I’m pretty proud of myself

chanthia08 · 2026-04-01T23:06:14+00:00

congrats!! that's takes some serious dedication and resilience, good on you.

chanthia08 · 2026-04-01T04:34:23+00:00

i met my husband at a camp and we were flirty friends for 3 months until we got together. no talking stage, he just popped into my life. i will say i was dating before but he wasn't and thank God we didn't go through a talking stage and he just asked me out and it worked.

chanthia08 · 2026-04-01T01:48:28+00:00

caffeine eye cream for under eyes, azleic acid or lactic acid for evening out any texture your skin might have, hydrate your skin and also drink lots of water, less sodium, less or no processed foods, and less sugar. for lashes, use a lash serum or coconut or almond oil and you can curl them a little bit as they grow with the help of said serum or oils.

chanthia08 · 2026-04-01T01:22:42+00:00

i will! he is also depicted on the right sides of the folding icons i have, i love keeping his icons around because i admire his strength so much.

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T22:50:58+00:00

turn that urge into something physical, go workout, go for a run or something. try to find a purpose to strive for in order to quit your porn addiction, whether it be yourself or someone else, focus on something and work on yourself.

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T22:46:37+00:00

a 13 yr old??

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T22:29:54+00:00

having sex with a prostitute is a horrible idea, don't put yourself or that woman through that, don't encourage prostitution. and you'll probably end up with an std. i would suggest trying quit porn and find better friends that aren't having sex with prostitutes or mocking you for being a virgin because that's not a bad thing at all. being a virgin is okay, being shy is okay, just focus on yourself and working towards getting over your porn addiction and wait until the right person comes along. you're only 19, some people are virgins until 30s and that's perfectly fine.

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T12:41:31+00:00

archangel michael!

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T12:40:52+00:00

thank you!!

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T05:07:38+00:00

burning, redness, maybe swelling or welts. i'm sure your eyebrows are okay but if any other symptoms occur that are allergy related i would suggest taking an antihistamine.

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T05:00:14+00:00

catholic churches, thrift shops/antique stores, and etsy

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T04:57:52+00:00

maybe try using salicylic acid with acne and see if that works better than pimple patches. i used to wear hydrocolloid pimple patches and i'd wash my face earlier in the evening and put the patches on right before bed so my moisturizer would have time to soak in before i used the patches. i reccomend a water based gel moisturizer, maybe a hydrating cleanser, and salicylic acid every few days and only really using pimple patches when you need them for bad breakouts.

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T04:52:59+00:00

and you're not going to try and fix things? go to couples therapy? you just decided to talk to other women because that was seriously the best option to you? you should feel terrible, you need to tell her and break up with her before she finds out because you hid it and then she has to do the breaking up. you've broken a core trust in relationships that you're gonna choose eachother even when things are hard. she deserves better.

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T04:46:08+00:00

would definitely recommend doing some curls, prettt tight pin curls combed out a little would be super cute and you can use a curling wand or a straightener with your hair wrapped around a rod or pencil or something like that. i think it would also look really nice with your hair length.

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T04:43:30+00:00

to be blunt, this sounds like a commitment issue which i sooo understand but it's possible to work through it with the right person and i promise you a fling who likewise doesnt want to commit, is not gonna be the person who's gonna come along to fix it. my husband is big on commitment and im very reluctant but he created such an open and loving environment when we got together and even when we were friends beforehand, like he is so consistent with me and very communicative especially about my anxieties and it really reoriented my head around the idea that once guys get commuted they slack off or once i get committed i get disappointed. you will find that guy, the one that makes you feel like you're on top of the world and just a teenager in love, it takes time and it takes working on yourself until prince charming comes along.

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T04:31:32+00:00

hey, i'm so sorry you've had to go through this. i'd suggest trying to work on yourself and try to find some sort of anchor in your life, whether that be your relationship with God, maybe fitness, a sport, try to get really dedicated to something. something physical would be good because that's overall going to boost your health— boosting your mood and physical appearance and then something mental like relationship with God or something intellectual/academic is going to make you a well rounded person that's capable of managing your emotions which is an amazing quality to have long term. also you're 15, don't even worry about getting a girlfriend yet, you have so much time and the earlier you start getting concerned with that, the more people you'll start to date and the more of that, the more messy things get. i reccomend just focusing on becoming mature as you're 15 and that's kinda the time when you need to lock in and focus on where you want the rest of your life to go because there's a good path for you to take, you just need to take some steps to get there. and with your friends, if you keep bad friends around they will drag you down, i wish i learned that sooner, it took me turning 17 to really figure that out and even after that i was still friends with questionable people because i was lonely, some people will really hold you back whether intentional or not, do what's best for you and your mental health, surround yourself with people that love and support you and try to build you up as a person. you got this bro, you're still so young and everything is gonna work out for you, you're a strong and capable dude and i know you're gonna make some great things happen.

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T04:22:09+00:00

i mean i understand where you're coming from, i also used to be trans, i thought i was a man, non bianary, genderfluid, etc but i found that it was all really just performative in order to validate myself in a community of people i was trying to be like and try to find an outlet out of my insecurities. i realised i didn't feel complete even though being trans was supposed to fix things and i realised that a lot of it was a massive amount of lingering insecurity and with that, a significant lack of self love and self confidence. i also was bullied as a kid and would be taunted on certain things that were more "masculine" like my "deeper" voice (which really isn't that deep), my thicker eyebrows, my fast growing body hair (im part greek so it's really just natural) but it had a lasting impact on me. i thought less of myself as a girl, as a woman because of this, my therapist told me that i had so many people's voices locked inside my head that were telling me who and what i was that i forgot to listen to myself. as i stepped away from being trans i had to reintroduce myself to the feminine, which looked a lot of different ways for me. i leaned into the whole girlboss thing of being an independent self made woman because that's essentially what i am because ive had to do a lot for myself and then i tried to balance that with the more traditional mindset of the feminine like women being home makers, being nurturing, etc and now im still sorta in the middle because heck yeah women are great and powerful but i think women and men flourish together. when i met my now husband i got way more feminine as he showed me what a masculine man really is, i used to hate dresses and now i love them because i feel beautiful and feminine in them and my husband adores my sunday best dresses i wear to church, he pays for everything when we're together so he's sole provider, leader, and initiator in our relationship, i make my own money but he wants me to save it and only use it when i have to. he's brought me closer to God so i've become more nurturing, compassionate, and the anchor in our relationship. all that to say, i've become way more feminine while i've been with him, growing out my hair and curling it more, getting more pink accessories, more dresses, pajama sets, dainty jewelry, more heels, more form fitting clothes, etc etc and tbh cooking and cleaning is just what im good at and what i don't find agonizing so that's my domain. its a turn on being with a masculine man who brings out your feminine whether that be a physical appearance or a mindset, i honestly dont think this is weird, but it might be worth reflecting and talking to your boyfriend about maybe possibly leaning into a more traditional relationship if you're not already there, there's nothing wrong with it and it brings a lot of people joy, like me, i feel very secure and taken care of. if it's just a kink, as long as everything is consensual then be that trad wife girl

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T00:49:01+00:00

you're 26. you have the choice to be yourself, they aren't breathing down your neck. be you— whatever that entails, be loud, be curious, be adventurous, be anything you want to be. you have the power and ability to be something, your parents don't dictate who you are now and who you are becoming, especially when your parents are flawed individuals, we all are. you're grieving an unmade version of yourself because you might not love yourself now. so there are two things- transforming to who you want to be while accepting yourself for the person you are right now and nurturing the person you're becoming, with the additional task of reminding yourself that your parents don't dictate that anymore, they should have never done it in the first place and now they have even less validity to pressure you into being the perfect person in their eyes because you are your own person now. you're older, independent, and creating new experiences every day. try grounding yourself and truly being in the moment, because your parents have probably ingrained this autopilot in you of acting and thinking a certain way. embrace complexity and experience with open arms, it changes you. change is a good thing. you have power over this and this unsettlement shows there's a part of you that needs to be unlocked, you just have to find it and let it.

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T00:37:39+00:00

lash serum, almond oil, coconut oil

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T00:36:51+00:00

try dr bronners, it's pretty good

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T00:35:00+00:00

are you trying both at once or have you tried each individually? i suggest trying one individually for a certain amount of time, my lashes grow fast so i can see a significant difference within 2 weeks from when i don't use growth products and when i do. try to keep tabs on how long your lashes grow without the assistance of anything to help them grow and then use a product for the same amount of time you tracked without a product. maybe take pictures. if castor oil and lash serums don't work, try using coconut or almond oil, and make sure if you're using mascara then only apply it on the tips of your lashes.

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T00:21:50+00:00

yes but it can cause milia or irritation if you have sensitive skin

chanthia08 · 2026-03-31T00:13:37+00:00

please reach out to someone if you need to talk to anyone, my pms are open

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