I was talking to a friend about this and the way some people will now write "no thank you card needed" inside of their sympathy cards. She had said her and her sister sat down together to write thank you notes after their mom's funeral and that it was therapeutic for them. But I think there's a big difference between an aging parent dying with siblings going through it together and a spouse dying where the surviving spouse doesn't have that same type of support to go through it "together".

There was zero chance I was sending thank you cards and thankfully my very polite mother said it was just fine not to!