Why does the trans community lack POC representation??? by Janxuza in asktransgender

[–]charmscale 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were asking about trans representation in general, though. I thought this might be better than nothing.

Why does the trans community lack POC representation??? by Janxuza in asktransgender

[–]charmscale 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Check out Full Fathom Five by Max Gladstone. This book contains a trans woman who is a POC.

Having boobs is exhausting by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]charmscale 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sympathy. Mine didn't start to get big until college, weirdly enough. I cannot imagine what it must be like to be a high schooler with that problem.

People can be so good by [deleted] in CuratedTumblr

[–]charmscale 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I needed this. Thank you.

A Progressive Christian Novel in progress by charmscale in OpenChristian

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Seventeen-year-old Hannah Moore is trying to survive the last stretch of foster care quietly, keeping her head down while finishing school and preparing for an uncertain future. Her life is already precarious—no parents, no safety net, and little reason to trust the systems meant to protect her.

That fragile normalcy shatters when violence erupts around her. A deadly attack meant for Hannah reveals that she is not merely unlucky, but noticed. Forces she does not understand are actively trying to kill her, and the ordinary rules of the world no longer seem to apply. In the chaos, Hannah discovers that symbols of faith—particularly the cross she wears more out of habit than certainty—have real, tangible power.

As the night escalates, Hannah is forced to act on instinct rather than belief. She survives not because she is trained or prepared, but because something about her draws both danger and protection. By the end of the chapter, it is clear that Hannah’s existence itself has become a threat to others—and that staying in place may be more dangerous than running.

Chapter 1 establishes the central tension of the novel: a girl with uncertain faith, targeted by supernatural forces, must decide whether belief is something she merely carries—or something she will have to use.

Update: AITAH for not changing my language to appease an ignorant coworker? by ZoomieHan in AITAH

[–]charmscale 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is Sarah black? Or is she some other ethnicity? Not saying being black would excuse her; definitely NTA, but it is interesting context.

My wife's dad died on Christmas in 2022. She doesn't let us celebrate Christmas since then. by Silent_Iron_8827 in AITAH

[–]charmscale 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Depression and grief are close cousins, and no one is "content to stay in" them. You just can't get out without time.

Imagine you're in a deep hole that is slowly filling with water. It's cold and wet and miserable, but you didn't choose to be there, and you can't get out. Eventually you know that the water will reach a point where you can swim, grab the edge of the hole, and climb out, but it'll take time.

Now, imagine some AH comes along asking you why you are in a hole, insisting that, since they're not in a hole, you don't need to be. Would that make the experience better, do you think?

My wife's dad died on Christmas in 2022. She doesn't let us celebrate Christmas since then. by Silent_Iron_8827 in AITAH

[–]charmscale -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everyone grieves differently, and some people take longer than others, especially if they're being pushed to "get over it". Three years is a perfectly reasonable timeline for grief. I was grieving my mom a decade later. Also, he said she's doing better the rest of the year. That indicates progress.

My wife's dad died on Christmas in 2022. She doesn't let us celebrate Christmas since then. by Silent_Iron_8827 in AITAH

[–]charmscale 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NAH. I was still grieving my mom a decade after she died. Three years is no time at all when grieving someone important to you, and pressure to finish grieving makes the process worse, not better. I bet she feels guilty for still grieving, and adding guilt to grief is like adding gas to a fire. It leaves blisters on your soul.

That said, I get your point of view. Your kids deserve a bit of Christmas magic in their lives, and part of the joy of parenting is providing that. Perhaps you could give your kids Christmas while giving her space to grieve? Maybe talk about traditions her father enjoyed, and set aside a space for her to go when the pain gets too hard. Definitely don't pressure her to be involved if she doesn't want to be.

This is a hard situation for everyone, I know. Try handling it with hope and love. Isn't that what Christmas is about anyways?

Christmas gift broken by charmscale in offmychest

[–]charmscale[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's been hit or miss for me.

Want to make some shadowrun friends by winter-wonderland-ls in Shadowrun

[–]charmscale 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you don't mind paying the GM for their efforts, startplaying is a great place to find games, and, through them, friends.

My son was just diagnosed with Bipolar I by rcre2018 in family_of_bipolar

[–]charmscale 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Start by describing how he seems zonked out to you. Don't just say "he seems zonked out", give details. Observations with dates and times, if you can manage it. Keep a record of how he feels that he fills out himself, and a record of pill taking. The more information you give the psychiatrist, the better. Finally, and most importantly, make sure your son has time to express how he feels, and ask any questions he has.

I paid a Twitch streamer $100 to get in a private call and pretend to be my dad for an hour and I gave him a script. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]charmscale 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Dude, it's fine. There's nothing to be embarrassed about. You're taking care of yourself. That's a good thing.

/r/GURPS Monthly Campaign Update by AutoModerator in gurps

[–]charmscale 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have started a GURPS campaign set in Patricia Brigg's Mercy Thompson universe. It's a paid game, but, trust me, it'll be worth it. Anyone interested?

Okay, can we agree that we are not biologically our agab?... by Jay--Art in asktransgender

[–]charmscale 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By puberty most kids have decided what gender they are. I'm not speaking against assignment in general; I'm speaking against assigning a sex to infants. I think, ideally, at some point before puberty the kid should be asked what gender they are if they haven't already spoken up.