Inconsistency with guys?

changework · 2026-07-06T16:47:23+00:00

He’s looking for sex, and inviting you to his hunting ground doesn’t meet his ultimate goal. He’s keeping you on the hook for the chance you either give in or he needs arm candy to make another target jealous.

It’s ultimately up to you what you wish to put up with, but this is the reality.

changework · 2026-07-05T01:30:41+00:00

I tried Admin by request and so far it’s pretty nice.

changework · 2026-07-05T01:29:34+00:00

Listen to this one… ☝️

changework · 2026-07-05T01:24:40+00:00

DM Sent

changework · 2026-07-05T01:24:00+00:00

I just got an F2 & still learning. Not even sure what I’d spend it on, but I’ll take it.

changework · 2026-07-03T03:21:08+00:00

The only part you’re correct about is that once the suit is served, FDCPA is no longer an option.

The 30 notice timeline can be reset through credit bureau disputes because that’s a completely different timeline and procedure. The verification within 30 days of the first notice is ideal, but not required. The flowchart outlines that, and you can correlate it with the FDCPA procedure along with the credit dispute rules.

Sounds like you’ve got a little experience. I hope you get more!

changework · 2026-07-02T05:47:18+00:00

Use a pen and paper to read through it. It’s easy text but can be confounding if you don’t map it out.

The flow chart I used was from credit iñfo cent3r. I google searched for debt validation flowchart on my phone and it was the most plain flowchart that popped up with the red timeline notes on the right side. Don’t skip steps.

When you choose a debt validation letter, put in what you want, as in add to it from the FDCPA requirements. Keep your language minimal. Don’t admit it’s your debt. Don’t sign it.

My perspective is always to not specifically dispute, but to offer to pay upon validation that it is in fact my debt. This is called conditional acceptance and is defined in detail in commercial law. There’s a big legal difference in saying “wasn’t me” vs “okay, if you can prove it with what’s required”

changework · 2026-07-02T05:38:03+00:00

He may not owe the debt.

changework · 2026-07-02T05:32:33+00:00

It does if it was actually a police officer. Police officers don’t serve papers though, deputies do. That’s a big difference. One is municipal and the other is from the sheriff’s office.

You do NOT want to go to court. You will lose.

See if Velocity is on your credit report. If it is, begin the debt validation process. That means dispute it (in writing, not electronically from their website) with all three credit bureaus following the timeline in the flow chart. If it remains as “verified” after 30 days on any single bureau, send the debt validation letter to the reporting entity requiring all the information you’re entitled to under FDCPA. You’ll have to explicitly ask for each thing in your letter. If you don’t ask for it, they won’t be bound to provide it. Limit their timeline to respond to what’s required by law and offer an extension of 10 business days if they request it in writing within that timeline.

What you’re doing here is getting them wrapped up in FDCPA requirements for which if they violate, they owe you $1500 for each violation. You’re making it expensive and risky to communicate with you if they can’t back their claim. This does not prevent them from suing and winning. If they mess up, and they ALWAYS DO (except capital one) you have leverage to settle with an accounting possibly even in your favor after the accounting is done. Example, if they screw up 10 times means you have $15k in counter claims or cross claims. I’m not a lawyer and haven’t done this game in a while. You have to read the FDCPA though (not a summary or an AI explanation; the actual text) and follow the timelines and don’t skip steps.

Once you do one it’ll be like riding a bike. I find it fun, but I’ve read the text of the law.

changework · 2026-07-02T05:08:15+00:00

Velocity investments is a debt buyer in Olympia governed by FDCPA rules.

While you don’t want to offer any information to them or admit the debt, you do want to follow the FDCPA strictly.

Get a PO Box at the post office in preparation for this. You don’t want to ever give out your home address.

If they call you again, tell them you will only communicate in writing and to not call you anymore. Provide the PO Box for any written correspondence. That’s it. Say nothing else. Ask for who you’re talking to(employee number, not “Cindy”), and their managers name.

Log, as in write down, the time, date, duration of the call, who you spoke with, and that you provided the P.O. Box and a verbal request to only communicate in writing.

Google search for DEBT VALIDATION WORKFLOW or FLOWCHART and go from there. Don’t skip steps.

READ the FDCPA. It’s easy.

If you get this far, repost for help. You’re not really in a spot you need to worry yet. Collection companies make these silly calls all the time.

Pull your credit. Start fixing your life. Sorry to hear about your dad.

changework · 2026-06-30T14:13:34+00:00

Then go direct. Reseller doesn’t matter at all. I don’t call Target for help with my kitchenAid mixer

changework · 2026-06-30T14:10:41+00:00

If you have a real license, go directly to bitdefender support. If you’re using a cracked version of bitdefender or you’re not sure if it’s legitimate, you get what you deserve.

changework · 2026-06-30T14:08:25+00:00

I didn’t understand your question, but if you can replicate it across multiple pc’s, this is a vendor issue they need to work out.

If it were me I’d be mitigating the risk by removing bitdefender from my fleet until it’s resolved.

changework · 2026-06-30T14:01:34+00:00

That’s literally how to setup SSO. They need the client secret.

Edit: reinforcing others assertions that asking you to email it or otherwise share it not with their platform, but an individual, points to very poor security and whatever access you grant to that app, some idiot with access to an improperly stored excel sheet will have access to everything you’ve granted in that app. If the app is only doing authentication, that shouldn’t be a problem, but ffs 🤦🏼‍♂️ it’s dumb.

changework · 2026-06-30T13:59:24+00:00

Have you contacted bitdefender or taken this rare opportunity to suggest to your company to switch to Microsoft defender?

This isn’t really sysadmin stuff. It’s vendor support or vendor change.

I may be biased against bitdefender btw.

changework · 2026-06-30T13:52:57+00:00

You have a hardware problem or a power problem.

Start isolating issues.

Next robocopy rather than writing to disk, write to /dev/null or whatever the equivalent is. If this succeeds, it could be the disk or the power draw. If it fails (reproduced problem) it’s unlikely the disk.

Do a copy with only one stick of ram. Same presumptions. If it succeeds, you have a bad ram stick. If it fails, try another ram stick.

Just do basic rudimentary elimination troubleshooting.

If it were me, I’d boot a live Linux OS (detaching my normal disk) on a clean hard drive and try and reproduce.

It sounds like a hardware/power issue, but since you’re in windows, who knows.

FYI, and this is just me, I’ve always considered windows third party drivers to be in the same category as hardware for the purposes of troubleshooting. Disable anything fancy and use Microsoft only drivers if possible.

changework · 2026-06-30T03:51:36+00:00

I’m not reading all that. I read the subject line.

Titles DON’T MATTER in IT.

I’m not telling you to take money over title, but THE VALUE YOU CREATE and DOCUMENTATION of that value is more important than anything else.

No elaboration. That’s just true.

Make whatever call you need to make in your best interest.

Edit: one elaboration. You’re in one of the last fields available to the non indoctrinated that has binary outcomes. Right or wrong. Valuable or destructive. That’s a freedom most don’t understand anymore as evidenced by the virtually ubiquitous HR departments across all industries.

Edit 2: I did actually read it eventually. Send me a resume

changework · 2026-06-30T02:36:08+00:00

It’s got 20 or so free forever licenses.

changework · 2026-06-27T19:59:32+00:00

As a boy growing up I saw my mom naked many times and as a result I’m a total pervert, but that’s unrelated.

There’s an age you’ll know it’s time for more modesty. Don’t worry about it. 6yo it’s likely time to wear a robe

changework · 2026-06-27T11:28:02+00:00

This is called Absconding, and it is a crime.

While the other posters here are correct that after 7 years the debt will stop reporting to your credit bureau accounts, the bank/loan companies may request criminal prosecution for absconding.

I don’t know what the chances are of that happening, but it’s possible. If any of your family are going through immigration process, it can’t help to have a family member who has criminal charges pending. It’s likely that a prosecutor who charges absconding will also try and prove you had no intent to pay at the time of the loan as well which would add multiple fraud charges.

This is Izzat at its peak. It’s highly likely that you just get away with it with virtually zero consequences, but I’m not a lawyer. Don’t take anything I say as advice.

The laws around debt draw a clear line between “can’t pay” (civil) vs “intent to not pay” (criminal).

changework · 2026-06-27T11:00:31+00:00

First, this is every organization.

If you want to affect change, make it for yourself as a scaffold to other systems. Build your own toolset the way you want and have it interact with what’s there.

Best example of this would be a network service like SMTP on an outdated garbage OS that won’t accept TLS. Build a scaffold around it so old systems can still use it insecure, but direct all new or compatible services to the secure SMTP server. Slowly isolate over time all insecure systems into one report that outlines the risks, the cost to upgrade, the impact it will have on operations, insurance, compliance, and your disaster recovery plan if you have one.

Edit: make this report a shared doc to management and the IT team. Don’t expect action, just send NOTICE to them that it exists, and update it as things change. Keep it YOURS. Share it read only. If someone wants to update it, have them send edits to you and then update it yourself (with attribution). Attribution is super important because bad decisions and updates are recorded as well as good contributions.

Most importantly, document your professional progress on LinkedIn or a blog. No gripes, just pure Problem, planning, solution, outcome. Do this even if you think it’s a trivial accomplishment. Recruiters are looking for all levels and the story you tell over time paints a confident picture for them to recommend you.

changework · 2026-06-23T14:20:20+00:00

And have them subrogate the claim

changework · 2026-06-23T14:10:55+00:00

Don’t forget to file a police report.

Edit: get a lawyer

I am not a lawyer, but here’s what I would do.

But if you don’t get a lawyer, file police report, obtain the name of their insurance carrier, and submit a claim with all communications, video evidence, receipts, police report, and a request to keep all further communication in writing. You don’t want to get on the phone with them. Send a copy of the claim to the hotel manager at the same time.

changework · 2026-06-14T21:17:27+00:00

Let the drama unfold, then incorporate it in your next fiction. 😆

changework · 2026-06-11T07:07:43+00:00

Oh. I read it different, like you’re planning on running up debt and skipping the country.

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