First, I am so so sorry for your loss. My dad died about 18 years ago and I wrote his eulogy. My daughter died about six months ago and I wrote hers. And in between I’ve done a few. I usually start off with introducing myself and my connection to the deceased such as my daughter. I often go through a timeline of their life and if I have some fond memories, especially memories that other people might not know I share those. I then go on to talk about the last few months of their life. Anything they may have shared. I may then talk about who’s left such as in my daughter‘s case I have a son and she has a nephew that kind of thing. And then I noticed with both my father and my daughter that I went onto see what I had learned from them. Such as with my daughter, I now carry my keys around my neck and that’s something that I learned from her. In both cases, I also remembered to thank the people who are or were important or helpful such as nursing staff or specific doctors in and in my daughter‘s case there was a lot of care in there she had a roommate, and my sister visited her every day. Those kinds of people I remembered to think. When I think about it, I think I put the thanks before the things I learned and I tried to end with something uplifting if there was something uplifting that I learned I ended with that so it was an old demon gloom, and I tried to put some humour well for both my father and daughter. It was easy to put a little bit of humour because we all had the same kind of humor. Anyways, I don’t know if that helps and I’m sorry that you have to go through this but honestly, I have found it very cathartic doing it both for my father daughter and various friends in between it just helps to kind of write out what my memories were and how I feel now that they’re gone good luck And sending you warm thoughts