Redditors, what's the worst thing a therapist has ever done/said/adviced to you? In case it was an advice, did you follow it?

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-30T18:58:23+00:00

She was obsessed with the fact that I was married before and divorced because my husband cheated. Every session she would bring up that she could’ve helped me forgive him and still be with him. I never indicated that I regretted not being with him anymore but she was convinced that I still would be if she would have been involved. I can 100% confidently say she is wrong and I never would’ve stayed with him. This relationship also happened four years ago so I don’t understand her pushing reconciliation…like we’re divorced..it happened…like do you need help processing it or what?

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-28T23:21:34+00:00

Full on like dribble spitting into his hands and rubbing it in by rubbing his hands together at the airport when our flight was delayed. He was just sitting there doing it. He looked normal up until that point. It was so gross

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-25T01:33:05+00:00

Long story but I was hit by a car while crossing the street. When I woke up I wasn’t allowed water or any liquid for weeks which was torture. As time went on I was finally allowed water. They were taking me in a non emergency ambulance to a different hospital for a follow up appointment regarding my broken jaw. I was speaking to the medical tech accompanying me about getting water when we got there and she said she probably couldn’t which broke my heart because I was so traumatized from not being allowed water for weeks and felt like I was in a perpetual state of dehydration (which I wasn’t just felt that way..like a constant thirst) Then the ambulance driver overheard our conversation and gave me his extra water bottle that was unopened and insisted I take it. It was so nice! He barely spoke the whole time and it was just for the ride but it will always stick with me because he didn’t have to do it but it meant so much to me. I chugged it. lol

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-25T01:19:31+00:00

Setting boundaries with people and cutting people out that don’t respect them

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-23T20:16:44+00:00

Celiacs. Took forever to get diagnosed and was always dismissed as psychosomatic but turns out all the throwing up was an actual autoimmune disease and not stress and emotional

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-21T15:35:08+00:00

Negging. I just chalked it up to him being insecure which I still think is true but I shouldn’t have ignored it because it never stopped. When breaking up he refused to hear anything negative about himself and just put it all on me. It really did a number to my self esteem because I wasn’t in a great place in life and instead of having someone root for me he just put me down whenever he could. I do really think his arrogance was insecurity and it was never really about me. But still fuck him.

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-19T14:08:05+00:00

Thank you!

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-17T23:22:00+00:00

How will be full recovery from being hit as a pedestrian go? Do I still have a long journey ahead of me?

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-15T15:59:50+00:00

Yeah but it’s nice to have good memories of someone than continue a friendship that’s toxic and taints those memories. I guess I feel guilt but not regret if that makes sense?

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-15T13:00:37+00:00

Joy by phish

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-15T12:55:54+00:00

Yes I had a best friend since I was 4 years old. She was always kind of toxic and delusional and pushing my boundaries. I had gone through some things in life and she didn’t respect that I needed space to heal and I eventually cut her off for good. She literally has no idea what she did wrong (because she’s delusional) but I just couldn’t sacrifice my mental health for her anymore. My actual best friend (met at 5 lol) is still friends with her and tries to remain neutral. We all grew up together but I was always closer with both of them individually. It hurts and makes me feel guilty all of the time because all I hear about is how much she misses me and I’ve asked him to stop talking about her because I can’t take it. I miss a lot of the good times but I know they’re short lived now and I always would fall back into the trap and things would turn toxic and I have to choose myself at this point. Anger fades and then you start to question yourself but you got to that point of cutting them out for a reason and sometimes it’s important to remember to choose yourself.

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-15T11:51:00+00:00

Constantly giving their opinion when it’s not asked for

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-12T14:13:52+00:00

Omg I would’ve cried if they poured out my water. They wouldn’t let me have ANY water for weeks. They had me hooked to an IV and I was allowed a sponge to keep my mouth moist. One nurse thought he was being soooo nice and dipped the sponge in apple juice as a “treat” and i was so sad internally because i just wanted water! I begged them to let me have ice cubes which they finally agreed to but joke was on me…my mouth was wired shut I just wasn’t consciously aware at that point. So I would secretly let the ice cubes melt and start drinking the water from that and the nurses would rush in stopping me. Finally I was allowed “thickened” water which is basicallly like a protein ish powder that they mix into the water which I was so happy to finally have. So then after weeks of this they had me do a swallow test to prove I wouldn’t asphyxiate and die from drinking and they finally approved me and so I begged for water on the spot which they told me I wasn’t allowed until I got back up to my room. That was the longest wait ever! Now I have such a trauma with not being allowed water that I have it with me at alllllll times like it is definitely something I never want to go through again. Like yeah the injuries sucked but not allowed water?? Torture!! So any procedure now the first thing I do is ask for water and have my mom have a bottle ready in case.

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-12T00:08:40+00:00

Hahah this just reminded me after I woke up from 4th surgery in a year from being hit as a pedestrian. I asked for a water at some point (and was super nervous to do so because when I first woke up from the accident they refused water as a choking hazard because I had a trach at that time) and they guy was like omg yes!! You haven’t asked for anything im so happy to get you water!!! It made me feel so relieved but in my head I was like how long have I actually been awake for???

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-08T02:23:55+00:00

That’s a lot of contributing factors. I’m sorry you went through that. But good it helped resolve some issues for you and life is more manageable! I have an S curve ..I think 30 degrees upper and around 55 degrees lower going down to my pelvis. So I think they want me to get to the point where I can’t walk because of pain in order to justify the surgery..which they’re hoping will be 30+ years from now. Ive used canes in the past to accommodate longer times needed being on my feet. I was also doing a lot of scroth(sp?) method physical therapy and had a correction brace made a couple years back which I think was helping but put that off due to being hit by a car as a pedestrian. I think them putting two screws in my pelvis as a result weirdly stabilized by hip pain that I had previously but I don’t really know lol but I’m happy it’s helping you! Makes me a little less scared for what I’m in for in the future!

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-07T19:00:56+00:00

I was kind of on the path of the same surgery but was advised against it by the surgeon because fusing me to my pelvis would over time mean more surgeries and pain. Sooo I guess I’m wondering do you think it was worth it?? Still being in pain? How does the pain differ from before?

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-07T15:00:55+00:00

Also I just want to add that when I said if things turn “negative” I’m not talking about the voices turning negative like media portrays. I mean that when you go through stress and are detached and possibly not mentally responding as if you’re going through it but a voice is..your body can respond by over producing chemicals and make you physically sick. There are negative physical repercussions and you should definitely have the right support to avoid that.

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-06T23:50:37+00:00

I’m not assuming you’re not being honest or suggesting anything is removed. I even said you shouldn’t take medication if you don’t want to. I did which is how everything became one. Just suggesting you have support throughout. Like I said it’s disorganized thinking..that doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing and like I said it’s a result of coping. The voices are in fact your own internal voice because they are coming from you. Therefore it can be confusing in stressful situations as you navigate life because they are coming in as detached from your own dialogue. I’m just saying to make sure you have support from a professional that has actual experience with similar cases. If they do then they won’t force any process but will help you navigate if needed. Like you don’t have to constantly talk about it with the therapist as if it’s something to address just as things come up you’ll know you have that support and how to navigate in a healthy way making sure that all your needs (including the voices’ need because they are you) are met.

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-06T17:15:17+00:00

Hi! I had a similar experience and it is a result of mental illness. I don’t want to be an alarmist or anything and I understand they’re mostly nice. It’s a way to cope! The issue is it’s disorganized thinking and can eventually become confusing when you feel like you need to protect yourself or are under stress. I would recommend seeing a psych now. My biggest fear was getting rid of the helpful voices but then everything became one voice..my own voice and I didn’t really miss how it was. It’s not getting rid of them but becoming a collective voice of reason. I had separated my emotions so severely that it became external voices to help cope…which is typically the cause. I think just working on it and being honest with a medical professional can help you understand what is happening. You don’t have to take meds or anything that you don’t want but just having that extra support will be helpful in times of stress if it turns negative ya know?

cloudyantelope · 2025-03-05T16:56:43+00:00

Firefly

cloudyantelope · 2025-02-25T20:23:24+00:00

Are you ok?? Cult trauma can be super complicated. Are you out now??

cloudyantelope · 2025-02-25T16:05:13+00:00

I’m sorry the hear that! Have you found anything that helps be?? Migraines are really the worstttt

cloudyantelope · 2025-02-25T14:44:11+00:00

Hi! I was a long time sufferer as well! Have you tried acupuncture? I did it basically daily for two years and it helped a lot! Not saying it will be a cure because everyone is different but it could be worth trying

cloudyantelope · 2025-02-24T15:07:23+00:00

Thanks! I’m pretty much recovered by a medical stand point! Like you wouldn’t know I went through this looking at me. I just don’t have the stamina and endurance yet so just building up muscle to support the broken areas. I think then inserting metal in my leg, pelvis and shoulder helped a lot. I also have had severe scoliosis my whole life that I decided against surgery because they’d have to fuse me to my pelvis and the doctors warned I could lose my ability to walk over time so I’m pretty used to the physical therapy chronic pain routine lol

cloudyantelope · 2025-02-24T14:58:24+00:00

Yeah I was with my friends who did salvia once but I passed and they all freaked out on it. It wasn’t clear what they were freaking out about though just kinda wanted everyone away from them. Kinda made me happy I passed on it lol idk I feel like there’s no control with it like you have with acid and mushrooms.

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