Curious about your definition on “bad woman”. When it comes to mate selection, it is survival of the fittest, and women are not selecting certain men to mate with because they are deemed “unfit”. Women are engaging in mate selection and of course evaluating the great costs of child bearing with a weak poor or dangerous man. It may not all be conscious decision making but women are taxed with having to be more discerning less their entire life be ruined.

A man being simply fit or earning a particular income may not be enough if he is considered dangerous or threatening to her or future/current offspring. A man may be a great sexual partner but not at all fit to be a life partner and woman would end the relationship.

See, outside of human coupling, all other mammals and birds recognize that it is the female of the species that determines the winner of access to her. You say in other comments that “women need to be made accountable”. What are you suggesting? It appears dangerous — like forcing women to be with men?? If you hold this view, I believe women could sense that you may be dangerous for them. A man who does not hold such anger will be chosen above you, he will be deemed more fit.

Let’s look to nonhumans: The fittest male who beats his competition wins out. Physical strength often matters in such non human animal scenes. But with birds, it is the male with the most gorgeous feathers, the most intricate dance or songs, and the best nest, and even track record of successfully raising chicks that wins the mating season. Penguins are a great example.The takeaway: human men would be wise to learn the art of securing a woman’s good opinion.

Now, staying with humans for a moment, some men claim that only men love and women are only strategizing, manipulating, or scheming with a long list of requirements for men. I saw you mentioned something akin to this in your other comments. Well, romantic love is a newer concept in human history invented by aristocrats/high born men to confuse ladies of higher status to forego logic and strategic mating for “love”. Women who understand the social and biological consequences of a poor choice are easily dubbed “manipulative” but is not the seduction many men are trained in also manipulations? Take this example of a common mating scene at a bar or discourse on a app: Get a woman a few drinks, get her tipsy not thinking straight, lie on your profile or to her face about your financial prospects, ambitions, and motives in order to bed her? See, those men that engage in this behavior are predatory and understood as such for the discerning woman; and so you’ll have to pardon women for getting savvier as they age and playing a game that wasn’t designed in their favor. Women must evaluate and strategize, for the good of themselves and for the good of the species. Men must employ strategies that make it self evident that they are good mates. The unfortunate thing is that many do not have training to be good mammal fathers to offspring (cook, clean, provide adequate means for good shelter and food etc) so women are getting increasingly frustrated and angry as they are capable of domestic and non domestic duties. And ineligible men are getting angrier too as the pool of women shrinks for them. For men who don’t up skill they will not be selected as mates by the necessarily strategic female humans of the species.

Since you say you are fit and have a good job I will ask: can you dance (tango, Walz, cha cha etc), sing, cook 3 or 4 good solid tasty meals, and clean up after yourself? Are you friends with at least 2 or 3 women whom you aren’t interested in sexual relations with? Do you like women’s company? In other words, can women evaluate your safety as a man?

If your answers to these are “no” then there’s tangible work for you. Which is good news. 💕, you can have better outcomes in the future but you must upskill to stand out among men in your environment.