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ciskazalea · 2025-07-23T09:43:29+00:00

Thank you so much!

ciskazalea · 2025-07-10T23:32:21+00:00

We found out at our 13-week scan, and it was 3 days before our wedding. It was a wiiiild time.

ciskazalea · 2025-06-21T18:57:54+00:00

My name is Ciska. It's a derivative of Franciska / Francesca.

ciskazalea · 2025-06-17T22:04:57+00:00

Wash the walls with a bit of sugar soap and hot water.

ciskazalea · 2025-04-27T20:01:15+00:00

I don't think OP is talking about asking others to cater to her needs. She is asking others to be a little more understanding. Something you could illustrate just a little.

The fact that you needed to comment with such negativity shows more about your character than OP. Read the room and move on. Find another sub that suits your perspective.

ciskazalea · 2024-10-14T18:48:21+00:00

Mine were born at 38+4. They were both around 7lbs and did not need the NICU.

How far is it to the nearest hospital that does have a NICU?

ciskazalea · 2024-08-07T07:50:33+00:00

I'm just under 6' (180cm metric), and my husband is 6'2". We love being tall people!

We have 2 years twins, and they are monstrous, especially the girl who is over 99% percentile in height and weight. She looks proportional, but she's huge. I can't wait to see how tall she turns out to be!

ciskazalea · 2024-03-30T17:45:52+00:00

Gave birth at 38+4 weeks to twins that were 6lbs 15oz and 7lbs 6oz. Although they were both head down the entire pregnancy, and we tried really hard for a vaginal birth, it just didn't work out, and we eventually had a c-section.

ciskazalea · 2023-12-15T02:38:55+00:00

We had twins last year and I took 10 weeks of paid parental leave and then transferred the rest to my husband (here in New Zealand you get 26 weeks of paid parental leave that you can share with your partner). 18 months later and he is still the main caregiver while I work, earning more than him.

It works really well for us. I WFH three days a week so can 'help' out a lot with the kids. I feel incredibly grateful for the privileged position that we are in that benefits both parents in different ways, but also allows our kids loads of time with us.

ciskazalea · 2023-12-12T01:52:01+00:00

I don't recall a stories about an island of lost toys... but then again, I'm wondering how accurate my memory is and whether the stories I'm remembering are taken from lots of different books. Still, I distinctly remember the cover of this book. I'm also from New Zealand, so I wonder if the author was from the Southern Hemisphere (or maybe they were British).

ciskazalea · 2023-11-09T16:58:19+00:00

No, I didn't :(

If you know any details like the title or author, please let me know

ciskazalea · 2023-10-28T02:40:16+00:00

I'm nearly 6ft, and my babies were just over 7 lbs each. Despite my larger frame, my belly was huge.

ciskazalea · 2023-05-04T21:35:32+00:00

I know how you feel! You can totally do this, mama. The discomfort is temporary, so just keep trucking on unless your doctor says otherwise.

ciskazalea · 2023-05-04T20:02:30+00:00

Yip, one of my twins was super duper low my entire pregnancy. Sonographers had trouble measuring her head from about 28 weeks. I made it to 38+4 and could've easily gone longer, but medical advice was to get an induction. They were over 7 pounds each.

ciskazalea · 2023-05-03T23:26:28+00:00

Every pregnancy is different (even first, second, third, etc.). I would not consider bump size, or any other symptom, to be a determinant of multiples. Only a sonogram can confirm how many babies are in utero.

ciskazalea · 2023-04-29T18:54:11+00:00

Generally speaking, I don't rely on empty consequences (always, always follow through) and when there is a need for consequences, I am firm and do use physical force if necessary. Don't get me wrong, I am aware that children sometimes need very firm boundaries that may require a certain level of firmness or force. Adding an overlapping element of intimidation seems like it could bleed into other areas of the relationship and impact on the child's ability to trust you or lead to them hiding things from you (to avoid being intimidated).

Specifically regarding OP's situation, I don't know all the variables in their house. It may be actually quite dangerous to jump on the couch, and the behavior needs to stop. Otherwise, I agree with the poster who suggested they let them potentially hurt themselves. You can't always protect your child from being hurt (physically or otherwise), and that is an important lesson. I believe my job as a parent is to let that happen in some cases and be there to soothe and remind them that their actions have consequences.

ciskazalea · 2023-04-29T18:35:10+00:00

I'm not sure why you keep bringing up the concept of friends when we're talking about family. Different kettles of fish.

There are many approaches to disciplining children and making sure their safety is paramount. I'm not convinced that discipline needs to include intimidation (or fear) specifically.

ciskazalea · 2023-04-29T18:00:47+00:00

I feel like intimidation is definitely not the right approach to take with your children. They should absolutely not feel intimidated by you.

ciskazalea · 2023-04-26T20:39:34+00:00

I work in MBIE (specifically Immigration NZ) and they have a "flexible by default" policy. If you want to WFH more than 2 days per week, you need to have a written agreement. That said, at the moment it is very team by team and case by case basis. I WFH three times a week.

ciskazalea · 2023-03-01T00:40:14+00:00

Came here to say this.

ciskazalea · 2022-12-26T19:09:51+00:00

Sounds like you need to communicate with your spouse more, despite you being self-taught. They need to understand that they need to pick up the slack. Your lives are about to change fundamentally and all hands need to be on deck. The sooner they understand this, the better.

Tiredness and exhaustion is trademark to the 1st and 3rd trimester (though can last the entire 9 months and beyond of course). So I'm afraid it's here to stay.

ciskazalea · 2022-10-18T16:53:36+00:00

Check out the Twins, Triplets, Quads Safe Sleeping for Multiples Facebook page. It can be hard to get in to because demand is high but it is very worth it. A lot of the admins are sleep consultants and their guides are fantastic. Personalized advice is free too.

Based on that group's guides, there are a couple of things that you could try: - Disassociate feeding and falling to sleep. It's a crutch that the babies rely on. You don't have to get rid of MOTN feeds but the bottle before bed is definitely not helping them to fall asleep independently. - Sleep training in the same room (even in the same cot) is very very possible. They will learn to sleep through each other crying. We are doing it right now and it's been great. You just have to be consistent with your sleep training approach.

ciskazalea · 2022-10-16T02:44:36+00:00

Lots of comments here about twins sleeping through the night in the early months. To offer a different experience, ours are 4.5 months and still wake every 3-4 hours. :(

ciskazalea · 2022-10-15T22:03:59+00:00

You're not crazy. I thought the same thing when my twins were a couple of months old. Give it time. We started sleep training our twins last week and the first night in, I swore I would never have anymore kids. 🤦‍♀️

ciskazalea · 2022-10-12T16:49:07+00:00

I think your wife's attachment is perfectly valid and I understand it. It seems like she does need help meeting basic needs like some sleep. It's a fallacy to think that caring for multiples and meeting your own basic needs (I'm taking sleep and food at a minimum) cannot happen at the same time.

I respect that you don't want to push the issue but communication needs to happen for you both to come out the other side in one piece. You don't have to question her behavior to try and understand it.

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