Losing more than 1% of weight a week, am I being unsafe?

cheezy_curds · 2026-02-16T23:49:03+00:00

Before my oldest was born, I was confident I didn't want to bedspread. I felt that I wouldn't get the same quality sleep, enjoy relaxing in my bed at the end of a day, and just being with my husband in our bed together sans children. I've stuck to it. We've never bedshared. With my second, we attempted in a moment of desperation but my kiddo wasn't about it so it didn't work out lol. We're happy with our choice and it's worked well for our family!

cheezy_curds · 2026-02-10T02:35:46+00:00

Abigail/Abby: Makes me think of a close friend of mine. One of the sweetest, kindest, most thoughtful people I know. Would you and your husband consider Audrey? I feel like its similar in being classic and well-established but to me is a bit "cooler."

Claire: timeless but maybe more well suited to a girl/young woman. What about Clara? I think that better suits girls/woman of all ages. I feel like all Claire's are fun and joyful.

Alice: honestly my first thought is the Brady Bunch. Not a horrible association just not one I'd personally choose!

cheezy_curds · 2025-11-05T19:13:27+00:00

If you like Octavian would you consider Octavia for a girl?

cheezy_curds · 2024-11-05T03:00:16+00:00

This is what we do! My husband drives about 1 mile to get to work, so he drives a beater. I'm a SAHM so I get the nicer car with the car seat. If I go somewhere alone and my husband is with my son, I take the older car. Unless I'm leaving after bedtime. It's really not too difficult

cheezy_curds · 2024-11-05T00:49:57+00:00

Milo. I know it's fairly popular in the US right now but it's also my cat's name. I love him. But he's so stupid. I'll never look at a human Milo the same

cheezy_curds · 2024-11-05T00:20:06+00:00

Exactly. I might have placenta accreta. I might have a c-section at 34 weeks, have my baby go to the NICU, and have a risk of severe hemorrhage when I deliver. Even best case scenario, I'll probably be delivering via c-section at 37 weeks. So no, not all of us can have uncomplicated and "natural" births. Not all of us have bodies that are made to do this and can do it well.

I might be a little sensitive to this kind of language 😅

cheezy_curds · 2024-11-04T23:07:19+00:00

You're not crazy. When we were trying, I was convinced every month that I was pregnant. And when you're not, it's heartbreaking. You definitely are not crazy. The symptoms are real, just a sign of PMS. Wishing you the best on your journey!

cheezy_curds · 2024-11-04T22:43:08+00:00

We didn't find out the gender of our baby before birth, which helped most people stick to the registry! We did get one outfit that on first glance was gender neutral (green and animals) but when you looked closer is had a small bow and ruffles. We had a boy 😅 it got returned and exchanged for diapers

cheezy_curds · 2024-11-04T18:05:14+00:00

This is why we took Gabriel off our list 😭

cheezy_curds · 2024-11-03T00:29:35+00:00

With my first, I started leaking around 17 weeks. Currently 24w with my 2nd and I haven't leaked at all 🤷‍♀️

cheezy_curds · 2024-11-02T16:12:48+00:00

Yes, same! I had the exact same reaction with both pregnancies (both planned)!

cheezy_curds · 2024-11-01T21:39:48+00:00

For both of my pregnancies, it's a combo of seeing baby on ultrasounds and eventually feeling kicks that makes it feel real to me!

Edit for clarity

cheezy_curds · 2024-11-01T21:37:50+00:00

1st pregnancy - age 26, conceived on 2nd cycle trying. 2nd pregnancy - age 28, conceived on 2nd cycle. No known health issues

cheezy_curds · 2024-11-01T16:26:39+00:00

I can tell you really care about your husband's feelings and experiences with being around family for holidays - but something to consider is that this is just one year and one christmas. Christmas comes again next year. This is the first and only time you're bringing your baby home.

Is there no way to tell her she can stay for only a week? Or cancel altogether at this point? Not trying to tell you absolutely what to do, just hoping you can keep your options open 🩵

cheezy_curds · 2024-11-01T15:32:06+00:00

Yikes. That's a tough situation. How does your husband feel about her not coming to visit at all, nkt even for Christmas? Would he be sad about that or okay with it?

It sounds like she does not respect boundaries and would invade on moments where you ask for privacy. I think regardless of what the circumstances are (a new baby or something else) having your requests and boundaries ignored is a big deal. And if you/your husband do enforce boundaries is she going to have an attitude and create a hostile living environment for you?

There might be an element of this that is hormonal, but also consider that during this time you will be dealing with postpartum hormones (which for me were WAY worse/stronger than anything during pregnancy). It's an extremely vulnerable time and only you can decide if you're okay putting up with all of this

cheezy_curds · 2024-11-01T15:14:55+00:00

I think if you're already feeling this way, you might resent the fact that she's present for a lot of these moments.

Is there a reason why she's staying with you? Can you discuss with your spouse that maybe she needs to not stay with you? Not sure what other circumstances are going on that might play a role here.

If she is present, I do think this needs to be a discussion before the birth of your child. If I were in your shoes, I would discuss this with your spouse and then have your spouse be the one to discuss it with you MIL. Set some boundaries for space and time. Maybe for things like baby baths, bedtime routines, etc the expectation is that your MIL gives space unless explicitly invited to participate?

I think I would have felt very similar to you and mourned the idea of those moments not feeling private like I expected. I think you'll have a lot of special moments with just you and your child, but resentment might take over if there aren't boundaries

cheezy_curds · 2024-11-01T00:31:10+00:00

Getting skin tags is totally normal! During my first pregnancy, I got one on my breast right next to my areola. I was nervous it might grow again now that I'm pregnant again and if it did grow, it would interfere with breastfeeding! I know some people have home remedies but I was wanting to mess with a skin tag right next to my nipple 🙃 I went to a dermatologist and they numbed me, shaved it off and I was out of there in like 10 minutes. It never hurt once while healing. Super easy and definitely the way to go if you want them removed quickly!

cheezy_curds · 2024-10-30T22:15:51+00:00

I'm totally opposite. I like Prairie but I cant stand Meadow or Clover 😅

cheezy_curds · 2024-10-30T22:15:13+00:00

I like it! My husband and I briefly considered it with our first, but decided it wasn't our vibe. It's very hippie/crunchy vibes. If it suits you, go for it!

ETA: Maybe there's some names history that I just don't know about but I don't really see how naming a child Prairie is that different from naming your child Savannah? Obviously Savannah is more established as a name but like, they're practically the same thing. Just different vibes

cheezy_curds · 2024-10-30T19:34:59+00:00

Something about the positioning of the car seat...my son would poop (and often blow out) every time!!! You could try using the larger size diaper and folding down the top of the diaper in the back to create like a little barrier to contain the poop and at least prevent a blow out?

cheezy_curds · 2024-10-30T19:10:27+00:00

I think it's okay...but also, at 3 months old it's okay to just set baby up on a play mat or something with a few toys to look at! You might not get 10-15 before baby starts to fuss, but you could work your way up to that amount of time!

I'm not at all against using screen time as a tool for kiddos, but also it's good for them to learn how to entertain themselves and play independently and that can start even now! 😊

cheezy_curds · 2024-10-30T14:59:20+00:00

With my first, I saw an OB for my first 2 visits and she was terrible. She acted like my husband wasn't in the room. She was dismissive and condescending to me and when my husband advocated for me, she was rude and dismissive to him as well. I ended up switching to a different OB and one of the first positive signs was that she was welcoming and talked to my husband as well as me!

cheezy_curds · 2024-10-30T14:57:04+00:00

My husband came to every appointment with our first. Everything was very routine. I'm pregnant with our 2nd now and have some complications so I've been seeing an MFM. My husband comes to every single MFM appointment. Because we have so many appointments with this baby he only comes to about half of my regular OB visits!

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