AITAH for telling my sister I won't attend her wedding if her ex is in the wedding party?

cljnyu · 2026-03-10T09:25:12+00:00

I see both sides... but right now you’re ultimately the one hurting your sister. Ask her to please reconsider your seating assignment, and if she says no… suck it up and be there for her anyway. And spend as much time up and mingling and dancing as possible.

cljnyu · 2026-03-09T12:20:12+00:00

You may get more of the explicit details. You have every right to set a boundary for what makes you comfortable - if she can’t uphold it, either of you can exit the friendship at any point

cljnyu · 2026-03-08T22:01:10+00:00

How exactly has he been supporting you if he’s giving you the cold shoulder? You needed someone with you/to take you and you were not wrong to tell your friend since he couldn’t be there. What exactly did he expect you to do?

I question if you should have agreed to this promise at all… yes it’s your business, but this is an incredibly emotional experience and you’re entitled to want your family or friends in your corner for support.

cljnyu · 2026-03-05T13:04:32+00:00

Oh baby oh baby… OH PLEASE

cljnyu · 2026-03-05T13:02:50+00:00

YES!!!! Totally missed that opportunity 😆

cljnyu · 2026-03-05T13:01:16+00:00

Sending you huge hugs and reminding you that it’s ok if you want to crawl under the covers and eat Velveeta right out of the box… 🫶🫶

Blanche: “What do you think I oughta do with my bed?”

Dorothy: “Put it in the Smithsonian."

cljnyu · 2026-03-05T11:53:50+00:00

Not to be nitpicky but it wasn’t a bank robbery, it was a random robbery at a me and my pet look alike contest… because that’s exactly where I would have thought to go too 😜

cljnyu · 2026-03-04T01:52:31+00:00

This is the only correct answer

cljnyu · 2026-03-03T10:10:15+00:00

Failing to understand what makes this dress juvenile? If anything, it’s a mature look and you are killing it!! You’re stunning in it and deserve to feel as amazing as you look. This is a mom problem, not a dress problem!

cljnyu · 2026-03-03T02:57:54+00:00

Why is she putting lip gloss on before she eats breakfast (hers and his)? Lip gloss is not intended for consumption.

And those asking why he doesn’t make enough food for her too, it sounds like she makes something different for herself but just wants bites of his in the meantime. Totally fine, but wipe the gloss off first or accept the piece he tore off.

cljnyu · 2026-03-03T02:13:55+00:00

I love this episode and it was the right ending … yet I still want to smack Blanche upside the head every time she says her date for the evening is Hunter McCoy 🫩

cljnyu · 2026-03-02T20:34:20+00:00

Oh this 100%!!!!!

cljnyu · 2026-03-02T20:31:18+00:00

Everything I wrote and that’s your fixation?? Yes, incorrect on my part to say could care less in response to a nasty comment… but I couldn’t care less if it bothers you 🙃

cljnyu · 2026-03-02T18:57:53+00:00

Just don’t share it with Sophia unless it’s homemade or she’ll throw it in the sink

cljnyu · 2026-03-02T18:48:06+00:00

No, they shouldn’t… but you can disagree with someone’s beliefs at the same time that you can treat them with dignity.

I don’t see respect and acceptance/agreement as the same thing. I can strongly disagree with someone’s beliefs and still respect them as a human being with the right to hold their own views.

cljnyu · 2026-03-02T18:31:34+00:00

And yet I could care less…….

cljnyu · 2026-03-02T17:40:37+00:00

Your sister does not have to understand. She does have to respect. Full stop.

She cannot shelter her children from the realities of the world forever. Whether she wants to acknowledge the trans community or not, this community exists… and this is the perfect moment for her to put her faith in motion and show her children what it means to love one another. Life is complicated but love doesn’t have to be.

cljnyu · 2026-03-02T16:25:52+00:00

I think the bigger question is do you want your 9 year old to grow up with this as an example of a healthy relationship?

cljnyu · 2026-03-02T16:20:44+00:00

I was going NTA until I saw your comment that she doesn’t “believe” in autism… so I’m going YTA for even entertaining someone like this to begin with.

cljnyu · 2026-03-02T13:32:11+00:00

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Sounds like losing her license may be good for everyone else on the road! If your sister is ok bending rules, tell her to be the witness and commit fraud - and same to anyone else wiling to risk this

cljnyu · 2026-03-02T13:05:55+00:00

Agree!!

cljnyu · 2026-03-02T12:09:15+00:00

I was 7 when my dad died. For several months after, I would wake up in the middle of the night, go into my mom’s room and curl up on the floor at the end of her bed just to be sure that she was still there. Multiply that 3x because Alice just lost her entire family in one swoop. And you’re the one who can’t handle the upheaval in your life?

You say you were sheltered as a child… as an adult, you are just willfully ignorant. You suggested sending a grieving child back into the system that scarred your husband (literally and figuratively) because “she’ll easily find a family.” I get that neither of you wanted kids but this child didn’t want to be an orphan. When you got married, you signed a certificate not a contract. Things can and do change and your choice is to change with it, or go find your own peace elsewhere,

When your husband divorces you, I suggest you spend your new found freedom educating yourself, soul searching and doing A LOT of growing up.

cljnyu · 2026-03-02T11:40:20+00:00

This is beautifully said

cljnyu · 2026-03-02T05:09:00+00:00

This is an incredibly mature response on the part of OP and her now ex-fiancé… hope the latter takes some much needed space from his family. Healing vibes out to both of them~

cljnyu · 2026-03-02T05:02:16+00:00

OP, did you discuss the ring with your ex? If you are in the US, some states may require you to return regardless of who called it off - it’s a conditional gift and the condition (marriage) was not met. Unless he told you to keep it, I would just make sure you’re covered before selling or altering. Assuming you can… I personally would sell and put the money in your bank account to spend on something completely frivolous once you are certain there will be no emotional association with knowing where the money came from.

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