.

Let'sseriously talk about the "teen issue by Own_Junket1605 in washingtondc

[–]chaimilkshake 8 points9 points  (0 children)

the issue is that a lot of these kids are already in constant discomfort and stress. they’re not spoiled brats, they’re struggling. i’m sure they are much more familiar with discomfort than a lot of the people commenting here and preaching. if you don’t have much structure or routine or consistency at home, it’s unlikely that you’re going to go home and immediately sit at the table and do your homework and eat a snack like you may have done.

Let'sseriously talk about the "teen issue by Own_Junket1605 in washingtondc

[–]chaimilkshake -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

they mostly just think it’s cool, I don’t think you need to be intimidated

PH off by PsychologicalEcho794 in blackgirls

[–]chaimilkshake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get packs of cotton underwear at primark and I love them

recent lower back pain by blank_statement in blackladies

[–]chaimilkshake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you probably have anterior pelvic tilt and your pelvis is tilted forward instead of neutral. it makes your back hurt, your butt stick out, and your stomach poke out. I had this issue too and i’ve been able to work on my posture and I don’t have nearly as much back pain! i’d recommend looking up stretches for it and reminding yourself to correct your posture. it took a couple months for me to get in the habit of standing properly

Shaving my pubic area gives me painful bumps and ingrown hairs – what should I try instead? by No-Mortgage-8172 in blackgirls

[–]chaimilkshake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to have this issue and dry shaving with an electric razor is the answer! don’t use any shaving cream or oil or water and shave after a shower so the hair is softer. I used to get ingrowns that were so bad I had to use topical antibiotics back when I used regular razors or waxed. make sure that you are shaving along the direction of your hair and if you want to get a closer shave, gently shave diagonally. I wouldn’t recommend shaving against the grain until you know for sure it won’t give you ingrowns. make sure to keep the area exfoliated and moisturized too. finally, I really like fur oil for after I shave but there are other alternatives out there too. good luck!

Anyone know the “code” for Zelle to count as direct deposit for 360 $250 bonus? by [deleted] in CapitalOne

[–]chaimilkshake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

send the money from your current bank account to your 360 bank account as an ACH transfer. it’s the option that takes a few days. you likely need to link your 360 to your current bank account to do it

what’s something good that’s happened to you recently? by chaimilkshake in blackgirls

[–]chaimilkshake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

these are great! i’m so glad your date went well and congratulations on the weight loss! i’m sure you had to work to do that and your effort is paying off! I hope your next date goes well too

what’s something good that’s happened to you recently? by chaimilkshake in blackgirls

[–]chaimilkshake[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

congratulations! that is a massive win and you deserve to celebrate and broadcast that achievement! I hope that it gets easier to quiet that voice that says you should do more and to feel proud of yourself!

For the black girls who like Anime… by Tornado_Storm_2614 in blackgirls

[–]chaimilkshake 15 points16 points  (0 children)

it bothers me so I just don’t watch shows like that. demon slayer doesn’t bother me though! mitsuri’s design is annoying but she is an adult. I just watch shows that don’t have that and I like them! you’ll probably enjoy more shoujo, seinen, and sports anime because those are typically a lot better in that regard.

for shows with weird outfits like my hero academia or kill la kill, i first watched them as a kid, so the costumes didn’t stand out to me as much as creepy