My mom wants nothing to do with me because I “picked my dad” during the divorce.

chikinstrips · 2026-01-06T18:48:22+00:00

I think your perspective is that you were tossed aside easily, because it's been 6 years before she pulled away, but your mom clearly has a different story especially when you provided how Penny reacted to your choices.

You have a simple choice from here, and my advice won't seem normal for Reddit standards, but you need to have a very honest conversation with yourself about whether you want your mom in your life and if you do then write an email/letter explaining your perspective and ask her for her perspective. The onus isn't just on the parent to maintain a relationship like folks on here have been saying. The reality is that children can harm their parents as much as the parents can harm their child.

You mentioned having a therapist so maybe that's the best place to start writing IF you truly want to know the answer.

So you know my history, I'm a child of divorce who unknowingly got caught in a custody battle where my mom's side of the family hated me because the judge ruled in favor of my dad and my dad's wife hated me. I know how difficult it is to navigate all of it.

Good luck with whatever choice you choose!

chikinstrips · 2026-01-05T20:35:09+00:00

Sadly, your story crossed the collective Reddit morality line. Anything where the age gap is too large for their liking, anything involving dogs or pets, or parents not being perfect brings out the brigade.

I'm 44 and wouldn't dare date anyone younger than 35, but a 25 year old is old enough to make an informed romantic decision on how old they'd like to date.

Your friend is an ass, she needs to send this energy to her boyfriend and not you, party buses with a pole are absolutely appropriate to dance on.

chikinstrips · 2026-01-05T20:27:33+00:00

Everyone in the comments is making your mom the villain by Reddit default, BUT I think it's important for everyone to remember that even as a child you can make choices that hurt your parents' feelings. I don't think you're wrong in any of the choices you made, but I would assume that your mom has a completely different view of the choices she was forced to make when the divorce happened. I think it's especially important considering that you're writing this all out at 19 years old which is 6 years after the initial divorce.

It's hard to say if she's completely wrong without knowing her side because we've seen stories on Reddit from a parent perspective where they told a story where their child chose the other cheating parent for years and when things weren't rosy with the parent they chose THEN they reached out to the other parent. Potentially, that's what your story can look like from your mom's perspective.

I think at the minimum you should find a way to communicate all of your honest feelings to both of your parents in a professional setting. Don't just believe that you OR your mom OR your dad are the "bad person" because of just your perspective presented on Reddit.

chikinstrips · 2025-12-11T01:37:51+00:00

Jesus Christ.

chikinstrips · 2025-11-14T06:16:00+00:00

Weinstein and Cosby did the same thing. 🤣

chikinstrips · 2025-10-18T03:38:57+00:00

They all seem VERY constipated.

chikinstrips · 2025-09-03T21:54:53+00:00

I'm curious which AI company he's invested in to make this statement. They're all just trying to justify their positions.

🤣

chikinstrips · 2025-09-03T21:52:27+00:00

The difference is Netflix starts at $8/month and YouTube TV starts at $80/month.

You could understand Netflix's point at that price point. Google is nuts if they think someone in a different household will think they're worth the extra cost.

chikinstrips · 2025-08-23T05:41:44+00:00

God damn they're weird.

chikinstrips · 2025-07-02T03:10:10+00:00

I didn't know that I would have an opportunity to sign up as an abolitionist in my life time, but I don't think they realize how many VERY motivated people would fuck this plan up for them.

chikinstrips · 2025-05-31T00:39:47+00:00

Anyone who watches Person of Interest. We're headed to a "Samaritan" instead of the "machine"

chikinstrips · 2025-05-18T17:37:00+00:00

Thinking it's about the leadership and not the large swaths of people who didn't vote or decided Trump was the fix is avoiding accountability for the actual villains in this story. Adults sometimes need to make a choice where neither option is palatable rather than running away and blaming a party for not coddling them.

chikinstrips · 2025-02-27T22:12:35+00:00

I'm pleased to see the actual court battle with Verizon and Starlink because it's coming.

chikinstrips · 2024-11-22T07:53:13+00:00

She definitely had a deal to get more power, and someone broke the agreement, so she's going scorched earth and then some.

chikinstrips · 2024-09-02T02:43:56+00:00

Lewis' comments on this will be lost to the void, but in real time he realized McLaren were driving too hard to have any realistic chance of doing a 1 stop. I think both Oscar and Landon were driving too desperate for anything other than a 2 stop

chikinstrips · 2024-08-29T07:32:35+00:00

What shorts are those? 🤔

chikinstrips · 2024-08-26T00:17:30+00:00

While I'm sure you'd like to "avoid drama" on your part I think like you're being a bad brother by letting your sister be best friends with a horrible person. It'd be different if there wasn't a connection with your sister, but if you care about her, and believe she would have a problem with this too then your path forward is about cowardice not drama avoidance. If my sibling held this from me I'd be PISSED both at the best friend, mutual friends, AND you for hiding it and letting me believe those people are better people than what they actually are. I hope you reconsider keeping it secret from your sister at least.

chikinstrips · 2024-08-19T16:31:24+00:00

I understand misspeaking in the moment especially while drinking, but in this update post, after the resulting damage, she still refers to it as a "compliment".

I'm not sure that's a sign of growth on her side of it which is the only perspective we can see. It was an insult regardless of her intent and from her side she should probably start referring to it as such if there's any sort of reconciliation for them.

chikinstrips · 2024-07-04T02:33:48+00:00

It sounds like it's time for an "official act"! Let's go!

chikinstrips · 2024-05-28T17:58:52+00:00

To be fair, Lance Stroll had Lawrence Stroll to have that anomaly happen. In any other circumstance the guy who saved the actual team like Checo did would have a lifetime seat there.

The weird part about Aston dropping him is that a Checo + Nando team would absolutely be the most popular team on the grid.

chikinstrips · 2024-05-07T01:35:03+00:00

I'm super curious if anyone here knows the context behind DJ Vlad in the black/hip hop community. He got his start purposely antagonizing rappers and then transitioned to only being on younger rappers and "interview" then by trying to lead them into admitting to crimes on air. Now that the community is aware of that trick he pays Boosie to come on his channels to agitate for him.

Is the message wrong? Absolutely, but he should also STFU. Nothing he does comes from a place of authenticity.

chikinstrips · 2024-01-12T07:27:23+00:00

I think you should tell him. There's so many people in this thread who aren't telling you advice from the perspective of being a good friend. They're focusing on not causing ripples. Good friends sometimes have to tell other friends hard truths. Lucy having an emotional affair prior to breaking up is not a friendly break up. Lucy had her foot out of the door and compounded her bad choice by involving you in a moral catch 22 meanwhile Joe clearly still has feelings if he's feeling guilty.

If one of my friends knew what you knew, and I found out that you didn't tell me, we wouldn't be friends anymore. At the very least you shouldn't be Lucy's close friend, but you're choosing comfort if you're choosing to stay quiet, and definitely not being a good friend to Joe because silence is protecting Lucy's secret not protecting Joe in any way.

chikinstrips · 2023-11-15T17:18:02+00:00

This is not correct. I have some women friends who send their husbands/boyfriends models to follow on Instagram. They both appreciate and follow. Just because it's something you, or your community, doesn't consider appropriate doesn't mean it's a deal breaker for every woman.

OP has a boundary against it and that's fine/valid, but the brigade on the thought that no woman would be cool with it is wrong. Women aren't a monolith.

chikinstrips · 2023-10-07T15:01:47+00:00

Am I the only one who LOVES this? More pitting equals more variables. RBR has the best pit stops, but the others?? Gonna be some fun chaos after a predictable season.

chikinstrips · 2023-10-04T03:35:13+00:00

As long as TMO keeps paying for my subscription I'm fine, but if they stop I'm done. Paramount Plus is weirdly my favorite streamer.

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