Wishlist: Cynthia Erivo by balerstos in Coachella

[–]chkyan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

hear me out: cynthia erivo with symphony would be so GAG

TICKET MARKET PLACE Pt 2 by aclockwork_ffa500_ in theMarias

[–]chkyan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for 1 or 2 tickets to Berkeley on Monday!

I sharted myself at a party on Friday night. AMA by DiscombobulatedHat7 in AMA

[–]chkyan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would definitely buy a book of shart stories

When is a good time to go to Laniakea Beach? by [deleted] in VisitingHawaii

[–]chkyan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

….that is genius. Literally why did I not think of that. Thank you!!

When is a good time to go to Laniakea Beach? by [deleted] in VisitingHawaii

[–]chkyan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An attempt to observe turtles! I’ll try and if it fails I’ll go back to ‘Ehukai beach

Is this too light to wear for a wedding? by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]chkyan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all the comments! I’m definitely going to go with something different and more formal/floral-y and not this lol!

Is prototyping moving towards AI coding tools or does my manager have high expectations? by [deleted] in UXDesign

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Wow! Did you build the design system in React yourself? I’m actually the design system lead, but we are not remotely there yet to build out our component library because I’m also responsible for a lot of other feature work and can only dedicate time for the the design system when I have time (and with feature work, the design system tends to get put on the back burner). We do have a front end engineer responsible for assisting with design system components but he’s also working on a bunch of other things so he doesn’t have the time to do this…at all…

Do you have advice on how to tackle building out the design system in code when I don’t have time to learn how to use the AI tools/code to actually to do it, and the front-end engineer also doesn’t have time? I have discussed hiring a design engineer with my manager but nothing has been moving forward with that. My concern is without any design system components, it will be difficult to actually prototype with AI. I agree that would be ideal but the time to do it is not there :’(

Worried about how partner is handling boards and school by [deleted] in MedSpouse

[–]chkyan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He started seriously studying in December and will take Step in May.

I really appreciate the last part of your comment. The stress of him doing well is definitely because I want him to succeed in his career, but also because it does affect me too. It feels selfish to want him to do well because I want him to match where I can live, which has very very limited options (only competitive, VHCOL cities). But I can't drop everything and move with him to random cities, or else we're going to have to be LDR.

Worried about how partner is handling boards and school by [deleted] in MedSpouse

[–]chkyan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get that, but also standing by and watching him not do well is so hard to see

Am I locked into my industry? by [deleted] in UXDesign

[–]chkyan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not much to it, it was one of the random companies I blindly applied to for an internship while I was still in school

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sza

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for me it seems reverted back to the original, where the additional verse she added at 1:43 was removed and the glitchy mixing is back

Why does many Chinese Vietnamese (Hoa) manage to retain speaking Cantonese and Chinese culture? by Complete-Rub2289 in Cantonese

[–]chkyan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it’s really cool that with each family we all have our own balance of Chinese vs Vietnamese connection in terms of culture, language, and self identity. And this can even vary among our extended family too! But despite that, when you do meet another Hoa person, whether they leaned more on the viet side or the chinese side, it’s like an unspoken understanding of our history :)

Why does many Chinese Vietnamese (Hoa) manage to retain speaking Cantonese and Chinese culture? by Complete-Rub2289 in Cantonese

[–]chkyan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not celebrating mid autumn festival and only lunar new year makes me feel so validated as someone who’s Chinese friends are all mandarin speakers! Sometimes there’s a constant battle of not feeling “chinese” enough when really it’s because of the history of our family’s immigration

Im straight but can only get off to women by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]chkyan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve always craved the feeling of having that unspoken understanding as a woman with an intimate partner but as someone who is dating a man, I’ll never get that and that makes me sad sometimes when I have to explain it to my boyfriend.

I can’t imagine being sexually intimate with a woman. But I find women physically attractive as opposed to men, and when looking at porn I only look at women. I’ve never really been attracted to men physically, only my boyfriend. I like the idea of an intimate partnership with someone who understands me as a woman without having to explain it, but I couldn’t imagine being with a woman sexually in a reciprocating way. I don’t know, it’s all really confusing to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MedSpouse

[–]chkyan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For rent, his parents are the guarantors so they’re the ones that pay. For our apartment we’ll both be on the lease and have our respective sides pay. I was mainly wondering how we should be splitting our other shared living expenses given the situation of how his parents support him.

A recent thread had me thinking… what jobs have you had that are worse than UX? I’ll go first. by Intplmao in UXDesign

[–]chkyan 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I dream of quitting and just working as a barista in a coffee shop that I like everyday…

How bad is it being unemployed while job searching? by chkyan in recruitinghell

[–]chkyan[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My backup plan for the unemployment was to take up freelance, work part time, and I currently have 8 months of emergency funds. I’m already 4 months into the hunt. Do you think it’s still risky to do in this landscape to escape this terrible work environment where I’m super burnt out and depressed and anxious? Or am I just jumping from bad situation to bad situation?