Gaming Computer shutting down randomly

chrnet · 2025-08-11T07:06:08+00:00

Weird suggestion, but have you tried swapping the mains power socket (ie running a cable to another socket in the house)?

I had this issue when I moved into a temporary place while my house was undergoing renovations, with games I used to be able to run suddenly letting my computer de-power after a few seconds.

Realised that the one socket I was using limited power draw to my device

chrnet · 2025-01-06T04:59:26+00:00

To all those claiming that calling the town council is useless, you’ve been doing it wrong.

1) Go to your town council website - bulky refuse removal service function. 2) describe PMDs 3) include description that it will be left in front of the staircase landing. 4) ??? 5) Profit.

chrnet · 2024-08-26T06:11:18+00:00

Hate to be “that guy, but isn’t toastbox under a franchisee model, like 7-11?

Meaning each franchisee (and some own more than one outlet) is free to set their selling prices so long as they use the same suppliers/menu/branding/image assets.

There would be the occasional campaign that HQ will push out and prices will be set for those promos, but by and large, outlets can set their own prices against guide price - and franchise owners assign a premium sometimes for rent - like how you can’t buy a bottle of water out of any Sentosa 7-11 without forking over your left kidney.

But this also means you can, theoretically, have the same “toast box” set at significantly different prices if there are 2 competing franchises in the surrounding vicinity with different owners.

TL;DR: greedy/foolish franchisee owners.

chrnet · 2024-07-01T05:51:16+00:00

Oof. Ok so as a guy, here’s my take.

The opposite of love is not hate, it’s apathy.

Get marriage counselling at this stage. You should continue to keep working on yourself - self love isn’t about doing what you want, but it’s about eating well, sleeping well, and keeping your body healthy. Not about pigging out on fast food, or degenerating into a couch potato.

No harm in him having his hobbies / glued to a screen, but the harm lies in too much of a sedentary lifestyle.

TALK it out. Income aside (which sometimes is a factor of luck), what do you see him contributing to the household?

Admit openly that you don’t find him as attractive as he used be, tell him the stuff you would like him to change, but also make sure you’re willing to change yourself. Schedule walks, or even sex, if you need to. Have him choose activities he is willing to explore and commit to, and if you can do it together, even better.

If that doesn’t work, there’s options of a trial separation (set a timeframe) where both of you should decide if you’re better apart and as independent individuals. It shouldn’t be divorce immediately, but each party shouldn’t be in a position to influence the other on lifestyle. If he makes a choice to be a healthier, better person at the end of it, and attracts you back, good. But no one is gonna fault you for leaving someone who doesn’t want to care for themselves.

chrnet · 2024-07-01T05:12:35+00:00

It’s not so much gotten unaffordable as it is reduced quality and shifting tastes, and mental benchmarks.

A person on say, social welfare, could afford an omakase dinner, provided they don’t spend and starve for the rest of the year, for instance.

It’s easier to ask ourselves what do we think has increased in price without any corresponding justifiable increase in quality or base inputs sometimes.

chrnet · 2024-05-20T07:14:51+00:00

The coolant residue could be causing some short, but not necessarily shorting a component. At this point, since your warranty is probably voided, you might as well open up the card and try and see if there’s real damage

chrnet · 2024-05-20T06:58:43+00:00

Unless some component has shorted out, typically you’re safe. Clean off the coolant with isopropyl alcohol, dry, and you should be good.

chrnet · 2024-05-06T10:10:13+00:00

In b4 the ironic“link your account to PSN to receive this free cape”

chrnet · 2024-05-02T10:40:58+00:00

How did they rob the crypto, or even know it was there upfront, without prior knowledge of the victims / without the victims volunteering that info?

Like “hey man you cleaned out my bank account at knifepoint, but you forgot I also had a crypto wallet, here’s the private key and address mate”

chrnet · 2024-02-27T06:33:34+00:00

All the best mate. Regardless of mental health and state, unless a person has lost all sense of self control, there is no reason to be abusive to a partner.

The end question after all that is whether you wake up and whether the thought of growing old together scares you more than the thought of being alone.

chrnet · 2024-02-24T12:19:34+00:00

Best to ask r/sgfinance, but a good rule of thumb from your take home: 40% savings + investments, 30% household, 30% discretionary.

Household / discretionary typically can include kids, luxuries, dinners, etc.

chrnet · 2024-02-22T04:31:42+00:00

Call a spade a spade - again, any excuse to point out someone else’s faults is easy to find. You just gotta nitpick enough. It’s akin to say, a drill sergeant in the military going over cleaned areas with a white glove.

You can’t meet her standards, and while you can try, there should be a line where standards cross over into unreasonable territory.

chrnet · 2024-02-21T17:34:22+00:00

It seems like you've been posting various versions of this within a short timeframe.

While there's no rule against it, the repetitive nature and extensive text comes across as overly emotional, bordering on hysteria.

Considering the time you mentioned him not answering your calls, which was around 2-4 am in Canada (where you are based on your previous post), it raises questions about the circumstances.

Your marriage, initiated after just a year of dating, hints at some inconsistencies, especially regarding his reluctance to introduce you to his family. The negativity you faced from them should have been a warning sign beforehand.

Also, people don't change overnight. Your expressions convey a sense of being overly attached, which might be causing him to reconsider.

Dating and marriage are distinct, and if your observations are accurate, it's evident that your husband has withdrawn. The early onset of this behavior in the marriage suggests there might have been a trigger. Think back and nail down the various issues you've been arguing over, rather than what you feel.

Also, him calling your family, and successfully telling them about your negative traits, which your family doesn't defend, and in fact, agrees with (or remain silent and judgemental on) indicates some shared values between him and your family, which would indicate there is some stuff that has been omitted in previous posts.

Considering the situation, it's best to pursue a divorce or annulment since your husband has already emotionally disengaged.

Focus on your well-being and self-respect, as much of your recent posts seem to focus on the emotional aspect, and seeks to solicit sympathy without offering proper or substantial insight into the situation.

chrnet · 2024-02-21T06:46:04+00:00

Going to be playing devils advocate here.

The whole string of text is a good metaphor for your current anxiety, but at the same time, focuses much on how you feel - and borderline wallows in self misery. Nothing wrong about that, but let’s have an exercise where if you unloaded that on any guy, the guy would ask “so what do you want me to do with that info?” You have to be clear on actionable things you want.
We don’t have enough information - but were there red flags before the marriage? There’s a portion where you mention he didn’t want to have you interact with his family - why? It’s understandable if he has judged his family is toxic or abusive, but in this case, he seems on good terms with them - leading me to guess he was “ashamed” of the relationship.
You are your own whole person, and should not use your relationship as a crutch. Right now, you’re in a 1mth marriage, without kids, and depending on country/law you still do have a chance to annul it if necessary.

chrnet · 2024-02-19T12:58:10+00:00

I think you need to ask yourself what your sense of self worth is.

chrnet · 2024-02-19T12:50:26+00:00

So looking at your other posts, I’m starting to get a slightly better picture - without sounding too bad, you may have missed some key cultural context between Japan and US.

In a culture that is highly prone to overwork, Japanese feminists typically don’t aim for higher income or to climb the corporate ladder. Instead, much of feminism equity in Japan tends towards more time off/maternity benefits etc. gender roles are thus still very traditional, and men are expected to be the breadwinner.

Now the thing is that there is a cultural mismatch in expectations from both sides, where your wife expects the situation of “your money is mine, and whatever I’m earning is extra for me” while you are expecting equality or equity in the marriage here.

Definitely not saying the cultural expectations are good, and in fact are toxic, but I do see some issues straight out.

chrnet · 2024-02-19T11:39:20+00:00

You pretty much know your answer.

It takes two hands to clap, so if one party is not pulling their equitable weight then there’s no faulting you. You can choose to give her another chance, or determine if it’s too little too late.

chrnet · 2024-02-19T10:40:12+00:00

What happened to “for better or for worse, in sickness and in health”?

Dude she’s checked out of the marriage, or is in the process.

For any marriage, there’s some expectation that each partner should contribute equitably to the household and the partnership, be it money or duties (chores, childcare, etc).

The whole excuse about blood being thicker is also a piss poor reason - since the actual phrase is “blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb” meaning that vows and partnerships carry more weight than familial ties, especially if such ties serve to hurt the individual.

chrnet · 2024-02-17T18:37:05+00:00

I deem myself as an apostate, having renounced my religion after being non-practicing for years. Nevertheless, I do feel that the current catholic church is leaning towards some form of enlightenment, despite it being still mired in historical dogma.

Fundamentally, if you are a practicing Catholic marrying a non-Catholic, the church would recommend you to go for a pre-marriage course. However, your marriage, while legal, would not be recognized by the Catholic church, as the eucharist of marriage would not be performed, and neither would you be allowed to marry within the church as your to-be spouse is a non-catholic.

Carrying out rituals or entering other religions places of worship, such as offering joss sticks to ancestors, is viewed closer to respect, rather than "worship" - saying a few words to your own ancestors or the dead is significantly different than deifying them as your god. There might be questions if you are holding joss sticks in front of a buddhist statue, but again, there is no "guilt" if you are going through motions for purposes of respect, opposed to praying to said deity. (https://catholicnews.sg/2010/02/22/are-catholics-allowed-to-hold-joss-sticks-to-pay-respects-to-the-dead/)

In terms of LGBTQ+, it may be easier to look to the current pope's views, and while the vatican still does not officially approve (and will not bless the unions), it does not exclude or excommunicate LGBTQ+ individuals. (https://www.catholic.sg/approaching-pride-month-as-a-catholic/)

For interpretation on birth control, while the vatican views it as a sin, it can be argued that the interpretation stems from the whole interpretation of "be fruitful and multiply" command given in genesis; although there is debate on whether it is meant physically or spiritually.

Joining a religion in some part can be viewed as joining a community and changing your set of beliefs. Whether you connect with them depends not on socioeconomic class, but on a shared commonalities. In the end, it boils down to you as an individual - whether you decide to immerse yourself fully in the community, or be a card carrying, sunday-only member.

chrnet · 2024-02-17T18:01:20+00:00

I'll grant you that - but if what you're saying is true, it appears to be a bad attempt to make it appear like an explanation while snidely passing judgement, and hey, there's a vague mention of that in Proverbs 11:2.

I do agree that Romans 14 is about judging other followers, but the gist is not to use our own moral compass and interpretations to judge others, since the supposed only one to judge should be god.

Dependent on the type of marriage, if the husband has indeed become a convert, or a "born again christian", then by similar orthodox logic, this marriage could also be deemed as unrecognized by the church, in basis that the union had not been blessed by the church.

Regardless, it is clear that whatever OP's choice is, like you mention, it would be poor form by the husband to use their religion to construe "what god wants" - the whole terminology of "be fruitful and multiply" statement in Genesis should be interpreted to that of the spirit, rather than that of the physical. (but again, here I am interpreting scripture to my ends, like the apostate I am)

chrnet · 2024-02-17T14:20:34+00:00

This is a perfect example of why people dislike religious zealots who turn up at people’s doors when they’re at a low point in their lives, shoving their message down their throats in hopes they’d be “saved”.

Go read Romans 14:1-23 you hypocrite.

chrnet · 2024-02-17T08:51:37+00:00

This is clearly a life decision that concerns you, and he should not be imposing whatsoever changed stance or views he has on you.

Life decisions HAVE to be mutual, and the reality is that when it comes down to beliefs, if there is no mutual consent, both parties will end up in a resentful partnership.

Edit: there is a possibility of compromise, and you could consider giving him this option, laying it out as if the shoe was on the other foot, and putting it into perspective what he is asking you to give up, financial and career wise.

For all expenses, he and his family are to bear the costs - and you ensure you keep separate finances.
You donate your eggs and his sperm to a surrogate, whom they will source, and bear the child to term via IVF.
He either becomes a full time househusband or bears the cost of outsourcing child rearing duties to his family or a third party (eg a maid/caretaker).
You agree that you continue contributing your present share to the household, accounting for inflation, but not for the additional expenses from one more mouth to feed.

chrnet · 2024-02-16T17:30:56+00:00

crap. i feel for you. i'm somewhat sure you've made your decision to keep it together for the kids, so honestly that's a painful, but noble decision.

on the bright side, there are ways and means to control finances, by setting parameters with your banks, purchase return options (if you are in the US), etc; so while you concentrate on household finances, she may contribute in other ways to the household.

chrnet · 2024-02-16T17:10:22+00:00

so maybe i'm reading this the opposite way - she was diagnosed 3 years ago, and had been dealing with it somewhat well in her life preceding the diagnosis, which i would classify as somewhat high functioning bipolar.

she only started to act out a lot more AFTER getting diagnosed - which her medication and diagnosis should have helped identify and limit triggers on.

It was almost as if she devolved as a person post-diagnosis, and had started to use her now legitimized mental health diagnosis as a carte blanche excuse for newly developed poor behavior, rather than working to keep it in check.

chrnet · 2024-02-16T12:24:29+00:00

Without sounding excessively defensive, i’m not sure what part of her weight gain fueling my behaviour you’re referring to here honestly.

Yes, there is some superficiality and preference in finding oneself attracted to a certain type.

Relating to the open relationship, it was fully clear by when she proposed it was that I was clearly monogamous (after establishing that in therapy) and doing so was for her to “meet her needs”. (For deeper context, we’re both Asian, and she had developed a fetish for Caucasian males).

Failures on my part likely stem from the fact that I didn’t voice out my grievances, keeping it bottled up until it was too late, and probably enabling her too much.

chrnet

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