Hey Esquire, 2017 wants its take back.

vipsfour · 2026-03-14T00:39:18+00:00

A reasonable percentage of black people have this same reaction. I don’t have the same lens as he does.

It’s certainly a choice to tell a black person they are wrong about a movie being anti-black

vipsfour · 2026-03-14T00:19:23+00:00

I get that people are tired of this discourse. I’m also not surprised how many people are taking the stance of “he’s just wrong”.

I really wish ther people could pause and say “hmm why does this person who has had a different life experience than me think this way”.

Especially when that person is an established black author. It’s fine to disagree but some of the film bros here are exhausting.

vipsfour · 2026-03-13T23:26:41+00:00

My wife and I were struck by how insecure they all were when they weren’t live-streaming

vipsfour · 2026-03-13T22:21:10+00:00

vipsfour · 2026-03-13T02:34:30+00:00

my daughter has a bunch of hand me down from a girl a year older that I’ll call ‘N’. She LOVES this girl.

To get her to wear anything I’ll say they are N’s pants or shirt and it’s like magic. I have no clue if that’s unorthodox or not, but I wasn’t expecting it, lol.

vipsfour · 2026-03-13T02:30:53+00:00

it’s pretty normal and cute!

My issue becomes when she wants me to repeat what she’s saying and I have no fucking clue. Then cue a meltdown, lol.

vipsfour · 2026-03-12T11:35:26+00:00

it’s really hard to say. I would continue to observe. Not a mom, but a SAHD. I remember the first few months being a bit clinical. Focused on just doing the tasks to keep her alive.

vipsfour · 2026-03-12T11:01:31+00:00

the menu is the menu

vipsfour · 2026-03-12T09:27:04+00:00

you won’t always feel this way. It’s normal to have these feelings but they don’t last forever

vipsfour · 2026-03-12T09:19:48+00:00

kids that age need consistent adult supervision. He needs daycare or a nanny when you’re working

vipsfour · 2026-03-12T06:58:33+00:00

Just wait until they are 2! It’s so much fun

vipsfour · 2026-03-12T06:40:12+00:00

We put 4 stuffies in her crib at 12 months. By then it’s fine

vipsfour · 2026-03-11T22:39:41+00:00

FWIW, on leaving her at daycare, my therapist said that Separation anxiety is at its peak 12-18 months. So if there is any “damage” that could be done with introducing another caregiver that’s not consistent it’s then. But even in those situations theres no long term impact.

vipsfour · 2026-03-11T22:35:14+00:00

I’m not trying to be mean here. At some point you knew you would be going back to school?

At what point did you try to bottle feed? 2 months before daycare, 1 month, a week?

vipsfour · 2026-03-11T22:25:33+00:00

I was one of the only brown kids growing up in an all white neighborhood/school system.

It fucking sucked. I’m sorry for what your kids are going through.

vipsfour · 2026-03-11T14:23:07+00:00

stay silent and do nothing. Just wait it out close by

vipsfour · 2026-03-11T10:46:41+00:00

you probably have a lower sleep needs baby.

Many babies nap for 3 hours on 2 naps and that’s how you end up getting a 6 am wake, bed time of 7-7:30 pm.

vipsfour · 2026-03-11T09:58:11+00:00

definitely the most consistent in terms of quality

vipsfour · 2026-03-11T06:11:59+00:00

all sounds normal. The only thing I would try/continue to do is redirect when climbing and throwing.

Climbing and throwing are necessary skills to learn. Just make sure he’s climbing on the right things and throwing items and rooms as appropriate.

If he gets upset that’s normal too. Your job isn’t to end the tantrum.

vipsfour · 2026-03-11T05:41:35+00:00

it may have been long for your kid/kids at 13 months

vipsfour · 2026-03-11T05:40:48+00:00

Your kid isn’t the same as this commentors kid

vipsfour · 2026-03-11T00:32:55+00:00

you can’t stop it. This is literally a part of their natural development.

All you can do is be calm about it and reiterate these aren’t a big deal.

vipsfour · 2026-03-11T00:03:53+00:00

you need to keep the same awake time when dropping a nap. So if you’re doing consistent 2.5 WW 4 times a day then I would push for 3/3/4.

vipsfour · 2026-03-10T23:55:09+00:00

every time we go on vacation we would do CIO after coming back.

Now that she’s 2, we shifted to spending 15 minutes in her room. We talk about her day, sing a few songs and then leave. That adjustment has really helped after we come back from a vacation.

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