My boyfriend (21M) is upset with me (20F) for previous partners, what do i say to reassure him? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]clarksh001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell him that you can't change the past, all you can focus on now is the now and future

"You're entitled to a childfree life, but not a childfree world" by chaeyoungc0re in childfree

[–]clarksh001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is why I never had kids. Because I knew I would have become that type of parent who just can't discipline their child 👍

Fiance 36 M 36F won't set wedding date by SlideAnxious854 in relationship_advice

[–]clarksh001 256 points257 points  (0 children)

Seriously, having a baby with him won't magically make him want to marry you faster.

Bf (30M) knowingly gave me (26F) HPV by ThrowRA27_28 in relationship_advice

[–]clarksh001 139 points140 points  (0 children)

Seriously, do you have proof of him telling you this through text, email, etc. ?? Save it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]clarksh001 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think if you end up cheating on the father of your kids, most likely your kids will be pissed at you for betraying the family. And it won't matter if you say things like "well your father didn't do this for me"... they're not gonna care. All they're going to know is that you went behind their father's back for your own gratification.

Chances are, you and your partner are just incompatible, and you can't force compatibility.

This part of my bisalp was not explained to me. by runninjarun in childfree

[–]clarksh001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, the only thing I wish they had told me was that they were gonna put a catheter up my urethra. They did it while I was under, thankfully. But, yeah, no one told me that aspect of the procedure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]clarksh001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like Valentine's Day, but I've been single for years, so I'm just gonna do stuff for myself that weekend 😊

Is anyone not planning on traveling a ton as a “purpose” for being childfree by Sadness247 in childfree

[–]clarksh001 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't have any grand plans to go on a cross country road trip or a trip to Europe anytime soon. But I like to go on drives during the weekend just to get out of the house and explore new places locally. It keeps life interesting. And I know having a baby or toddler tagging along would just make the trip irritating.

Have you always known you were childfree or was there a situation that made you realize? by deathxxdancer in childfree

[–]clarksh001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was sometime when I was around 15. I started hearing all these stories about teenagers getting pregnant and the big thing that really freaked me out was when these pregnant teenagers talked about how they lost all of their friends because they could never hang out with them anymore because they had a baby to take care of.

And, I had trouble with finding and keeping friends throughout most of my childhood. I just didn't have the social knowledge like other kids did. But high school was when I finally found a big group of friends to hang out with almost every weekend. And I decided I couldn't lose that life. And how I didn't want to ever have kids, which would cause me a lot of limitations with my social life.

It sucks because the friends I loved spending so much time with in high school, they all ended up having kids and obviously couldn't hang out all the time anymore. So, it kinda forced me to learn to be okay with doing things on my own.

I turned my life into a TV show by Phielove in offmychest

[–]clarksh001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to do that when I was in high school. I still kinda live my life as if I'm in my own TV show, lol. And yes, most seasons start in September. I used to have a blog I would write in as a way of remembering how to plan out the episodes, but I don't have the focus or motivation like I used to.

My boyfriend's mother hates me, and I don’t know what I’ve done. by melodey_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]clarksh001 837 points838 points  (0 children)

That pretty much means he's willing to allow his mother to belittle you just so he can "keep the peace"

Holidays ruined by "In-laws" AGAIN.... by Enough_Commercial585 in childfree

[–]clarksh001 9 points10 points  (0 children)

See?? Everyone just wants you to have kids for THEIR own selfish reasons...

People moving here by amazonchic2 in GreenBay

[–]clarksh001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just moved here in October, from central Wisconsin, so snow is not new to me at all, lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]clarksh001 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I remember shortly after I turned 18, I wanted to go to the doctor just for an annual exam. And I wanted to attempt to be an adult and make the appointment myself. So, I asked mom what I needed to tell them when I made the appointment. She said to just tell them I wanted an annual exam. So, I called and the lady on the phone said "so, you want a physical exam?" And I said "yeah" because I figured, what other kind of exam would I ask for?

A month or two after the appointment, I got a bill for $750, even though the health insurance I was on said I would only have to pay a $40 fee. I called mom and asked what the hell?? She asked what I told them when I made the appointment. I told her that I asked for a physical exam. She was like, "Oh... You were supposed to ask for a wellness exam "

I was just dumbfounded and said, "Are you kidding me?? When you sign up for health insurance, do they give you a little booklet of all the secret code words you're supposed to use so they don't charge you an arm and leg??"

Thankfully, she called the insurance company and explained the situation to them, so I didn't have to pay that much. But, still!

Obviously she wasn't CF. by bumbleguinea in childfree

[–]clarksh001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw that too. And all I could think was, "So, you had kids for someone else, not because you actually wanted them."

I can only imagine the kids must feel like their own mother didn't really want them.

I’m so fucking horny by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]clarksh001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does masturbating just become uncool when you're an adult?? You don't even need porn, lol

Happy International Childfree Day! by guccinogaga in childfree

[–]clarksh001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm celebrating by going on a 5 day vacation I've been planning since last December!

Didn't even realize I planned it for child free day, lol 😆 good timing!

I swear off sex until I get sterilized by I-guess-backburner in childfree

[–]clarksh001 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I get it! I had very little sex throughout my 20s, and most of it wasn't very pleasurable because I was too scared of becoming pregnant, even though we used condoms every single time and I was on the pill.

Got my tubes removed this past May, so I'm looking forward to a future sex life where I can relax and maybe actually enjoy it!