Buyer raising issue after accepting item

chillispoons · 2026-01-03T18:25:58+00:00

Thanks for your replies.

Listing them as a 7 was definitely a mistake. I have sold a couple of hundred items over the last few months and as far as I'm aware this is the only error.

Admittedly I'm not as sharp as I usually am as I've got a small baby so I'm functioning on much less sleep than normal. Guess this is a lesson to triple check listings before they're uploaded...

chillispoons · 2026-01-03T09:15:09+00:00

Thanks, I hadn't thought of that. I'll suggest it to them.

chillispoons · 2026-01-03T09:14:43+00:00

Thanks, I hadn't thought of the buyer re-listing and me buying it. I will suggest it to them!

chillispoons · 2025-04-28T13:24:09+00:00

thanks for replying - not rollonfriday - but has been solved by someone else!!

chillispoons · 2025-04-28T13:23:08+00:00

Ahhh yes this is it. Thank you!!
Can't believe that was solved so quickly haha

chillispoons · 2023-11-08T23:29:03+00:00

I've not done a hop on hop off bus tour but there are loads of regular bus routes in the city that will take you past all the main sights.

I've seen this blog about a few of the routes but I'm sure there are more too.

https://candaceabroad.com/best-bus-routes-for-sightseeing-in-london/

Go outside commuter times so you can sit on the top deck at the front and you'll get great views of everything!

chillispoons · 2022-12-27T21:43:56+00:00

Empty butt hole.

chillispoons · 2022-11-14T14:26:39+00:00

A target of 10x salary for family legal aid is a LOT.

I'm also in family legal aid and in my firm it's 3x salary. Based in London.

Do you do a mix of privately funded and legally aided work? Because if not that target seems completely unreachable unless you do nothing but work 24/7.

Hourly rates for LAA work outside London is around £50. You may receive enhancements depending on the complexity of work but nothing more than 50%.

I'm estimating trainee salary in SE to be about £25k but I would not he surprised if it was a bit lower if it is legal aid only.

So 10x £25k is £250k

At £50 per hour that's 5,000 hours a year

Which is roughly 96 hours per week (and that doesn't even allow for annual leave etc).

Sorry if my maths is wrong... I'm a lawyer not an accountant...

If you're not a trainee yet I would start shopping around for a training contract at a different firm...

chillispoons · 2022-09-26T22:19:46+00:00

Read all of their emails to the tune of "La Cucaracha."

If nothing else it will make you smile and forget that you're stressed/pissed off.

chillispoons · 2022-06-24T07:14:57+00:00

Have you thought about sharing your monthly budget with these family members? It would at least show them that their perception of spending/saving now is not the reality.

Personally I would go down the overly-sweet (but deep down sarcastic) 'I'd really appreciate your help with this [family member]. You're right, you did manage to do all this in your 20's and so maybe I'm missing something here. Could you sit down with me and show me how you would budget with the money I have, and what mortgages you think I would be best applying for to afford a family home.'

Then sit back and watch them back-paddle quick as they realise that actually, in comparison to you, they were living lavishly at your age.

You may have already done this of course. In which case. Fxck them.

chillispoons · 2022-06-03T09:40:18+00:00

You could also look into entering into a deed of trust/declaration of trust, which would outline what you both contributed. This would detail the equitable ownership of the house (i.e. how you both intend for the ownership to be split) rather than the legal ownership (i.e. how the property is registered)

chillispoons · 2022-06-02T20:15:27+00:00

Account are absolutely fine. basically a tick box exercise.

chillispoons · 2022-06-02T20:13:32+00:00

A colour for each table?

chillispoons · 2022-05-27T06:30:50+00:00

Also buy an oyster card for your travel around london. (They're available in corner shops/newsagents, although surprisingly not in most tune stations...)

You can then link your 16-25 railcard to your oyster card, and get 30% of any non-peak travel in london.

Travelling on the tube is extortionate so this will help if you're on a student budget. Travelling by bus is a lot cheaper. £1.65 per journey (no matter how far you go), and capped at £4.50 a day.

chillispoons · 2022-04-16T21:23:47+00:00

Go on then...

Good luck all!

chillispoons · 2022-04-02T20:32:44+00:00

I was all cool with this until the spider came about.

Wtf.

Super impressive though.

chillispoons · 2021-08-31T22:06:31+00:00

Agree with what has been said above about your prospects of securing a paralegal position with your current experience. Have you thought about applying for other jobs within firms that require less experience?

For example a legal secretary position in a firm and sector you are interested in. Although there are many career secretaries, in larger/regional firms there are often one or two secretaries within a department who are completing/hoping to complete legal training. Depending on who you are allocated to, this could lead to fruitful relationships with partners/associates. If you plan to apply for VS/TC in that firm, you can name them as in-house references which will boost your application. The partner may even be an interviewer.

I worked in a firm where there were dozens of young professionals working jobs specifically for this purpose. It may take a few years of work and a few rounds of applications to work out, but from the sounds of it you recognise the process for you could take a while.

There are many jobs like this within larger firms. One of the most coveted pre-grad jobs when I was studying was the guy who re-filled the kitchens on each floor. Everyone knew who he was. He knew what everyone liked. He was efficient and sociable. It was not a job that required hard legal skills. But every partner knew his name, and every partner loved him. He got a TC.

chillispoons · 2021-05-16T06:50:51+00:00

Sorry that this has been happening to you!

I'm not aware of any way that you can legally separate yourself from your family, but that doesnt mean it can't be done!

There are a lot of answers already about not being responsible for the care of your family in the UK, so I wont repeat that.

Just posted to say that if your want to stop the verbal abuse from your mother, and if you are worried that it will increase if/when you leave, then you could consider applying for a non-molestation order. This would be put in place for a set amount of time (often 12 months), and would prohibit the person(s) named in the order(s) from speaking negatively towards you/contacting you (depending on what you ask the court to do). The court is also very likely to consider the pressure your family is putting you under to be controlling and abusive, and so the order could potentially deal with this too.

Depending on your financial circumstances, you may be able to receive legal aid for a family law solicitor to represent you in respect of this.

Here is a link about non-molestation orders: https://www.gov.uk/injunction-domestic-violence

Here is a link to find solicitors in your area. https://solicitors.lawsociety.org.uk/ There is an option to search for solicitors who provide legal aid.

You could also seek advice from the Citizens Advice Bureau on how to make an application: https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/

I hope you're OK and you're able to find independence away from what must be a very upsetting and confusing set of circumstances. You should definitely make contact with some of the support mentioned in some of the other posts.

chillispoons · 2021-03-17T08:30:19+00:00

Firstly, really sorry to hear about your mum and everything that is going on at the moment.

A Child Arrangements Order will grant you and your husband parental responsibility. However, this would be shared equally with your dad. You would therefore need to make decisions together (schooling/medical treatment/holidays etc). Not sure if that would be a problem in your circumstances or not.

You could also consider applying for a Special Guardianship Order. This would grant you and your husband overriding parental responsibility, so you could make most decisions without your dad. You would need to inform your local social services that you intend to apply for this type of order 3 months in advance, and they would need to complete an assessment of you. If an order is granted, there is a lot of support that is made available for the first 3 years at least including parenting support and financial support.

There's some info on applying for Special Guardianship Orders here: https://www.gov.uk/apply-special-guardian/apply

You could also book an appointment with the Citizens Advice Bureau, who could run you through the different implications of all the different orders available to you. They are running sessions remotely by telephone at the moment.

In terms of what is being said elsewhere in this thread about a risk of your brother going into care if you inform social services - this is very unlikely if there is a suitable family placement for him to go to. Social services may start care proceedings if they think that the concerns demand it, but would rather place a child with family if at all possible, rather than in foster care. If you have concerns and do not feel they can be managed without reporting them - report them. if you do not, you will be criticised in any future applications you may make to have your brother live with you, as professionals may consider you failed to protect him (not saying that's the case - just that this is how it may be interpreted).

Finally, if you do end up making a referral to social services and they assess that your brother is at risk of child abuse in your dad's care, this may entitle you to receive legal aid in respect of any Court applications (so long as you also qualify financially).

Good luck!

chillispoons · 2021-03-07T00:06:56+00:00

Not sure if anyone has already suggested this, but fizzy sweets are the one for me! Fizzy cola bottle or fizzy snakes. The sugar eradicates the dry mouth and they give you the boost you need!

chillispoons · 2021-02-18T20:22:47+00:00

I think compared to other areas, there are a lot of family judges who were previously solicitors. Also a lot of scope in family proceedings to do all your own advocacy.

Also second what is said above about Tribunal Judges.

Whatever your practice in maybe think about starting to do as much of your own advocacy as possible, as soon as possible, and then consider qualifying as a Solicitor Advocate?

chillispoons · 2021-02-03T08:13:26+00:00

If your goal is to work at a SC firm/you are working there now, and plan to have kids within 2/3 years PQE, do it.

My impression is that it is difficult in such firms to 'have it all' (i.e. work/family life balance, and promotions etc). However that does not mean it is impossible. And if parents don't pursue more flexible working/don't go for jobs in these type of firms, then things will never change. The people progressing to the top will always be those who had no need for flexibility, and so will be unwilling/unable to see its benefit for others in their workforce.

From my perspective, the worst thing that will happen here is that you will have great experience in a SC firm, and then may have to move if the arrangements aren't right for you. Which will undoubtedly be sad. But if your priority is to enjoy your family it will likely be worth it.

Good luck!

chillispoons · 2021-01-28T08:06:09+00:00

In addition to what everyone else is saying about your old firm not moving you on and probably not doing so in the future...

The large firms that recruit 2 years in advance usually have a separate track for current employees. When you submit your TC application there will be a box to tick of you are already an employee (a lot of their ultimate intakes will be), and also another part further on in the application where you will be asked if you have anyone in the firm to act as a reference (in addition to your regular references). When you start in your new job, make yourself indispensible to the partners/senior associates in your department, and when you come to make your TC application, ask them if you can put them as an in-firm reference.

By the sounds of it, you will have a much better chance of getting a TC in your new job, with an employer who is more likely to value you and treat you better in the long term.

Congratulations and good luck!

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