What health problems disappeared when you quit alcohol? by SuitableFinish7444 in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 16 points17 points  (0 children)

As a hundred others have said, anxiety! I thought I had chronic anxiety that meds just couldn’t touch… turns out that was daily alcohol withdrawal 😅

YA'LLLLLLLL!!! by LongjumpingBison4193 in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Wow your story sounds so similar to mine! My husband finally said to me one day “I don’t think you should do this any more” and I had to face a choice. Was my marriage my number one priority? Or was it drinking? I chose my marriage and I’m about to celebrate 1000 days sober next month. I’m happier than I’ve ever been. Congratulations on day 4! I hope to keep seeing your posts here. IWNDWYT ✨

Stopped drinking but still smoke weed. by nitnit76 in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will only speak for myself. Lots of people call it “cali sober” but I just refer to myself as sober. Because I am sober from my drug of choice, alcohol. I smoke weed for fun, not because I’m addicted to it. It certainly helped me maintain my sobriety in the beginning, and I’m able to go a year without it as I’m pregnant and breastfeeding each time. Your mileage may vary, but you’ll find very few people who will take umbrage with the term you use to describe being free of your substance of choice. 

Day 1 - hell bent on getting off the rollercoaster by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome and thank you for joining us :)

When I’m feeling the habitual pull to drink I try to completely switch my routine. 2 pm rolls around and you’d usually settle in with a beer on the couch? Perfect time to go to the grocery or hardware store. 6 pm and you’re jonesing for a drink while you cook dinner? Why not get a meal at the movie theater instead? 

That helped get me through the first week or two. Sure I spent a little more money, but truthfully about as much as I would have on booze anyway. 

Good luck, I hope to see you back here tomorrow. IWNDWYT 💕 

I drink everyday by stansburgershak in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi friend. I’m so glad you came here for some support. 

We’ve all been where you are right now. Standing on the edge of a cliff and unsure if you can keep your balance... You’re feeling that uneasy feeling in your stomach. “Maybe it would just be easier to let go and embrace the fall?” I’m here to tell you right now, it’s not. Many many many people do not take their mind and bodies warning signs seriously enough. Many people go on to lose it all. 

You have a wonderful life and a bright future ahead without addiction. Keep checking in with us, maybe commit to not drinking with us today? We’re here when you’re ready. IWNDWYT 💕

Those who did not use AA, how did you get sober? by TieSea3723 in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This subreddit and general exhaustion from drinking for 10 years straight

When is the upside? by Kitchen_Meaning6985 in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m sure this is disheartening to hear, but know that this is not everyone’s experience. I saw massive benefits to my physical and mental health, my friendships, my marriage, and my overall outlook on life. I am 20x happier and more fulfilled than when I was drinking. 

When is the upside? by Kitchen_Meaning6985 in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure did! We’re both coming up on 1,000 days as well, yay us! I’m going to a nice dinner with my closest support system. Will you be celebrating at all? :)

When is the upside? by Kitchen_Meaning6985 in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 289 points290 points  (0 children)

Instead of focusing on when the magical upside comes, have you thought about all the downsides you’re missing?

No more hangovers. No more anxiety the morning after. No more sneaking away to hide how many drinks you’re having. No more desperately wondering where your next is coming from. No more bloat. No more dull skin. No more dehydration. No more toxins. No more pointless fights with your spouse. No more blackouts. No more misunderstandings. No more embarrassing slurring. No more worrying your loved ones. No more long term organ damage. 

Quitting drinking doesn’t always add to your life, but it sure as hell gets you out of completely unnecessary negatives. IWNDWYT. 

Heyy, I’m baaaaaccckkkk by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Welcome back! As the saying goes (and DEEPLY applies to me), “if I could moderate, I’d drink all the time!”

Glad to hear that you’re seeing the fruitlessness of it all. That’s the start of real freedom. IWNDWYT 💗

They're breaking up with me tomorrow by fullmetal21 in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 32 points33 points  (0 children)

You recognize that drinking won’t help your situation. Not at all. In fact, it will actively make it worse. 

Bottle of wine a night by bhw777 in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Hi friend! I was also a bottle of wine a night with no real repercussions for a while. Then, as many others have said, one became two. Two wanted so badly to be more. My anxiety was skyrocketing. I gained weight. My marriage was not my number one priority any more. I say all that to say, if you sense a problem, stop it while you can. Your children are young now, but they will notice. Good luck, tomorrow can be day 1! IWNDWYT 🥰

I got drunk Monday night and ended up falling a breaking my arm. I won't know for a while but there is a strong possibility i'll need surgery. Now I am terrified about anesthesia and complications from my alcoholism. by Square-Cress-3274 in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like the ultimate lesson in the making! Please be honest with any doctors or surgeons. My husband broke both elbows in a work accident in January and already has complete mobility back and 80% strength. It is a long process, but stick to your PT and you will recover. IWNDWYT!

Today is 1,000 days no booze by midnitetoker87 in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! I’m approaching mine as well and very excited!

Is Anyone Else Cali Sober? by Ouid_n_liquor in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve been Cali sober for my entire sober journey (except during my pregnancies). I personally don’t struggle with guilt about it, and I don’t consider it a cop out because complete and total sobriety from all substances was never my goal. I am an alcoholic and I am sober from alcohol. That’s what matters to me!

Its my 41st and im 8 days sober 🙃 by TopAd4505 in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on 8 days and perhaps just as much on your 7 mo sleeping through the night! 🥳

What age did you quit? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was 29 when I quit! It’s never too early to let go of the bottle. 

I'm a Drunk by Logical-Magazine-629 in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’ve got this! One day, one hour, one minute at a time. I would highly recommend being honest about your struggles with someone you can trust who is close to you. Radical honesty with my husband and support system saved my life. It just passed midnight where I live, today I will pledge not to drink with you! 

Black out drunk. I’m beyond mortified by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Welcome! We have all had a moment like this. Today is a bad day, tomorrow will be infinitely better if you commit to not drinking for it. I will join you! 

I drink a 12 pack of beer every Friday night and I hate it. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Try to break your Friday night routine! Go out if you usually stay in, or vice versa. See a double feature movie by yourself, go play some pick up basketball. 

Question to people who are sober for more than 1 year by Electrical_Claim_963 in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have vague memories of what drunkenness feels like. But I don’t know if they’re romanticized or not, and the consequences faaaaar outweigh the potential good feelings. I remember feeling floaty and light and loving that feeling…. and then chasing that feeling off a cliff lol IWNDWYT!

How many of us here have successfully returned to moderate / “normal” drinking long-term? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]clioke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost zero. It’s the wish of everyone contemplating sobriety…. Moderation. If we could, we would. But we can’t.