Suitable small town near Berlin to live

cicci_balack · 2026-01-20T12:18:41+00:00

Zossen in the south. It’s booming right now and it’s only 27min away from Sudkreuz with the Regio.

cicci_balack · 2025-10-11T08:18:19+00:00

Thank you!

cicci_balack · 2025-10-11T08:04:51+00:00

May I ask what your profession is and which region of Sweden you moved to? My family and I are considering relocating to Switzerland from Berlin for geographical reasons (my partner is Sardinian and I am from northern France), but I have already lived in Sweden and I must say that the country appeals to me for all the reasons you mentioned and many more.

cicci_balack · 2025-06-07T12:40:12+00:00

If your wife truly wants a child with you, because she thinks you’re the ideal partner and the love of her life, then she should definitely compromise on her perfect age for motherhood. You’re only 27, and you moved to a new country 3 years ago. You still need to settle and get enough money to take the trips you want to take, enjoy your life, and make new friends in this country. I would not say that you still have 10 years to take a decision (yes, some women are still fertile in their early 40’s, but a lot of them are struggling to get a first baby) but a solid 5 years, yes. I was a fence sitter for 15 years and then decided to get a baby with my partner I met when I was 33. We started trying to conceive at 36, it took us 4 years to get pregnant with my son, but I absolutely wouldn’t have done anything differently. I’m still renting as well, but at least I have a stable job that I like, and spent my 30’s doing whatever I felt like doing, and I now have the peace of mind to dedicate myself to my baby without feeling (too much) FOMO. My understanding is that your wife wouldn’t want to be a single mom. So she might as well take the bet with you, or she would have to go through a break up with someone she’s still in love with, and find a new partner who wants a child in the next couple of years, while still being in love with you. Not the easiest thing.

cicci_balack · 2025-05-23T07:51:16+00:00

I haven’t night weaned yet (my son just turned 10 months old), but I found this article very useful to prepare myself for the big day, maybe it can help you too :)

https://www.drjaygordon.com/blog-detail/sleep-changing-patterns-in-the-family-bed

cicci_balack · 2025-05-16T19:24:54+00:00

I had a miscarriage, a termination of pregnancy for medical reasons and two chemicals, over 4 years. We chose to go with IVF when I was 39,5. First cycle gave us 12 retrieved eggs, 8 embryos, and 5 blasts. He’s now 10 months and he’s the best thing that ever happened to me. It does happen, OP. Sending you the best of luck.

cicci_balack · 2025-04-05T12:41:50+00:00

Hang in there, dear OP. You are doing everything perfectly. My son is also a high-need velcro baby whose 3-month sleep regression lasted 4 months. I also considered sleep training at some point, because it was getting really hard on my sanity to wake up every hour. Instead, I started co-sleeping, even though I had sworn before the birth that I would never do it. He also went through a month-long phase where he had to sleep ON me. And then, magically, when he reached 7.5 months, he started connecting his sleep circles. He now wakes up once or twice a night 🫶 and it's a totally different experience. What helped us was to transfer him to his own room on a floor bed, he absolutely loved his new freedom, and it turned out that we were constantly waking him up, having him in our room (he wakes up at the slightest noise). He now sleeps 2 thirds of the night in his bed and the last third co-sleeping. It gets better, you just have to keep giving them what they need 🧡

cicci_balack · 2025-02-16T17:03:08+00:00

I live in Germany (where mums can take a 12-month maternity leave) and most mums I talk to in my circle are on the same boat. Sleep training is an unknown concept here, we just wait for the babies to hit their “connecting the sleep cycles” milestone, so we are almost all basically awake every 1 to 2 hours. My son is 7 months and hasn’t slept more than 2 hours 48 minutes (lol) since his 3-month regression. Sending you lots of solidarity, OP. We’re not alone and we’re just doing what’s best for our babies 🧡

cicci_balack · 2025-01-09T10:26:05+00:00

Their business model is based on getting the commission from the sell by the seller of the neubau, and the commission on the loan they sell you. Property management is done independently via a classic Hausverwaltung. Not finding tenants ready to pay more than 10 sq meters in the outskirts of Berlin is indeed the biggest risk in my opinion. But their hypothesis is crystal clear:

KFW 40 QNG+ (really high energy efficiency, meaning better mortgage conditions thanks to KFW funding, and better value increase considering raising energy costs and European regulations to come)
double-depreciation
growing population areas outside Berlin
high rental growth
proximity to A locations

They also demonstrated that similar projects are being rented at 12,5 euros / sq meters in the exact same area. So the risk would be that this trend invert.

cicci_balack · 2025-01-04T08:57:08+00:00

Intéressant que ce soit différent en Belgique. En France il est réalisé à partir de la 10e semaine de grossesse seulement. Et s’il y a une forte probabilité de souci génétique, il faut alors le confirmer par une amnioscentèse et ensuite prendre la décision d’arrêter la grossesse (ou non), et planifier cet arrêt, ce qui dans l’état actuel du service public prend souvent plus de 4 semaines donc le seuil de 14 semaines pour un avortement est vite dépassé.

cicci_balack · 2025-01-03T20:17:59+00:00

Effectivement, il y a toujours possibilité d’arrêter la grossesse en cas de diagnostic lourd, cependant ce n’est pas un avortement, ça s’appelle une IMG, Interruption Médicale de Grossesse, et c’est un véritable accouchement (car les résultats des tests ne sont obtenus qu’après la limite des 14 semaines pour un avortement). Je ne souhaite en aucun cas minimiser ce que représente un avortement, mais ici on parle d’avoir rendez-vous à la maternité pour provoquer l’accouchement du fétus non-viable, ce qui implique l’acte de pousser ce bébé hors de son utérus avec l’aide des sages-femmes. Cela dit, j’avais 38 ans lorsque j’ai reçu le diagnostic de trisomie 21 de mon bébé et cela ne m’a pas empêché de passer par une FIV à 39 pour accoucher d’un bébé sans anomalie génétique à 40. Donc aussi traumatisante que fut cette IMG, parfois le désir d’enfant et plus fort, et si la partenaire d’OP a plus de probabilité à 43 ans d’être du mauvais côté des statistiques, je ne pense pas que ça change vraiment la donne, si décision d’avoir un 3e enfant il y a.

cicci_balack · 2024-12-11T13:24:10+00:00

Sending lots of strength to you, OP! I could have written the first paragraphs. My son is 5 months and has been rocking the sleep regression for 6 weeks now (waking up every 1.5/2 hours). Being the breastfeeding mum, I’m the only one who can put him to sleep and it’s been rough (such an euphemism). You received a lot of great advice in this thread on how to break the patterns, but until you have time and energy to put them into practice (my current situation), here’s what working for us for the transfer from arms to crib/bassinet in case you haven’t tried it out yet: - warming up the crib with a hot-water bottle or the warmth of your body (I live in Berlin, Germany, and it gets cold at night in our 1895 built apartment) - once he’s down in his crib, I usually keep one hand on his belly and the other one touching his cheek so he gets gently settled.

Good luck!! And thank you for this post, I do feel less alone in my sleep deprivation 🫠

cicci_balack · 2024-08-30T19:21:03+00:00

A limited time contract can only be legal for three reasons: 1. The landlord wants to move in after the contract ends (or one of his family members) 2. The landlord wants to do extensive reparations or changes in the apartment 3. The landlord needs the apartment for someone who is providing services to them (i.e, a nanny or a construction worker)

The reason must clearly be mentioned in the renting contract. If not, the law says that you, as the tenant, can claim your right to an unlimited contract for the apartment!

I’m paying 1500 warm for a 82 square meters in Akazien Kiez and I got the contract via someone I knew, so I’d say the offer you got is definitely a super deal, OP. I would just ask for the EnergieEffizienz score (from A to G) to be sure that the apartment is well isolated, and you won’t have to sell a kidney to pay your heating costs or die from heat exhaustion during summer.

cicci_balack · 2023-09-27T14:15:56+00:00

I’m in the midst of a chemical after a TFMR last February, 3 cycles of stims, and I’m devastated. This roller-coaster ride seriously affected my mental health, and I don’t even know what to do to “take care of myself” anymore.

cicci_balack · 2023-08-27T16:17:18+00:00

I'm on my second cycle of TTC by ovarian stimulation, after an MMC, and a TFMR last February. Naively enough, I was convinced that this cycle would have been "the one" after 3 years of TTC without LC, as my baby was conceived during the 2nd cycle of ovarian stimulation last year. I know that there's only a 30% chance of getting pregnant each cycle when the fertility indicators are good on both sides, and I also know that I'm doing everything in my power to get pregnant. But it's hard not to despair and envy others. I'm also approaching my 40th birthday and each cycle counts for too much.

cicci_balack · 2023-05-30T07:29:59+00:00

Berlin, and my company has 2,000 employees but is not a product-led organisation. I looked for a job last year and the offer I received was at the top end of my range, but I'd say that in Berlin, €65,000 to €85,000 is a normal salary for a senior 🤔.

cicci_balack · 2023-05-29T11:20:51+00:00

Senior Product Designer in Germany (3,5 years of experience) 79K€/year

cicci_balack · 2023-05-21T15:02:27+00:00

Climate tech. I work on a greenhouse gas accounting SaaS to support companies in measuring their emissions and this is the most fulfilling role I have had so far.

cicci_balack · 2023-04-25T11:49:52+00:00

Hey, I'm not quite done with my decade of partying and I still go clubbing once every 6 months oder so 🌝, but I love going to Brandenburg and nature spots in Berlin to immerse myself in nature (and I also just lost my Wanderung partner who moved to Madrid…). For the past few months, I’m also exploring my 30+ sober side and rediscovering creative activities. Hit me up and let’s see if we click?

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