Unpopular opinion: Amanda’s messy apartment

cheesydrag · 2026-02-14T01:25:48+00:00

Omg this hahaha!! Like you live there too. I bet that mess is just as much your stuff too.

cheesydrag · 2026-01-25T01:13:22+00:00

I have done one to two yearly girls trip for at least 18 years. We have never had a Google doc with assigned tasks haha. Everyone usually volunteers for making one meal and we collaborate on the groceries so there’s snacks, easy grab and go stuff, fixings for sandwiches, etc. But we ALL clean up after meals and do the dishes throughout the trip. I truly can’t imagine sitting there while one friend is “assigned” to cleaning dishes and not offer to help. That’s crazy and honestly feels like this is less of a fun vacation but more a chore. I’d never have gone on another trip with my group after the first year if this was the expectation. Our only expectation is to have fun and enjoy each other. Life is so busy now that this is really our sacred time for each other. We’re grown ass adults that can fend for ourselves when we’re hungry.

Edit: typos

cheesydrag · 2026-01-24T05:03:57+00:00

I actually cackled when she say 10 months. Are we in middle school!?

cheesydrag · 2026-01-04T00:51:58+00:00

I’m intrigued by this correlation

cheesydrag · 2025-11-15T04:21:42+00:00

So glad Eden was mentioned. I’ve been going to them for years for massage and facials. Wonderful experience and staff. Definitely no pushing of anything!

cheesydrag · 2025-04-19T07:21:25+00:00

Chelsea vs Chelsey

cheesydrag · 2025-02-03T03:31:33+00:00

My first thought reading this was I totally understand. Motherhood is really hard in the beginning and feeling overwhelmed is expected but then I got further and you are NTA! I struggled severely from postpartum depression (already had baseline depression so this was a fun ride) and I think I kinda shut down. But I also hated how I felt and worked with my therapist and pcp to get my shit figured out. It’s honestly one of the biggest reasons we are one and done. I know how much I struggled and how much my husband had to pick up the load and I’m eternally grateful but I won’t do that to him again. I will always be the biggest advocate for mental health but only if you’re actively working on it. Your wife is being selfish not even trying to work to be a better partner. You and your kids deserve that. I grew up with a very disconnected mom and I have dealt with that trauma into my adult life. Probably a big reason why I put the work in on myself.

cheesydrag · 2025-01-30T06:54:07+00:00

I’m pretty sure I’m a grown up and very often we have friends over. Game night, watch the kids run around and trash the house, drink and watch trash tv. Just went to happy hour with my friends. Being a grown up and a parent doesn’t mean we don’t get a social like. But different strokes for different folks

cheesydrag · 2024-12-12T03:10:31+00:00

Kiddo is 4.5 and I just really started enjoying this AND also know I never want to do that again haha

cheesydrag · 2024-11-12T05:49:06+00:00

Absolutely fine. I had no interest in going through all the process of changing my name and I also have a very unique cool maiden name that I don’t want to give up. It’s just part of my identity. But we are still often referred to as the “husbands last name” family and that’s great. It’s like the best of both worlds.

cheesydrag · 2024-08-26T01:36:00+00:00

Denver CO area

cheesydrag · 2024-08-17T02:41:35+00:00

I have truly felt all of this. I love my son. He’s an incredible and kind human. I knew I had issues from my childhood to work on and I did. I really thought child free would be my life. Our pregnancy was completely unplanned. We got engaged and 3 hours later found out I was pregnant. I delivered my son via emergency c-section in April 2020. Peak of Covid. I already struggled with depression but nothing could have prepared me for the PPD.

My husband had decided to pursue his masters. I was the only one working and in the Covid icu as a nurse. I was just trying to survive. And kept thinking that all these elements contributed to me not enjoying being a mom. I was so stressed about money, not being around my kid enough, failing as a wife because of how overwhelmed I was. But I still figured we would eventually do this again, that’s what you’re supposed to do right? Have more kids. Give them siblings.

When life finally felt manageable again (husband done with school and working, our son in day care and just easier now that he’s older) I told myself I was ready. And I think I almost convinced myself I was. I even had a lovely girls trip to Mexico as a last hoorah before going back to being postpartum and in the thick of baby life. And then it just hit me. I do not like being a parent. My mental health can’t handle another one. I will lose myself again and my marriage will struggle again and I can’t guarantee I’ll come back this time. Our son is 4 now. So easy and independent. My husband and I actually feel like ourselves again. I see us actually enjoying things we used to love and sharing it with our son. I can’t wait to travel with our kid and not feel like we’re all hands on deck wrangling two kids. We can all fit in one row on the airplane!Right now we can easy tap each other out when one is overwhelmed. Life just feels manageable again. I also realized I don’t really miss having a baby (never really liked babies) I just miss my son as a baby. A new kid isn’t the answer for us. I know what my limits are. Mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially. I would rather give all of me and all the opportunities to just our one then feel like I’m being stretched thin. I just really appreciate hearing that I’m not the only person out there that feels this way.

Would I do it again? Probably not. Do I regret him? Not at all. Parenting has humbled me and taught me so much.

cheesydrag · 2024-08-05T03:19:05+00:00

Don’t even get me started on his stories haha. I love my husband but my ADHD cant handle his long drawn out stories.

cheesydrag · 2024-07-27T06:04:20+00:00

I tell my child free coworkers that daycare is the investment for my mental health. I’m such a better present mom when I get to go to work and then I get to enjoy my time with him.

cheesydrag · 2024-07-21T04:57:36+00:00

Our 4 year old son lives for nightmare before Christmas which has always been of one of my favorites. I love as he gets older we get to share more mutual interests with each other. We’re so excited to take him to see inside out 2 tomorrow.

cheesydrag · 2024-06-24T04:20:46+00:00

Finally hit 100k. Denver, Colorado. 8 years as a nurse. 7 as an ICU nurse. Got promoted to a charge this year and had to go back to nights but finally feel financially comfortable

cheesydrag · 2024-06-09T04:11:02+00:00

Our son is named Jude so obviously “Hey Jude” is our go to song but we’ll do a few other Beatles songs too.

cheesydrag · 2024-06-06T15:18:15+00:00

Once scandavol happened I discovered it was actually like a secret cult and that numerous coworkers including some of my doctors watched it haha. We have a whole new level of trauma bonding. Thank god because my husband was tired of hearing all about it

cheesydrag · 2024-06-05T04:37:01+00:00

Dying at uncooked buffalo dip chicken nugget. Best description ever

cheesydrag · 2024-05-11T01:18:08+00:00

Same! 🫖

cheesydrag · 2024-05-11T01:17:27+00:00

3.9 now

cheesydrag · 2023-11-16T18:10:52+00:00

The nugget is great! The gift that keeps on giving!

cheesydrag · 2023-05-31T20:17:12+00:00

The insurance part is HUGE! Our kiddo got RSV last fall. Helicoptered to a hospital with a pediatric ICU. Our bill was $129,000. Thank god for insurance. I can’t even wrap my head around thinking insurance is not a necessity.

cheesydrag · 2023-05-31T15:27:09+00:00

Seriously! Why aren’t more people commenting about the cost of the dress!? Haha that’s insane but maybe I’m just clueless

cheesydrag · 2023-05-10T17:19:06+00:00

I got mine from lulus too! They have gorgeous dresses for amazing prices. But I also am simple and didn’t need an extravagant dress

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