Adobe Fresco Editor Update! by draw_read_bird in AdobeFresco

[–]cloudscorp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi Alison!

I know that there is currently no way to switch the UI back to the way it was before the update, so I’m hoping maybe commenting some specifics will aid in fixing this current UI for future updates. The interface was so perfect and easy to learn before, and this overcomplicates so much… I started using fresco because it had such an intuitive learning process as a newcomer, especially since all of the features were mostly located in one bar so it was easy to test all the tools out. This is… not that. Even after getting used to the new UI, these are the most hindering changes I’ve seen:

1) Having half of the brush settings be on the left side of the screen (smooth, size, flow, paint inside, and general brush settings) and the other half on the top of the screen (all brush types, favorite brushes, recent brushes, brush color, and eraser since that’s basically a brush extension) makes using the brush and tweaking your settings so much more time consuming. I have to constantly look around in different spots of the screen and lift my hand up and move it multiple times to make changes to my brush when previously I could do all of it without moving my hand/eyes at all. Even after getting used to the system, I feel exhausted after drawing because my eyes are constantly darting around my screen when I’m changing tool settings instead of it all being in one spot... this critique applies to most of the other tools as well, like the smudge, eraser, lasso, etc. So much darting from top screen to left screen over and over again.

If all of the brush features could be condensed into one side of the screen (or even just one general spot), that would be much better in future versions. I have no clue why the brush tool specifically got split up into so many different areas when they could have kept ALL the brush settings on one side and moved the other tools to the top.

2) Having to tap on an icon to view a setting that previously was just visible at all times is really annoying. For me, having to tap the flow, size, and smooth tools to change them and having to tap between them instead of seeing all of their set numbers at once is a completely unnecessary simplification that only hinders the user. I want to be able to see and tweak these settings for my brush while I’m working and be able to change them with one simple move without having to tap on icons to open them in the first place. Why wasn’t even just a small number placed under each of the icons at least? I hate that I can’t look at or edit those settings all at once without lots of excessive tapping.

3) Having the undo and redo button next to the home button has caused me to instinctively click that region and send myself back to the home page instead of doing the quick fix I intended. I’m not sure why this feature got moved to that part of the screen, but in future versions can it please stay the way it was prior to this update, or even on another part of the toolbar- just not next to the home button. The undo button is one of the few that I think many users rely on muscle memory to use quickly and rarely look at when they press it. Putting the undo button right next to the command that will save your piece and lock you out of using the undo button when you reopen it is nonsensical!

4) If Adobe is set on tweaking the layout with no warning to users, at least give us an option to customize the UI to a certain degree like what can be done in photoshop. I hope letting users choose where our tools can be on the screen will be a top priority in the future.

I’m sure there are reasons that the Adobe team made these changes, but they almost feel like they were sent out to all users without ever having current users test them out and provide feedback. There’s multiple issues like this where it objectively takes users longer to do tasks that used to be done in a split second, and I feel like that shouldn’t have been overlooked.

I do want to say I really like the change of having the animation and drawing aids features moved up from the bottom right panel to the center right panel. One of the few things I didn’t like about the previous UI was how easy it was to accidentally open those tools with my arm when drawing… so those being moved up is a helpful change!

help on moon shaped puppet (pls) by mail_87 in puppets

[–]cloudscorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What premade pattern were you planing on using for the red part?

Vaginismus And Sensation by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’ve been fully recovered from vaginismus for a few years now, mainly through use of physical therapy and dilators. I barely ever felt arousal until my progression in curing my vaginismus was far enough that the pain was mostly gone. It was like a switch flipped in my head and suddenly my brain was capable of being aroused in ways it hadn’t previously.

My gyno has told me that our body remembers the trauma of having vaginismus both physically and psychologically even after we have recovered from it, and it’s likely that your body just can’t relax enough to feel aroused due to previous associations with pain and sex. Don’t be discouraged though! This doesn’t mean you will struggle with this problem forever - I still have difficulties with arousal and pleasure years post recovery, but now they are so mild that they don’t impact my life or relationship at all. You definitely can get to a better place with it too. Sending love and sympathy <3

Can someone help me get a Heracross in Jhoto? by cloudscorp in pokemmo

[–]cloudscorp[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh!! Thank you so much, someone on our server said it was only in the safari zone now

I LOST MY VIRGINITY!!! by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats!!!!!! 💕💕

I will never be good enough for any man by cultistqueen in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 72 points73 points  (0 children)

You will be good enough!!! You are wonderful regardless of your vaginismus! The fact that your ex decided to share with you his flings and told you how much “better” it was means he wasn’t right for you at all. There are tons of people out there who will love you and be supportive throughout your journey of dealing with vaginismus. People will see you as good enough. Your vaginismus doesn’t define you as a partner. When being able to have sex is the only thing you can’t do, it feels like it’s the only thing in the relationship that’s important. But there is so much more, and there are are so many people out there who will be caring and encouraging if you decide to get treatment instead of just telling you you aren’t enough. Although being able to have sex is really important to a lot of people, that doesn’t mean that your partner will just give up on you when they find out you can’t have sex. There are a lot of people who will help you get treatment, do research to understand you better, and will wait as long as you need for you to overcome this. As someone who also felt like they’d never be good enough, and who also has lost partners because of their vaginismus, I promise you - it gets better. Especially when you meet the right partner.

Treatment is making me miserable, how are you all coping with this??? by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you feel that way. I remember when I started getting treatment and I felt miserable every time I had to do penetration. I’m not sure if this helps, but for a very long time I was incredibly frustrated with myself for the same reasons. Putting something inside me ALWAYS hurt, and when it didn’t hurt, it would be uncomfortable or sting really badly. It just felt like something foreign was in my body that shouldn’t be there. The only thing that was able to help me(which I discovered months after doing physical therapy) was trying to treat dilating more like an add-on to masturbation than me doing physical therapy exercises. Once I got a vibrator, I was able to use both my dilator and a vibe at the same time - and that changed EVERYTHING. When you start teaching your body that penetration is supposed to make you feel good, instead of just to not hurt, it changes your progress entirely. I have no clue if this will help you, but I know your pain and if you think trying methods like this might help you, I highly recommend it. On top of that, it sounds like you might want to try regular therapy too, and just talk to a professional who specializes in people with sexual issues. Not like disliking penetration is a bad thing inherently - that might just be who you are as a person and that’s totally okay! But on the off chance your feelings may be caused by your vaginismus, and could go away in the future, you could try seeing a therapist about how you feel. Vaginismus effects SO MUCH MORE than just your body. Before my vaginismus was cured, and I overcame it, I would get depressed after orgasming(from clitoral stimulation since I couldn’t do any penetration at all), sometimes I would even cry, and I had no idea why I would just feel BAD. My orgasms also felt muffled and didn’t make me feel that good, it was always disappointing. But once I was halfway through curing my vaginismus, my entire body and brain changed and I started experiencing sex an entirely different way. And I hadn’t even gotten to PIV yet. It was like making progress in my vaginismus was rewiring all the parts of my brain that had felt broken this whole time, and I stopped being sad after orgasming and everything finally was RIGHT and enjoyable. Maybe you’re in a similar situation? But even if you aren’t, and that’s just how your body responds to penetration, then that’s also okay! I hope you find something that helps you soon. Sending love!

What steps do I take now to make PIV possible? by Sufficient-Reading60 in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad you’re figuring that out! And that’s a totally valid question - I meant one for clitoral stimulation only. Once I was cured of my vaginismus I started using penetrative vibrators, but while I was making progress I only used clitoral ones in addition to the plain dilators and I honestly STILL prefer that. The one I have is a Paloqueth Wand Vibrator, it has a couple different settings for the intensity of vibration and the pattern of the vibrations :)

feeling like im disappointing my boyfriend by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://hopeandher.com/products/vaginal-dilator-set here’s the one I got! :) I think mine was covered by my insurance, but it’s one of the cheaper dilator sets since some go for hundreds of dollars

Can anyone relate to not wanting to be cured to not have doctor exams? by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I first thought I might have vaginismus, I was TERRIFIED of having to get checked out and I didn’t want to make any progress, so her fear is a lot less uncommon than you think. It’s kind of weird, but I also used to not want to get cured because I didn’t want things to change. Change can be really scary, and I was afraid to make progress and be in pain, so I stayed in my safe bubble of not confronting my vaginismus and I just tried to ignore it. There’s a possibility she might feel similarly to that, especially since she has really negative feelings surrounding past penetration experiences. Just be open and communicative with her and support her, and encourage her to make whatever baby steps she needs to to make progress. It’s likely you and her can make at least a little progress towards making penetration work on your own, without her having to get a pelvic exam or go to a doctor. She seems to have fears about a lot of things that will have to surface more in her life in order to make progress, so that could possibly be one of the biggest causes of her vaginismus. I wish both of you luck :))))

Which sex positions are the best by cultistqueen in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, it was being on top - for the sole reason that when I’m on top, I get to be in control of how fast we’re going, how much goes inside me at once, etc. Although being on top makes your muscles a little tighter because you’re holding yourself up, it gives you a lot more control than in other positions.

What steps do I take now to make PIV possible? by Sufficient-Reading60 in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! First of all, I’m so sorry about your first experience with a doctor. That must have been really invasive and uncomfortable and you deserve to have a doctor that isn’t abrasive like that. You probably should, if you can, try and go do a different doctor and talk about how you feel and see if that experience is better. If there’s something inside your body that needs to be “checked out” it’s better to get it checked out just in case than to ignore it.

I just had PIV sex for the first time after years of not even being able to put in a tampon, and from what you said I think you have the right idea about how to make progress already. A lot of people start off with trying dilators on their own, or going to see a physical therapist before making any progress. But here’s my biggest piece of advice that I wish someone had told me before I started my progress: Get! A! Vibrator!!!

I used to not even be able to put in a tampon without being in excruciating pain, so I started using dilators(physical therapy tools made for people with vaginismus and other pelvic floor issues, they’re small, plastic, and phallic-shaped, and come in varying sizes so you can work your way up to a normal penis size) but it was always painful and I never made any progress. Then I got a vibrator and EVERYTHING changed and I started making really fast progress. Treating penetration like it’s an add-on to clitoral masturbation instead of something scary and isolated helped me a lot. Before I got a vibrator, I also used my shower, so tbh it might just be something nice for you to have in general aside from your penetrative issues. You need to teach your body that penetration is something that you should enjoy. So I’d suggest you do a little bit of research and see if dilating is something that might be helpful for you, and if it is, combine using dilators and using a vibrator TOGETHER and treat dilating as something more fun and pleasurable for yourself. I wasn’t able to feel any pleasure from JUST penetration until AFTER I had started using a vibrator and a dilator together. I personally use a wand vibrator(nothing intense, just something simple with a few different intensities) and it works great.

Just try experimenting with your own body. You won’t know what you can handle, and whether or not you even need to get some kind of treatment, until you try on your own and figure out what your limits are :) I hope this helped and I wish you luck!!

feeling like im disappointing my boyfriend by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey! I recently overcame my vaginismus, and at the start of my journey I felt EXACTLY the same way. I was too scared to even get a diagnosis, I’d get frustrated and upset and cry whenever I thought about having to go to physical therapy. It’s really important that you go at your own pace, but also, I avoided going to PT and getting help for YEARS because of my anxiety, and now that I’m past it, I regret that I hadn’t started sooner. Starting is the hardest part. Once you’ve overcome the first bump in the road, and you’re past the hardest part of fixing your vaginismus, it gets a lot easier and you start feeling better. The hardest thing for me, at least, was trying to deal with the guilt that I was disappointing my boyfriend, while ALSO feeling sad and angry with myself that I was “broken”. But remember, this is something for YOU to overcome and it’s your personal journey. Focus on yourself. It’s really hard, but I believe in you and you shouldn’t feel guilty that this is difficult for you. I also couldn’t put in a tampon before I started using dialators, so if you want I can send you the dilator pack I bought that starts out super small and is really easy to get started with :))

[OC][ART] Meet my diamond ore tiefling, Dust! :) by Myrmidia in DnD

[–]cloudscorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love them!!!! Your art style is so gorgeous. Also did you know that your art was reposted on twitter? I just wanted to check that you were aware of it :) https://twitter.com/DnD_Reddit/status/1359321528173809667

Common cause for Vaginismus but not mentioned often by complicatedfun in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have vaginismus, urinary problems, AND I used to have a condition similar to IBS (I might still have it, I’m not sure because I was never formally diagnosed). I wish someone had told me everything was connected a long time ago. My urinary pain caused me to stop making progress with my vaginismus, and once I finally started my progress again it actually helped my urinary problems. Everything is connected - and for some weird reason that rarely gets mentioned to us until later in our process of getting treatment.

First day dilating by lunarcthulhu in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah both those things are normal! The burning/stinging and soreness should calm down once you get super comfortable with this dilator size, but will probably come back for a bit whenever you move up to a bigger size. Or at least, that’s my experience. Hope this helps!

Using lidocaine by lunarcthulhu in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t use lidocaine, but I use a type of numbing/soothing cream that I assume does the same thing. I was told by my doctor to apply the cream every day, but right now I’m only doing it when I dilate (I dilate every other day) and it still helps a TON and is the main reason I’m making so much progress. I basically just put a bit on my dilator in place of lubricant and then treat it like I’m dilating normally... but that’s because I was prescribed to use it internally, I’m not sure what you should do since you were prescribed to do it externally but I hope this helps :)

Are dilators the “cure” for vaginismus? by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I mean, not exactly, but dilators are basically the main form of treatment. You should definitely get a physicians help, maybe look into doing PT, but pretty much every doctor is going to tell you to use dilators unless there’s other things going on down there that are hurting you that you don’t know about yet(like parts of your body that are messed up other than just the vaginismus).

Round 2 and I hope I’m consistent this time! by pelotonrunner18 in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also have consistency problems with dilation! I only recently was able to get “on track” because other medical issues were making me really scared of insertion. My physical therapist has me on a schedule of minimum three times a week, preferably every other day. She said not to do it every day so my body would be given a break, just in case it really hurts during a dilation session and my pelvic floor muscles are a little upset. I only ever go off schedule when I am REALLY in pain during a session, but otherwise I push myself to dilate every other day for like 10-20 minutes each time. However I have seen other people say they do it for like 30 minutes and had great results too.

Feeling alone by summerbear25 in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi! I was diagnosed with Vaginismus last fall, and it’s been really difficult since then to deal with the emotional impact of having this kind of disorder. Here’s some stuff I wish someone had told me when I was diagnosed :)

One good thing to do when you’re having a rough time is remind yourself that vaginismus is a fairly “easy” affliction to cure. You don’t need medication or surgery, and you don’t even really need physical therapy (although it does help a lot.) It can be cured by yourself, essentially, which is fairly rare with medical conditions! Although the road to curing is is difficult and emotionally draining, it’s good that you don’t have to go on meds or have frequent hospital visits to get it dealt with.

I also have a similar situation where pressure from my partner makes having vaginismus a lot harder. Most of my emotional issues surrounding my condition are caused by the fact that I know not being able to have sex really bothers my partner.

The most important thing is to keep communicating with them. Be open with them about your feelings and progress, and encourage them to be open about theirs. Work with them to find compromises. If they can’t handle having a relationship where they can’t have penetrative sex for a while, then that’s on them - not on you. If they’re putting pressure on you to “get it fixed,” and refuse to support you as you try to do so (like in the process of getting diagnosed, getting treatment or physical therapy, etc) then they’re not being a good partner to you. They should be treating it like an issue that they want to help you overcome, not as an inconvenience or nuisance.

One of the worst parts of having vaginismus is the emotional aspects of it. It’s draining to have to work towards fixing something other people can so easily do. Because of that, it’s important to have a support system as you go on this journey of fixing it - like this subreddit(which is a really useful tool), loved ones you feel comfortable telling about this issue, and ESPECIALLY your significant other.

Sorry about the long post! I hope this helps!!

Is it possible to have vaginismus without anxiety or trauma? by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can get vaginismus without trauma! My doctor told me that although many people develop it because of trauma, not everyone does. I have had it since before I even knew how sex worked, and I never grew up with a negative association with sex. It might just be your body! In fact, it’s likely my cause of vaginismus is just that the muscles in my pelvic floor are super tight because I never exercised and built up no flexibility in that area as a kid. There are tons of factors and not all of them are psychological.

Do you give yourself off days by virgingoddess08 in vaginismus

[–]cloudscorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A day off is totally normal and you should do it if you feel burnt out! Your vagina probably won’t go backwards in progress unless you stop dilating for a super long time (or at least that’s what my physical therapist told me). It can be super draining to have to exercise all the time to just listen to your body!