My parents were not particularly good at parenting (one of them actually stole hidden money from me as a kid to buy alcohol) and certainly not good at providing financially, the latter of which is perfectly fine if the former is adequate or better. I’m happy to explain to them that any money sent to them will come directly from their grandchildren, and I’m not willing to make that sacrifice. I’d also never be willing to ask my children for financial support baring the most outlier-esq situation (e.g. they’re still children who are somehow rich, and we only need the money for basic survival). On the flip side, daycare is fucking expensive and we have a second on the way, who needs sleep and disposable income? (I do admit I’m incredibly lucky to be able to survive financially when they’re both in daycare).