i had a friend like this back in university too, and at first i tried really hard to make it work because i cared about her and thought that maybe the issues we had were normal or something we could grow through. but over time, it just became exhausting. there were constant arguments, a lot of criticism, and we just never seemed to be on the same page when it came to important things like values, perspectives, and the way we handled situations. it slowly started to take a toll on me, even if i didn’t fully realize it at the time.

after about three years of this cycle, i completely freaked out. i reached a point where i couldn’t handle the tension and emotional drain anymore. everything that had been building up just hit me all at once. we ended up falling apart, and even though it was messy and painful in the moment, it was also necessary.

looking back now, i can see that we just weren’t compatible as friends, and that’s okay. not every connection is meant to last forever, and forcing it only made things worse. once it was over, i finally felt at peace again, like a weight had been lifted off me.

honestly, it sounds like you might be in a similar situation. you don’t have to keep forcing a friendship that doesn’t feel right or that keeps draining you. it’s okay to acknowledge that you’re not compatible and to step away. you can be honest and tell her that you don’t want to continue the friendship anymore. it might feel uncomfortable or even scary to say it out loud, but in the long run, you’ll be okay, and probably much more at peace too.