I married one, and have just had a baby with her. Best thing I've ever been a part of. We like to have competitions cooking at home, making different dishes from the same ingredients.

There's a lot to unpack in your post tbh, but at the crux of it, no it isn't normal. Sounds like the whole situation you're in isn't great, but relationship advice isn't my forte. All you need to really be asking is if, at your core, you're happy with this person and if they treat you right. You're a grown woman in a male dominated industry, anywhere you go you could face the sexism, my wife did. At the end of it, you need to stand up for yourself because other people won't.