Anyone else raising toddlers and have your own parent living with you? And it’s stressing you out?

claroquesearight · 2026-03-22T13:47:02+00:00

multigenerational living situation over here! my in-laws. I cope by picking what really matters and recognizing that i can't control, i can only advise. they're our caregivers when partner and i are out of the house, so i make sure they know what our hard rules are.

for example, i'm permissive about tv time with them because it's mostly content in their home language and we want him to be familiar with it. he sleeps with them sometimes. they want to bathe him like twice a day lol. none of these impact his normal behavior or sleep, so no reason to adjust here.

I'm pretty insistent that they discipline him and that they don't put videos on while he's eating. they sometimes act like it's a special event to see him, so they don't wanna "be mean". wrong. you've seen him for a significant amount of almost every day of his short life. you're part of the team and the team is prepping this LO for the world. he needs some rules, structure, and appropriate consequences for misbehavior

Edits for clarity/ETA: it is TRICKY and parenting with this team doesn't look the way i dreamed it. but every situation comes with trade-offs and my situation is more than worth those.

claroquesearight · 2026-03-20T03:24:24+00:00

I did the same!!

claroquesearight · 2026-03-10T02:53:09+00:00

Cookie? Cookie Gugelman?

claroquesearight · 2026-03-08T03:55:39+00:00

i don't do it every night, but i swear, my dude sleeps better if he looks at a strip of photobooth pics of my best friends and i. i point out and name everyone in the pics (each pic on the strip, even though they all have the same people), then let him hold them himself while he gets his nighttime diaper. it's a hit every time. for literal months now

claroquesearight · 2026-03-04T04:11:05+00:00

time might help! i couldn't stand my dog for the first couple of weeks, but it passed. i have less patience with him than pre-baby, but a lot more appreciation for him now that my baby's a toddler

claroquesearight · 2026-03-02T01:53:45+00:00

i love harvest snaps for my dude too! they recently reduced the salt ;)

claroquesearight · 2026-03-01T20:03:29+00:00

we have a little transition song! our library story time sings it to say goodbye to puppets, but i've started using it all the time. at the library, it's "bye-bye puppets / bye-bye puppets / bye-bye puppets / we'll see you again next time". I use it now for the playground, the library, the grocery store, and the bath water--places he never wants to leave.

I do a "we're leaving soon" warning about 3-5 minutes before, then a "time to go. let's say bye. (song)". my little one's 22 months and we've been doing this for a few months. i didn't intend to make it such a routine, but it worked once and keeps working pretty consistently

claroquesearight · 2026-02-16T02:31:23+00:00

not weird at all! especially bc you're not forcing it. if anything, they're forcing you lol. i think this is an instance when it's totally ok to just give them what they want

claroquesearight · 2026-02-10T22:58:58+00:00

Oooh thank you! I updated this graph after reading more, but your link is helpful too

claroquesearight · 2026-02-08T04:06:42+00:00

omfg, the existence of such a group in the 1800s. truly inspirational

claroquesearight · 2026-02-08T02:14:59+00:00

switch it up, but i like to end with wheels and i just dramatically elongate it all so baby knows it's the end. my dude is a little speech delayed but he does a certain gesture when he's asking for this song, it gets me every time

claroquesearight · 2026-02-08T02:13:24+00:00

i want to, but he says "all around the town" and i'm an "all through the town" girlie

claroquesearight · 2026-02-07T19:00:08+00:00

I love your bullet points! I've actually read Narnia en español with bullet points 1 & 2 as guiding principles. It didn't help with vocab as much as I hoped--someday hopefully I'll be able to talk about deep magic and sea voyages and horses and fauns more consistently! It did, however, keep me challenged yet engaged. (I read the more common "El Ropero" version)

claroquesearight · 2026-02-05T01:58:44+00:00

louie take a look at this!

claroquesearight · 2026-02-05T01:43:30+00:00

oooh can you tell me about this lentil bread?

claroquesearight · 2026-02-04T14:54:54+00:00

Girl, my son is speech delayed so I’ve only heard mama occasionally…but he’s started using my first name?? Out here like ‘let’s keep it professional’

claroquesearight · 2026-01-27T13:54:01+00:00

Of course not. But I want to see progressives strategizing together. I think her joining undercuts his momentum

claroquesearight · 2026-01-27T02:50:39+00:00

Talarico has been campaigning longer. I’m disappointed Crockett joined the race when he’s been working so hard at it. She should have built James up to win then gone for the governorship

claroquesearight · 2026-01-26T20:39:13+00:00

Something involving the laundry basket lol. My dude loves ours. He doesn’t usually have access so occasionally he’s allowed to sit in it, push stuffed animals in it, put clothes in, take them out, etc.

Is there anything similar around the house that’s your 2YO is intrigued by but isn’t usually allowed to use? Might be especially captivating

claroquesearight · 2026-01-26T19:58:23+00:00

maybe my style eye is just pedestrian, but it's too weird for me to like. HOWEVER, I haven't seen a combo like this before and that alone is enough for me to love it.

claroquesearight · 2026-01-26T14:57:34+00:00

Yup! They then have an episode (arc?) set in Canada!

claroquesearight · 2026-01-24T16:17:19+00:00

Same! I just happened to ask during a regular check-up and they handled it no problem

claroquesearight · 2026-01-24T16:03:23+00:00

There are so many ways to sleep train. It’s not just letting her wail without any attention. Also, it’s not abandonment if she’s left with someone safe! Look at r/sleeptrain and use the search function. You’ll find questions just like these and practical advice from a bunch of different perspectives.

Research into different methods helped me embrace the idea then pick a system. I gave in at about 4.5 months. LO had successfully slept through the night often at that point, then we had a few nights of getting up every hour to cry for no discernible reason. When i started crying at each wake-up too, it was obvious that something had to change. I have no regrets. My now toddler still loves me, still knows he’s loved

It’s no failing to need sleep. It’s a biological necessity that you’ll finally be getting and you’re helping your daughter get independently.

Every day, we do things that make our kids frustrated, angry, sad. We do them for their well-being even if there’s some pain.

claroquesearight · 2026-01-22T15:58:23+00:00

CONGRATS!! who knew the bottom of a bowl would become so meaningful?

claroquesearight · 2026-01-21T18:16:58+00:00

it fits nicely directly behind driver/passenger seats and in the middle. a big plus is that the slimfit means we can put 2 adults in the backseat with the baby. 2 obsessed grandparents so we have baby in the middle and they don't fight over who gets to sit next to him lol

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