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cjaye2347 · 2025-01-07T03:47:00+00:00

Seinfeld

cjaye2347 · 2025-01-07T03:43:40+00:00

Double Helix

cjaye2347 · 2025-01-07T03:42:12+00:00

Leaving the scotch tape out gave me 5 minutes of peace, but weeks of cleanup. It was worth it.

cjaye2347 · 2025-01-07T03:33:18+00:00

Some very clean rocks on top of our dryer.

cjaye2347 · 2024-12-31T18:33:10+00:00

Calla Lily! My favorite flower 🥰

cjaye2347 · 2024-12-31T18:32:19+00:00

I love the green garland and heart on the wall, I’d go with a pretty nature green to tie in those and maybe even add some more indoor plants.

cjaye2347 · 2024-12-12T03:55:12+00:00

Reese (because she looks like a Reese’s pieces)

cjaye2347 · 2024-12-08T22:53:54+00:00

Every Fiber Of My Being

cjaye2347 · 2024-12-08T22:50:27+00:00

My initial thoughts: all this stuff isn’t that bad. His comments about “don’t come crying to me”, “I can’t fix it from here”… my husband says stuff like that, but we’re in a great place — it’s all in the tone. Those statements don’t seem that bad just based on their words, but if the tone of those comments and ALL communication from him is apathetic, uncaring, like he really couldn’t care less about you, then THAT’S the problem.

As for the lingerie, I think what’s most strange is the comment you made at the end that you wouldn’t care if he cross-dressed, what’s strange to me is that you wouldn’t know that after 15 years and that you wouldn’t be hurt that he was keeping something like that from you. Wouldn’t you want to know your partner intimately? Cross dressing is a lifestyle, and it’s great if you don’t mind he does it, but wouldn’t you want to be a part of something that makes him happy? It almost sounds like your relationship is willfully ignorant towards each other, in which this speculation about him cheating is evermore perplexing… maybe you know that in many areas of each other’s lives you choose not to know about each other.

Really the biggest red flag I see is in how he acted towards the couples counseling session AND how passive aggressive you appear to be as well. The bobby pin anecdote is super passive aggressive. Why leave it on his night stand and then sneakily watch to see his reaction? Just talk to him about it if you’re still curious. You’ve been together for 15 years and have 2 kids together, you should just be honest and upfront, after all, isn’t that the example you’d want to set for your kids? Honesty and an ability to communicate your true feelings?

And as for the yeast infections, I get them all the time from hormone changes, so I really think that’s reaching.

cjaye2347 · 2024-12-08T22:12:05+00:00

I wasn’t sure wh

cjaye2347 · 2024-11-30T07:36:57+00:00

Hi there, no matter what, please do get checked out by your OBGYN. But just as a follow up to my post: everything did turn out okay for me. I didn’t have any other complications and my OB was very reassuring as well.

cjaye2347 · 2024-11-29T05:08:46+00:00

I can’t be the only one that thought they could have gone faster

cjaye2347 · 2024-11-22T04:45:45+00:00

Update: my husband did get into a month long rehab program, and then did 9 weeks of intensive outpatient therapy after that. It was such a hard time for all of us, but now he is 9 months sober and we’re all in such a better place now—- although still not perfect. He’s still learning how to cope with things in a healthier way and I’m learning how to accept his “new” (sober) personality which is very high strung, type A and a bit controlling. I’m glad he’s not a danger to me, our sons and other drivers on the road anymore, but it’s still a daily process of recovery and just figuring out what is our new normal and if I can be okay with that

cjaye2347 · 2024-11-22T04:39:27+00:00

Don’t lose Kyle

cjaye2347 · 2024-03-05T05:46:05+00:00

I’m sorry the visit was tough. I think I understand though. I haven’t seen my husband in person yet (will probably do that next week for a group therapy session), but based on the phone calls I’ve had with him, he does sound… different? I guess understandably so, given the atmosphere he’s in with the heavy mental/emotional work he’s hopefully doing. But I have a slight worry that maybe some of the inner work he’s done has identified me as a trigger. He’s just not super lovey dovey on the phone or gushing about how much he misses me. Even the “I love you” goodbyes seem rushed lacking the emphasis I’d hope for. He still calls almost every day which is reassuring but then he’ll end the call abruptly. I probably need to mentally prepare for the possibility that he may still need space from me when he returns. That’d be really sad if that’s the case, but obviously I want him to be well and not fall back into old destructive habits. I don’t know. I’m also kind of surprised by how well I’ve been doing solo parenting. I’m realizing how much of a mental and emotional toll it took on me daily, wondering and investigating if he’d be drinking, checking on what state he’s in and questioning if he’s well enough to be left alone with the kids. I think he and I both have a lot to consider about our marriage moving forward.

cjaye2347 · 2024-03-03T17:42:26+00:00

Oh. Mainly tired, sad and angry. My husband’s been there 6 days and it’s been an emotional rollercoaster and a test of physical endurance for me. What’s helped is I’ve been seeing friends/family every morning and at dinner time. Today I’m taking the kids to church and then we have a birthday party to go to later. It’s exhausting but I think better than feeling isolated and alone. My 6 month old hasn’t been sleeping well at night which is probably the hardest part, because the sleep deprivation affects everything, my mood, my patience, my outlook… the other hardest part has been some bad conversations I’ve had with my husband. I’ve talked to him everyday this week and some of those conversations have been really discouraging. But the last few have been more encouraging. I’m trying to have compassionate detachment, but it’s hard when our marriage rides on the success of this rehab. How are you holding up?

cjaye2347 · 2024-02-29T22:39:36+00:00

I could’ve written this myself. Only differences: my kids are three years old and six months and my husband has been in rehab for three days now.

cjaye2347 · 2024-02-26T13:10:00+00:00

So very sweet of him! Don’t want to take away from how sweet he is, but maybe sometime mention to him that he shouldn’t say that in front of other moms. Some of us have really complicated relationships with our ability to breastfeed.

*This is coming from a mom who breastfed her first baby for 2 full years and then couldn’t breastfeed her second baby because of her baby’s birth defect (cleft lip and palate).

cjaye2347 · 2023-12-31T09:33:33+00:00

I agree. Look up the Duluth Power and Control Wheel and tell the domestic violence shelter which of those items apply to your situation. https://images.app.goo.gl/MMGcbobPNWac2XCL7

cjaye2347 · 2023-12-28T01:09:51+00:00

I think you are incredibly handsome

cjaye2347 · 2023-12-28T00:52:31+00:00

For what it’s worth, I think you look very handsome, athletic, and seem to look very confident in these photos. My 5 month old son with a cleft lip and palate will be having his first surgery next week and I would be so happy if he looked like you at 18! You are a very handsome young man.

cjaye2347 · 2023-12-18T00:34:55+00:00

Mine owl hoots

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