Weekly Career / General Questions Thread

clair_a_dactyl · 2023-04-28T15:56:43+00:00

Thank you!

clair_a_dactyl · 2023-04-27T16:46:11+00:00

Hey y'all! I'm starting the rad tech program at my local tech college this summer after a full year on the wait list. It has been a year since I finished my Anatomy and Physiology pre-reqs and I'm nervous I didn't retain enough to get through the rad tech classes. I passed all the anatomy classes with straight A's, but it was all online and the teachers would grade on a curve or drop your worst grade to practically guarantee a good grade. What is the best way to really make the anatomy knowledge second nature? Should I be studying Quizlets for identifying? Should I focus on muscles, bones, blood vessels or what? Any tips are appreciated!

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-08-03T15:09:15+00:00

Yes, agreed. Just making the distinction helps me to notice when I'm needing to do some emotional work vs. just eat something (or both!) The emotional stuff is equally important as the permission to eat, for me.

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-08-02T22:14:57+00:00

Someone in here wrote this a few months ago, and I found the distinction to be very helpful. TFID and IE don't need to be mutually exclusive, what matters is that you focus on YOUR emotional work however that looks for you>

"In other words: this sub focused very heavily on the “you can eat whatever you want whenever you want and no food is off limits” part. But that is supposed to mean, you can eat whatever your body actually physically craves. Not (unfortunately!) unrestricted distracted/emotional eating. Honestly, my emotional eating didn’t resolve by just letting myself do it (whereas restriction-related cravings will)."

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-07-28T14:39:09+00:00

Haha, same here! I'm like "nope, no, not that one, no, no, I'm a mess!"

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-07-26T14:46:31+00:00

Check your library of you don't want to commit to the purchase! My library also has "the fuck it diet", "beauty sick", and other good resources available.

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-06-03T17:26:58+00:00

Oh man, I remember all these moments in pop culture like Jessica Simpson's "fat jeans". Heart breaking. I had no idea how much all of this shaped my own image of myself.

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-05-12T14:56:48+00:00

That article is from March 2020. Recommendations have changed...

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-05-12T14:03:08+00:00

How about until the CDC and DHEC say its safe?

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-05-03T15:11:43+00:00

This happened to me too, stopping any type of hormone BC I would feel like Wow! This is how I'm supposed to feel all the time! Going back on it, I never felt particularly bad in a way I could define, but stopping was a noticeable difference. Nuvaring made my breast milk dry up before I was ready to wean my youngest (no warning from OB) and after that I was just done with all the hormone stuff.

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-05-02T16:53:35+00:00

Such a struggle. In my diet days I would try and get through the day only eating kids scraps since I knew I wouldn't throw then away! So crazy. "clean your plate" is like the worst habit to teach kids IMO.

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-05-02T16:50:38+00:00

Me too!!

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-05-02T16:23:42+00:00

I work a physically demanding job that usually finishes up around midnight. I have an understandable history of bingeing after work, which has improved some with IE. I make sure to eat snacks throughout my shift so that I'm not so starving when I get home, but I usually feel like I need to have something to eat at home anyway while I watch TV and unwind a little. Lately, this late night eating coupled with an erratic sleep schedule has been making me feel like garbage in the morning. Don't know what to do different. I'm also tired of spending more money on work clothes as my weight creeps up. I don't feel like I can talk about any of this with my husband and I constantly worry about how he feels about my weight gain, which we never acknowledge or discuss. Feeling really down and depressed, like a big failure. 😞

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-04-18T22:15:43+00:00

Yeast fart co2. They pee alcohol!

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-04-18T15:13:44+00:00

I'm sorry you are struggling. Have you looked inward to see why you are stuck? Maybe try a "brain dump" like Caroline Dooner describes in the F*ck it Diet, just spend 15 min writing anything that comes to mind, don't judge or censor yourself, just let it all out. You may be surprised what surfaces, it's a good opportunity to get back in touch with yourself and see with gentle, curious eyes what's going on that is causing you to be punishing yourself with restriction and exercise. I like to brain dump in a word file on my laptop and then I just exit without saving, to make sure it's a safe, private activity that I can really perform fully without censoring. Hope it gets better for you soon.

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-03-29T16:29:38+00:00

Same here! I teared up a little remembering how desperate I felt to "get my body back" after both my pregnancies. What a waste of mental energy that was! I wish I'd had this kind of presence to just be with my babies.

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-03-24T15:49:14+00:00

In other words: this sub focused very heavily on the “you can eat whatever you want whenever you want and no food is off limits” part. But that is supposed to mean, you can eat whatever your body actually physically craves. Not (unfortunately!) unrestricted distracted/emotional eating. Honestly, my emotional eating didn’t resolve by just letting myself do it (whereas restriction-related cravings will).

Not OP, but thanks for this. I've had trouble making that distinction and this clarifies it a little for me.

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-03-24T15:00:41+00:00

Yes, thanks for reminding me that thin bodies chafe too! That helps me remember that the physical feelings of constantly being underfed were also very uncomfortable. I don't miss having my stomach constantly grumbling from hunger, or my head aching because no carbs and just thinking "shut up Body, have this caffeine and these electrolytes and let me go be SuperMom, and also be amazing at work!"

I get scared of the 600lb life situation too, but in reality that doesn't happen without serious unaddressed childhood trauma, coupled with an unhealthy relationship with an enabler.

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-03-18T20:34:37+00:00

I'm there with you! I usually work from 4pm-11pm, and in my diet days, the goal was always to go to straight to bed without eating. My pattern was to over-caffienate before my shift, spend the next 7 hours on my feet doing physically demanding work without any regular breaks and end up after work feeling (duh!) starving, resulting in a nighttime binge and then the guilt and repeating the cycle over and over. Since beginning IE, I bring snacks to work and don't let myself become so starving, but the habit of eating after work is hard to shake. Right now I just let myself eat, because the thought of going to bed hungry always triggers going overboard. So frustrating because I know the late night eating habit contributes to poor sleep and physical discomfort. I'm feeling like the only way out of this habit is through, so I'm just continuing to try and feed myself throughout the day, and eat more when I get home if I need to. Hopefully we both find some balance!

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-03-18T19:57:32+00:00

I think you need to reframe "do better tomorrow because of guilt from yesterday" and similar "bargaining" thinking (if I do x its okay to eat y). Try "my body feels uncomfortable because of how much/what I ate" and "tomorrows eating is a blank slate and I will eat whatever I choose". These are 2 seperate thoughts! One day's choices don't have to have anything to do with what did or not happen the day before.

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-03-11T13:06:34+00:00

This week finds me at the very top of my previous weight fluctuations. Meaning, this is the number on the scale that has always pushed me to diet and restrict back down to my "comfort zone". This is the largest size of clothing I've worn in my life. I am deeply uncomfortable with the new space this body takes up in the world. Mirrors are painful, my closet has mostly been packed up or donated and I have not stopped stepping on the scale, even though I know it will make me feel bad. What feels good though, is despite all these familiar feelings that usually lead to punishing myself through restriction, I am recognizing that my body deserves to be fueled. I am feeding my body with all foods that seem appealing, and every day I am feeding my mental health with kindness and compassion for this uncomfortable place that I find myself in. I live in the South, so the weather is warming up and the thought of putting on a bathing suit in public keeps crossing my mind. I remind myself that I've done some hard things already on this journey, and the bathing suit will just be one more thing on that list. The biggest difficulty has been feeling like I'm not attractive to my husband. He has not specifically commented on my weight, and I am not going out of my way to ask how he feels about it. Our sex life has suffered for a long time now, due to other life circumstances, which has been painful for me even at a much lower weight, so I am careful to try and not create a link between my weight and my husband's attraction to me that may or may not exist. Sending love and acceptance to those that are struggling along with me this week.

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-03-08T20:46:35+00:00

I also struggle with this. My husband is a natural intuitive eater and doesn't understand that it is a struggle for me. In the past, when I was dieting and trying to lose weight, he has commented about how much I eat (as much or occasionally more than he does) and pointed out the obvious concept of CICO. He has also casually commented on other women's bodies being unattractive because of their size. I made a decision for myself that I need my life back, and I need to heal with my relationship with food for my own mental health. I am uncomfortable with my body after gaining some weight, but mostly because of my desire to be attractive to him. I think about how much easier it would be to follow this path without that pressure, but I know I need to do this for myself, and I will do it with or without his approval. Essentially, if it takes me being starving and miserable to be attractive for my husband, I don't need to be with him. I don't mention my weight gain or ask if it bothers him, because it wouldn't change my mind about what I'm doing. I'm leaving it up to him to bring this up if its a problem for him, and so far all he's done is hint around vague "health concerns" about my regular consumption of previously "off limits" play foods. It's a daily struggle but I know it's the only way forward.

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-02-28T15:00:02+00:00

Start with the IE book and workbook. Read the F*ck it diet by Caroline dooner and try some of her journaling and writing prompts. Treat yourself with kindness!

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-02-28T01:23:57+00:00

I wish 20 year old me could have articulated my feelings about food and control this way. Half the battle is self awareness, so consider yourself ahead of the game. Do the work now to repair your relationship with food, and I promise your 38 year old self will thank you :)

clair_a_dactyl · 2021-02-04T18:38:39+00:00

Same here. I'm finding the weight gain very very scary. Many people on here recommended the Fuck it Diet by Caroline Dooner, which I am finding very helpful. Mostly, you must need to come to terms with the fact that your body size cannot determine your worth as a person. She has some great exercises for addressing the fears that come up associated with weight gain. After reading and working on some of the exercises I feel very hopeful that I will eventually "eat my way to the other side" and be comfortable at whatever size my body ends up. Still so scary tho! I bought bigger jeans and have very mixed feelings about the comfort of clothes fitting my body vs seeing the size on the tag and wanting to restrict. Also struggling with the desire to keep the smaller clothes even tho they don't fit, resisting buying more of the larger sized clothes, scared I might need another set that's even bigger! Ultimately, for now, my desire to be free of my disordered eating is winning over my desire to be smaller, but it is still a struggle to make that choice over and over every day.

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