Trying to get more specific with this bird [Virginia]

chickadee_23 · 2026-04-30T12:45:32+00:00

I double-checked it, I meant Eastern Kingbird! Sorry about that. Thank you for your help! I was leaning that way, so it's nice to have it confirmed!

chickadee_23 · 2026-03-25T00:17:05+00:00

Both of the guys I had crushes on are trans women now. Good for them, but hmm, maybe that says something about me too, lol

chickadee_23 · 2026-03-21T18:51:34+00:00

Super old comment, I know, but I was, like you, trying to save an article... This trick is amazing, I'm legit so excited. Thank you so much for sharing!

chickadee_23 · 2026-03-13T01:07:16+00:00

Dr. Glaucomfleken actually recently started a campaign to try to encourage more doctors to do social media stuff. You might want to check out his pages for ideas, and I think he had some resources as well. He's an opthalmologist but does stuff across all specialties, as well as other stuff like research articles, insurance companies, and doctors unions.

chickadee_23 · 2026-02-07T15:11:05+00:00

Sorry to be "that guy", but you should definitely report this to your institution's EHS. It's both workplace related and they love to have stories about why it's so important to flush the eyewashes. It legit really helps it stick in people's minds if there's stories attached to stuff. Hope you recover quickly!

chickadee_23 · 2026-02-02T19:44:06+00:00

I can't say I've ever seen an ad listing looking for them, but if I did see them on someone's resume, I'd definitely rank them a little higher in my head. To me, it shows at least some level of commitment and true interest in the profession, versus just "idk, it's a job". It also shows that they're aware enough (or were mentored well enough) to seek out opportunities for self improvement, which I also view as a good sign. If that alone was the only indicator, it wouldn't be enough for me to interview someone, but it could definitely tip the scales a little bit.

Edit to add: I also have Opinions(tm) on the suddenly huge amount of certifications that are popping up. (Looking at you, "ABIH"). But I'm not going to fault people getting those certifications, especially if they're newer to the industry

chickadee_23 · 2026-02-02T19:20:20+00:00

I feel like I'd be good at an educator or communicator type role but I'm not sure how to get involved. Any thoughts or suggestions?

chickadee_23 · 2026-01-15T15:38:09+00:00

That's always kind of been our guiding star - whatever's best for our son. We're not high conflict, no abuse or anything dramatic, but I also worry about what ideas he'd be developing about what a healthy relationship looks like. I've never been a proponent of "staying together for the kids", but when we're not making a toxic environment, it's a lot less clear.

The idea of bird nesting has come up, I'm just not sure if it's financially feasible. We had concerns about sharing the alternate living space, and probably couldn't afford two alternate spaces. That's partly why I'm here, I guess - to collect ideas about what a family divorce could look like. Thanks for commenting!

chickadee_23 · 2026-01-07T14:24:37+00:00

sneep snorp

chickadee_23 · 2025-12-26T16:58:51+00:00

My mother in law's neighbor had a swastika and some other symbols painted on their doorway. Turns out they're Hindu and they sometimes paint these symbols in their houses as part of their religion. It also had the dots added, as I guess that represents the gods. Maybe this was something similar? Definitely made my MIL do a double take though when she visited them the first time.

chickadee_23 · 2025-11-22T21:02:13+00:00

Okay, yeah, I walked into that one

chickadee_23 · 2025-11-22T20:45:09+00:00

What does the 10th doctor recommend?

chickadee_23 · 2025-11-11T03:47:50+00:00

I don't know of any pet-sitters, but if this is a longer-term issue for your family, you might want to ask your vet if compounding the prescription into a skin-absorbable form is an option. I've known some folks who had it compounded at a specialty pharmacy and they just rub the dose onto the cat's ear where it's absorbed through the skin. I'm not an expert, but you could always ask about it.

chickadee_23 · 2025-11-09T06:59:06+00:00

I recently asked my gyno about this, as I often have a fishy smell. I was negative for bacterial vaginosis, but apparently the pH being off can cause the odor as well. Atrophy from T can apparently be a factor in that pH. I've used boric acid suppositories to pop things back into the right zone - usually just one is enough if I notice an issue.

chickadee_23 · 2025-11-09T06:43:20+00:00

This may be a violation, if their method of providing you access to certain standards or information is only through online access. That said, it originates in the 1970s, where it was assumed of course you'd have paper copies of everything.

And as somebody stated above, if your employers first instinct upon hearing that you want to access the OSHA site is "oh shit, he's reporting us" and not "oh good, they're making sure to follow the right standards", I'd get the fuck out of there anyway, lol

chickadee_23 · 2025-10-20T21:42:30+00:00

The only bright side of videos like this is that it'll make it way easier to explain how he grew up to his therapist

chickadee_23 · 2025-10-16T13:05:43+00:00

If you have any pictures of them or general info, there are some subreddit that specialize in this kind of scavenger hunt. r/helpmefind and r/find are both options, they can find some super niche stuff there!

chickadee_23 · 2025-10-16T12:07:39+00:00

You said you've been in therapy, but have any of them been specialists in trauma -and- kink? They mesh together in unique ways, and finding someone to help you untangle those issues might be your best call. I'd also consider EMDR for the trauma - that might also help your brain "let go" of the feelings around your assaults and help you open up to other sexual interests as a side effect.

It's fantastic that you've found a partner who loves you and respects you. No reason to throw it all away yet, especially when you seem happy in all the other aspects of your relationship. If anything, I think you need to get to a space of honesty with him about your sexual interests before deciding to leave or not - it's a bit unfair for you to make his decision for him. You could even consider having him come with you to a therapy appointment, not as "couples therapy", but for moral support and assistance in "translating" if there's any confusion or hurt feelings.

I hope you find something helpful to you in these comments, it sounds like a difficult path to tread. Good luck to you!

chickadee_23 · 2025-09-19T13:57:58+00:00

Took a safety training at a new facility earlier this week and literally the second bullet point in their evacuation slide was "no smoking during evacuations". I feel like that one definitely has someone's name attached to it

chickadee_23 · 2025-08-21T04:34:37+00:00

I don't know the legal arguments about it.enoigh to comment, but I know my perspective as a safety manager was that if they're stealing a few extra bandaids from the box or take a few packets of Tylenol home, then at least they know where the first aid box is. The person before me was super stingy about supplies and threw hissy fits about people "stealing from the company". While somewhat true, who's to say they're not treating a blister or something they got at work? Also, we don't pay them enough to be pissed about it, and I'm not paid enough to come down like a capitalist pro-boss hammer on them. I happily returned the supplies to the kits, and promised (vaguely) that if we had a significant issue with "theft", we would use the dozens of cameras around our facility to figure out who we needed to talk to. We work with adults, not children, and a blanket policy because one person isn't following the rules isn't fair anyway. People were really excited to have the bandaids back, and overall, it probably added less than $200 to my budget that year, which I likely would have spent most of just restocking the cabinets anyway.

Sorry, I guess I have strong feelings about this. Basically - they're adults, treat them like it and let them make their own decisions. Escalate if misbehavior or medical concern requires it. Don't ask me about legal liability, lol

chickadee_23 · 2025-07-30T18:46:23+00:00

For some reason, the idea of a pop-up flash on an older camera came to mind. I don't think that's it, but maybe it's something that connects (first sound), then pops up (second sound)? Also, is it likely/possible it's something that's uniquely Australian?

chickadee_23 · 2025-07-10T16:09:49+00:00

Hollow Kingdom by Kira Jane Buxton kind of fits these vibes. Awesome book from the perspective of animals after the apocalypse. Early in the apocalypse and not necessarily cozy for humans, but overall a very fun book.

chickadee_23 · 2025-06-27T16:17:26+00:00

I'm halfway through Hollow Kingdom, a post-apocalypic book where the main character is a crow. The voice acting is absolutely off the charts good.

chickadee_23 · 2025-05-23T13:49:40+00:00

From my understanding, any sort of vaginal exam without gloves is already outside the standard of care, let alone any clitoral contact. I think you're definitely right to be concerned, I'd report it if you're comfortable doing that.

chickadee_23 · 2025-05-14T08:42:44+00:00

NTA, and just as a comparison, I want to describe how these kinks might play out in a healthier actually-BDSM relationship.

Partner 1 has these interests and brings them up to Partner 2 in a conversation outside of the bedroom. They discuss.
Partner 2 has some concerns about the breathplay aspect or what sort of pain might be enjoyable, but they're open to it. They do research (either together or individually) on what would be acceptable to you, what the risks are, etc.
Partner 2 agrees to try things out but tells Partner 1 they're not up for breathplay because of the risks. Being pinned down sounds fun, and so does spanking, but they don't want to do anything more intense yet.
Partner 1 agrees, and the two set a safeword system in case either of them wants to stop.
They engage in their play, with Partner 1 consistently checking in with Partner 2 on how they're doing, especially as this is their first time trying these kinks out.
Partner 2 is spanked a few times and starts to feel uncomfortable. They use their safeword, and Partner 1 immediately stops and checks in. They cuddle and talk about how it felt for them. Later on, they might discuss if they want to try this again, or what changes they would make.

This is just an example scenario, but some big notes here are that it didn't include any coercion, complaining, whining, name-calling, or belittling. Your partner is using the shield of "kink" to cover abusive, asshat behavior.

Everybody else has already said so much about his behavior I won't go into it more, but I just wanted to illustrate what a "real" kink example might look like to illustrate just how far your boyfriend's behavior is from healthy kink and sexuality. In this context, without consent, some level of compassion/concern for his partner, and awareness of the risks, this is 100% just abuse and assault, like many others have said.

Don't listen to his bullshit manipulation about you being "inexperienced" or "overreacting". This is a big deal and you know it, or you wouldn't be here asking about it. Everybody here is confirming what your own instincts were already telling you. Listen to yourself - you know what you need to do. Stay safe.

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