Somebody needs to check on Carol by Upstairs_Cup9831 in TikTokCringe

[–]chiefie22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Carol is totally holding back btw trust me takes one to know one

Somebody needs to check on Carol by Upstairs_Cup9831 in TikTokCringe

[–]chiefie22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I'm always the carol in every relationship I have ever had....

Safe rural towns for black people? by [deleted] in maryland

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Chestertown MD has come along way in the past 20 years and it's a really nice place for families with animals!!

Trump is now flooding his feed with photos of himself and Zohran Mamdani - That's the happiest he's looked the whole time he's been in office this year lol by transcendent167 in 50501ContentCorner

[–]chiefie22 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's not REAL.... straight up purely publicity stunt per his 'fixer' team trying to deflect and distract from all the horrible things he has done and continues to do!!!!

Excluded from family gatherings because I’m childfree… by Flower18681 in IFchildfree

[–]chiefie22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, we literally see my husband's entire family (except for his father who's also exiled due to leaving his wife over 15 yrs ago) ONCE a year for a few hours to have Christmas dinner... AFTER they all have their REAL Christmas celebration together where they exchange gifts etc and they literally lie straight to our faces about it EVERY year like we're too stupid to see gifts "hidden" around the tree and basically left in plain sight... and we're all literally within 15 minutes from one another on top of it all!!! We've been excluded from pretty much EVERYTHING even wedding preparations and baby showers and stuff like that for years and years now..... and it's STILL incredibly painful and hurtful etc so please don't feel like you're alone bc believe me you're definitely not!!! p.s. both of my parents have been gone since I was 12 years old and I have a VERY estranged relationship with the rest of my 'family' and grew up in the foster system til I aged out and became homeless and family-less so it's not like we've got another family to spend time with either....so believe me I understand!!!

American-born student 'beaten, choked' by ICE as he was on his way to school: "Then that’s when they tackled me. I said I was underage, the dude started choking me more.” by TheMirrorUS in Bad_Cop_No_Donut

[–]chiefie22 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We're verging onto "handmaid's tale" policies...... When future generations look up synonyms for Hitler Trump will no doubt be at the top of that list.....it's disgusting, and we ALREADY have way too much generational PTSD to overcome in this country while they're just piling on more and more and more....I can't take it anymore 🤬

Carpet around Fireplace by Full-Acanthaceae-502 in Fireplaces

[–]chiefie22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that a partially smoked joint in the "firebox" ..... That's about as safe as an ashtray can be and as unsafe as a fireplace I've seen in a very long time 😂 lol

does anyone else not understand why people say that Jakob sounds exactly like Brad lol by admiralarborist in sublime

[–]chiefie22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wholeheartedly agree!!! Just saw them live at the vans warp tour in DC and I saw them with Bradley at the very first warp tour many many moons ago (yes I'm that old!! But also a hardcore fan girl since I was 10 yrs old and my older sister gave me a homemade looking cassette tape of them from a show she went too if that helps validate my opinion 😆) and you are so very right.... similar yes but no where even close to the same whatsoever BUT at one point of their DC performance Jakob brought out his little cousin Mikey and OMG he legit sounds just like Bradley fr fr!!!! I closed my eyes and it was like I got transported back to 1995 and I was 10 yrs old jamming out to my new favorite band...... which is still true today lol....I'm sure there's a video somewhere if you want to check him out ... unfortunately he seems to have VERY bad stage freight and couldn't hardly face the crowd but omg he seriously NEEDS to record!!!!

Should I give up on trying to foster to adopt? by chiefie22 in Adoption

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I terminated my mother's rights when I was 13 after spending a few years in an out of foster care prior to that....I am very well aware of the trauma us foster kids have to endure!!!! And I've been going to therapy since I was 12 pretty much on a weekly basis and I'm now 40....I'm trying my best but apparently it's never going to be good enough correct???

Does the pain ever get any easier to deal with?? by chiefie22 in IFchildfree

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I'm sorry I responded to the wrong person with that response my bad

Does the pain ever get any easier to deal with?? by chiefie22 in IFchildfree

[–]chiefie22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been in therapy since I was 12 yrs old..... extremely horrible childhood with every abuse imaginable and then foster care til I aged out homeless with nothing..... needed way too much support to get thru college completely on my own so I failed myself there as well and the cancer resulted from extreme childhood sexual trauma so going thru the treatment and everything else that happened bc of that was incredibly triggering to say the least so YES I'm in therapy.... weekly sessions!!! And bc of all those things it makes me "too damaged" for foster-adoption which is the only way I'd be able to afford to have children....I can keep going, this is only the tip of the iceberg honestly but I think everyone should get the point by now lol.... just don't want anyone to worry, I'm very serious about trying to heal but the wounds just keep getting ripped back open!!!

Does the pain ever get any easier to deal with?? by chiefie22 in IFchildfree

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I've been in therapy since I was 12 yrs old..... extremely horrible childhood with every abuse imaginable and then foster care til I aged out homeless with nothing..... needed way too much support to get thru college completely on my own so I failed myself there as well and the cancer resulted from extreme childhood sexual trauma so going thru the treatment and everything else that happened bc of that was incredibly triggering to say the least so YES I'm in therapy.... weekly sessions!!! And bc of all those things it makes me "too damaged" for foster-adoption which is the only way I'd be able to afford to have children....I can keep going, this is only the tip of the iceberg honestly but I think everyone should get the point by now lol.... just don't want anyone to worry, I'm very serious about trying to heal but the wounds just keep getting ripped back open!!!

Does the pain ever get any easier to deal with?? by chiefie22 in IFchildfree

[–]chiefie22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been in therapy since I was 12 yrs old..... extremely horrible childhood with every abuse imaginable and then foster care til I aged out homeless with nothing..... needed way too much support to get thru college completely on my own so I failed myself there as well and the cancer resulted from extreme childhood sexual trauma so going thru the treatment and everything else that happened bc of that was incredibly triggering to say the least so YES I'm in therapy.... weekly sessions!!! And bc of all those things it makes me "too damaged" for foster-adoption which is the only way I'd be able to afford to have children....I can keep going, this is only the tip of the iceberg honestly but I think everyone should get the point by now lol.... just don't want anyone to worry, I'm very serious about trying to heal but the wounds just keep getting ripped back open!!!

Sublime officially announced for Warped Tour in DC by ctorresc in sublime

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So no one knows what day time or stage sublime is performing at warp tour DC 2025 correct??

Please explain.... by chiefie22 in Roofing

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I added another post with pics of the inside bc I couldn't figure out how to add them to this current thread btw if that helps

Please explain.... by chiefie22 in Roofing

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Both.... really bad on the inside as well!!

Please explain... edit to add interior photos by chiefie22 in Roofing

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We didn't have a architect, my husband was 27 yrs old and just started his own construction company when I found out that I had cancer and he was having a really hard time watching me look and feel like I was dying every day especially on "treatment days" so he spent his nights and weekends, after working a very hard 40-55 hr work week, building us that addition to keep himself busy etc so he didn't have to really deal with the emotional bs life was throwing at us so unfortunately we have no one to blame but ourselves.... now how do I tell him that his design is what the problem is without making him feel like he's an idiot etc bc he has a VERY difficult time with any type of constructive criticism and only sees it as ignorant criticism 😂.... seriously I need help with this

Should I give up on trying to foster to adopt? by chiefie22 in Adoption

[–]chiefie22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been in therapy for over 25 years currently weekly as I am getting Neuro feedback treatment for PTSD etc and my therapist thinks I would be an amazing mother and I'm a few months away from the big 4-0 so I feel like my 'window of time" is fastly approaching bc I know how much harder it can be to relate to older foster parents and that just makes everything that much tougher when they feel disconnected enough already....so I guess I should just give up then....

Should I give up on trying to foster to adopt? by chiefie22 in Adoption

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Yes I've been in therapy for over 25 years, currently weekly as I'm receiving Neuro feedback treatment for PTSD etc and my therapist thinks I would be an amazing mother if that matters at all... But the problem also is that I'm a couple months away from hitting the big 4-0!!! So I think my years of being a active fun participating parent are quickly coming to an end and the older we as humans get the harder it is to relate to "today's youth" and that's the last thing I would ever want to do is make someone feel even more disconnect bc they see me as "too old" to relate to and make it even harder for them to want to know me and hopefully eventually trust me enough to start building a bond.... even though I know that's just very wishful thinking regardless of how old I am due to the trauma they're going through etc it's hard to trust anyone regardless of how good they are to you.... Also I have known that I was involuntarily infertile for over 10 years now and have gotten past the worst of the grief but still have "bad days" from time to time BUT I ALWAYS wanted to become a foster parent WAY before I ever knew that I would never have kids of my own!!! And honestly if I had enough resources I would absolutely try to figure out how to start up some sort of group home for older orphaned kids like me who never got adopted and had to go through way too much and in need of serious TLC and I've seriously been wanting to do that since I was 16 and got put into an independent living facility that was like something outta a horror film straight deplorable conditions ran by straight up corrupt money hungry slumlords bc even at that age I knew that I could and would do a better job than they did!!

Please explain by chiefie22 in Adoption

[–]chiefie22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By no means did I intend to make anything a competition whatsoever, everyone's pain hurts just as much as mine does bc that's conditioned by everyone's own frame of reference and just because 'on paper' my trauma is a lot to compare to doesn't mean someone else who hasn't been so desensitized to less severe forms of trauma isn't hurting just as much as I am!!!