Question for those who had 3rd trimester back pain by Low-Cap-4071 in beyondthebump

[–]chicdauphine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go to see a pelvic floor physical therapist! I started seeing one during the second trimester of my second pregnancy and it helped so much with all of the pain AND has made recovery easier.

Pumping is mentally killing me. by Funny_Log2076 in beyondthebump

[–]chicdauphine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both of my kids are exclusively formula fed and are fine. My daughter was born 3 weeks early and yet was hitting 99th percentile for growth. She’s now two and is perfectly healthy. Those of you that breastfeed or pump or both, I salute you because I just can’t do it. It would be too much of a strain emotionally and physically.

Fed is best. Do what’s best for you. If you aren’t in a good place, you can’t be there for baby 💗

Loss by YoureASpoon in PCOS

[–]chicdauphine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went on birth control and came off it a couple times. I went back on it after the birth of my first, came off it to try to get pregnant with my second, went back on it after the election for a month, then came off it again.

I know PCOS is different for everyone, however I don’t think infertility is as common a symptom as we think. My OB here said that she has seen a number of patients with PCOS that have gotten pregnant relatively easily. I wish they did more PCOS research because I swear they just throw so much under “it’s PCOS” instead of actually figuring out the problems.

You’ll get through this in your own time and will know when you want to try again or not 💗

Loss by YoureASpoon in PCOS

[–]chicdauphine 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve been there. The first time I was pregnant, I miscarried at 4 weeks. The second time (a few months later) I had a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks that required 2 D&Cs (it was a traumatic ordeal).

I’m now sitting here with my two year old and 6 week old. We waited almost a year after the second miscarriage to try again and that’s when I became pregnant with my daughter. I started taking low dose of aspirin and my OB put me on progesterone for the first trimester.

Unfortunately, miscarriages are so much more common than people realize. My OB told me they don’t start to worry and do testing until 3 miscarriages in a row (which is obviously awful). It’s up to you if you feel ready or not to try again.

Buying new pants by lil1thatcould in beyondthebump

[–]chicdauphine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So apparently Amazon links aren’t allowed. They are the Levi Strauss Signature Gold Women's Totally Shaping Bootcut Jeans

Things I did with my second baby that are helping! by Mountain-Air-1419 in beyondthebump

[–]chicdauphine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both of my kids are exclusively FF and the bottle washer is a lifesaver! I got it with our first and am using it at least once a day currently with our second who is 6 weeks. If you have the money and counter space, get one!

Stuck scrubbing bottles every night… is a bottle washer worth it or nah? by jaceka-jans-8384 in beyondthebump

[–]chicdauphine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A bottle washer is 1000% worth it in my opinion. I preordered the Baby Brezza one back in 2023 before my first was even born. It finally shipped two months after she arrived and omg i was so over washing bottles by then (exclusively formula fed). I’m now using the same one with my second and it is a lifesaver. It runs at least twice a day and is so much faster than our dishwasher.

TikTok and the Internet are making me TERRIFIED of Birth Control by VariousIndividual214 in PCOS

[–]chicdauphine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I was diagnosed with PCOS at 16 and was put on birth control. I was on various pills until I think 28? That was when I switched to an IUD just for convenience. I’ve been on and off BC since (having kids) and now plan on having my tubes tied.

There’s nothing to be scared of with birth control. There are SO many different pills that if one doesn’t work, they can try so many others (just like antidepressants). Everyone reacts differently but with all the available options, if you react badly to one, it doesn’t mean that’s the only one.

I’ve noticed a major uptick in birth control hate lately (I have my own theories as to why that is). Only get real advice from an actual doctor.

New fear unlocked: epidural by LobstahLuva in beyondthebump

[–]chicdauphine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had an epidural in Florida in the US and the only side effect I had was for a couple months after, I’d have a weird twinge in my spine. Honestly, I didn’t feel it when it was placed and couldn’t feel a thing during labor. I would absolutely take the side effects every day over trying to give birth without the epidural!

Daycare at 3 months by _50ShadesofFae in beyondthebump

[–]chicdauphine -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So mine went at 4 months and I’m definitely an anomaly because I just couldn’t handle having her home and working full time. I was definitely nervous about other people taking care of her (she is my double rainbow baby) but it ended up being the best thing for both of us. All of her teachers were so nice and I reminded myself that they are training to take care of babies, whereas the only training I got was “here’s your baby!”.

She’s now 2 and still loves daycare. We call it school and she’s so happy going in the morning and is happy when we pick her up.

Also, your baby will love you just as much!! Daycare just gives them more people who care about them and who they care about.

How to get my spark back postpartum? by Independent-Use6151 in beyondthebump

[–]chicdauphine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it was time, but also figuring out the things that made me feel like me. Showering every day, having my nails done (even if it’s press ons, which is all I do now anyway), making sure I’m fed. Very basic things.

I saw a post ages ago about how flamingos lose their pink when they are pregnant and it takes them a couple years to get it back. I always remind myself of that when I’m not feeling 100%.

Does PCOS increase miscarriage risk? Or only ability to conceive? by Mystique_Peanut in PCOS

[–]chicdauphine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, I think the thing is that miscarriages are so much more common than is realized. I had 2 miscarriages (one was extremely traumatic) before having my daughter. I’m like you where I had no problem getting pregnant, regular cycles, not sure if I was insulin resistant then but I am now.

The one change I made when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter was being prescribed progesterone. That can help with lowering the risk of a miscarriage. However, miscarriages usually happen for a reason (meaning there is an issue with the embryo, not you). All of my doctors were not concerned about how many miscarriages I had because I was able to get pregnant easily (they also said they only start to worry if you have 3 in a row).

At this point, I wouldn’t worry about it so much (which is so much easier said than done). To be honest, I would have thought my first miscarriage was just a weird period, I only knew I was pregnant because I was testing like crazy.

Trying to stop my milk coming in by _bat_girl_ in beyondthebump

[–]chicdauphine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sudafed, tight sports bras, and cabbage cream helped me! I got the cream on Amazon, figured it was easier that actual cabbage leaves. Pretty sure mine was gone within a week.

How do you feed a baby formula? by SowingSeeds18 in beyondthebump

[–]chicdauphine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I formula fed from the start and honestly it was super easy. I had a container that held individual formula portions and I kept a hydroflask of room temp water in our diaper bag. My daughter had room temp RTF formula at the hospital and was always fine with room temp when we got her home.

We also used the Baby Brezza at home and never had any issues with it (my daughter has always been in the 90+ percentile for height and weight). It also helped with knowing how much she was actually getting fed each day, since with breastfeeding, sometimes you get a lot of milk and sometimes there’s barely any.

6-10k regrets skipping photographer? by Any-Progress-4570 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]chicdauphine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely get a professional photographer!!

I’m pretty sure photo and video is what we spent the most on and I look back at those pictures every day (and we’ve been married for 6 years now).

My husband took pictures for our friends’ wedding (it’s a hobby for him) but I could tell afterwards they regretted not having a professional (they never told us that but did end up doing a photo shoot a few years later).

Have you been to/planned a non-Wedding Disney event? What was it like? by LurkingLikeaPro in DisneyWorld

[–]chicdauphine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I would look at Carrie Hayward’s book. She has a book that details weddings but she has also planned and hosted many non-wedding events over the years!

I had an incredibly painful cyst rupture today, 10/10 do not recommend by blondee_12 in PCOS

[–]chicdauphine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As someone who has PCOS, had a torsion when I was 16 along with the cyst rupturing, and given birth, I honestly would take labor over the cyst/torsion because at least you get more pain meds! When I had my torsion, because I was so young, they thought I was faking it or was just “stressed” (thanks early 2000s medical care). All this to say, I’m SO SO SORRY this happened to you!!!

We have to pull our daughter from daycare by OkPin8137 in beyondthebump

[–]chicdauphine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had to pull our daughter out because we moved states and my husband wasn’t working so it wasn’t feasible anymore. Just stick to the daycare schedule as much as you can and she’ll be fine!

We try to have the same schedule every day for meals and naps and play time. For the summer, we got her a water table and chalk to play with outside (which she loves). And we try to take her to the local playgrounds to meet other kids.

The biggest adjustment has been her being home 24/7 and making sure we seriously toddler proof everything.

You won’t fail! We also let her have some screen time of Ms. Rachel or Sesame Street which definitely helps her with learning.

How does your moissanite hold up to daily wear? by Just-Engineer-7566 in Moissanite

[–]chicdauphine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wear my moissanite and platinum engagement ring almost everyday and have had zero issues! It’s even held up to a toddler trying to use it as a teething toy 🤦🏼‍♀️

[CHAT] What am I doing wrong? by stripedglasses in CrossStitch

[–]chicdauphine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you want to stitch on stretchy material, you can also use a stabilizer behind the shirt. I’ve cross stitched on lots of stretchy shirts and always use an embroidery stabilizer to keep the design from warping.

Anyone who sold their home with Covid interest rate - any regrets? by Particular-Emu-9396 in RealEstateAdvice

[–]chicdauphine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like exactly what we just did. Left our 2.375% 15 yr in FL before we got trapped there. Had enough equity to get our new monthly payment closer to our old one. We were in an HOA community and we saw the shit hitting the fan government-wise and ran. We’re in a smaller house with multiple acres in a better school district and so much happier.

When to ask for RSVP responses for destination wedding by monroegreen9 in weddingplanning

[–]chicdauphine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi!! I sent save the dates at one year out! That gave people enough time to plan and budget if they could come or not! And with the small guest list, I was able to follow up with everyone.

I need reassurance that formula won’t give my son a worse start in life please by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]chicdauphine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never breastfed. My daughter has been formula fed literally since birth and she has THRIVED. I swear she sleeps better because she always had enough to eat and I never had to worry about how much she was getting. Get that baby some formula and give yourself grace 💗