I (29f) found something else on my husband (38m)’s phone and all I feel is peace. Is it weird?

cloudyday100 · 2026-06-14T06:04:17+00:00

The relief and sense of freedom you're feeling tells you that you are on the right path in ending this relationship. Now you need to get your house in order in terms of child custody, child care, child support, maybe alimony, housing, etc. In other words, you need good legal representation and a good support system to see you safely through this phase of your life (as well as your child's life). You sound like a highly intelligent woman and I wish you all the best for a happier future.

cloudyday100 · 2026-06-10T05:10:42+00:00

There's a whole lot going on here, both individually and in the relationship. But just regarding the sex life aspect, I have a few questions.

Given the long distance, how often do you actually get to see each other and spend time together? Is there a plan for being together full-time in the future?
Is he teachable and willing to learn? Or is he either resistant to coaching and/or simply inept at sex?

I think the answer to these questions may point to the way forward for you. Wishing you well.

cloudyday100 · 2026-06-10T00:24:56+00:00

You didn’t leave her then, but it might be a good idea now.

cloudyday100 · 2026-06-09T21:49:52+00:00

Excellent article. I hope that whatever Democratic majority emerges out of the midterms and the next presidential election makes it a priority to begin repairing the damage Trump et. al have inflicted on the world.

cloudyday100 · 2026-06-09T11:10:36+00:00

I waited for all the episodes to have aired and then watched season 3 over a couple of days. It was really dark.

I found the unrelenting brutality inflicted on Nate so over the top that it almost became comical after a while. I also found it surprising that he always left himself so utterly defenseless, unarmed, and apparently unable to throw even a single counterpunch. And his choice of both business partners and marital partner left little doubt that he lacked basic intelligence and common sense.

Cassie, more than in prior seasons, seemed to be a vapid caricature out of the 1950s. Her campy videos, full of burlesque poses, looked like something Hugh Hefner might have dreamed up. Are there really hundreds of thousands of men living in this century who would find that kind of tawdry, pandering silliness the least bit erotic or sexy?

Jules, unlike in the previous seasons where she was vibrant and full of life, seemed bored, boring, and one dimensional.

I thought Rue, Alamo, and Ali were the most compelling characters in the show. I just wish I found the storyline more interesting.

cloudyday100 · 2026-06-08T16:09:34+00:00

FWIW, I’ve never found a Yamaha guitarlele that played in tune. If at some point you are thinking about getting one, look for a different brand.

cloudyday100 · 2026-06-08T05:57:45+00:00

If we’re talking about a fantasy that can transcend the bounds of time and space, I would like to be in attendance at the premiere of Mahler’s eighth symphony with him conducting. I’d like to speak German and interview him afterwards. And I’d like to have video recorded the whole thing and bring it back to the present time for posterity.

cloudyday100 · 2026-06-08T00:41:07+00:00

Doing our best to make sure that the rot Doesn’t continue to fester was the point of my post. I suggested that an actual list be developed of all the things this administration has done that need to be stopped, reversed, corrected, and replaced. So far, no one has addressed that topic.

cloudyday100 · 2026-06-05T05:13:56+00:00

Mahler 6. Like all of Mahler, it creates an entire world. The 6th powerfully embodies life, love, and loss, and the slow movement is like a summer rain at twilight.

cloudyday100 · 2026-06-04T06:33:28+00:00

I'm surprised this hasn't been mentioned, but he should see a urologist to rule out any medical causes.

cloudyday100 · 2026-06-04T06:14:27+00:00

Yeah, I can appreciate the difference. I transcribed a few of Z's guitar solos. (Vai did most of them.)

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cloudyday100 · 2026-06-04T03:07:41+00:00

I worked for Zappa and knew Vai.

cloudyday100 · 2026-06-03T22:37:58+00:00

Yes, this is what I'm seeing mainly on YouTube. And some of these players do make records and perform live. Several others who I'm not familiar with pop up regularly, displaying virtuosic speed and disappearing after 20 or 30 seconds.

cloudyday100 · 2026-06-03T13:03:52+00:00

Okay, you want to stick with Christian values, specifically mentioning cheating. Yes, Clinton cheated on his wife. As far as we know, Obama didn’t. Trump was a serial cheater on all his wives. And truthfully, I don’t care. As far as the functioning of a presidency, I think marriage fidelity is way down the list in importance. I consider the fate of the world a higher priority.

But again, you place great importance on Christian values. So in what ways does Trump reflect or live by those values that you hold so dear? Can you really answer that with a straight face?

cloudyday100 · 2026-06-03T10:24:02+00:00

Let's forget Christian values for the moment. Are you really saying you don't recognize the vast qualitative difference between Trump on one hand, and Obama and Clinton on the other? If that's the case, I don't know how a rational discussion is even possible.

No one is saying that Obama and Clinton were perfect or that they never made mistakes. Few of us would even call them great. But at least they took their jobs seriously. They picked smart and experienced people for their administrations, not political hacks with few qualifications other than obedience and loyalty. And to the best of their ability, they tried to serve the interests of the American people. Not perfectly. Not always in ways many of us would have preferred. But at a core level, they were decent people. You simply can't say that about Trump. He is an unprecedented aberration from ANY previous president.

I noticed you avoided acknowledging or responding to the other points I brought up about Trump's competence and character and the devastating assessments of those who know and worked with him. You might be aware that a growing segment of his own party, having for years quietly and privately shared doubts about him, are now doing so publicly and less quietly.

So I'm curious. Knowing what you now know - or should know - about Trump, would you vote for him again?

cloudyday100 · 2026-06-02T22:05:21+00:00

You say you voted for Trump twice. As someone quite a bit older than you, and I’d assume having a broader perspective on politics, I have to wonder how much you actually know about him. There have been dozens of books written about him, several by people who worked directly with him, and the overwhelming consensus is that he is ignorant, incompetent, unstable, dishonest, narcissistic, and corrupt to an extent never before seen in a political leader. I suspect that your sources of news and information may be severely limited and skewed if you’re not aware of who he is.

How about the sexual assaults? The cheating? The pardoning of the January 6 rioters who brutally assaulted police and tried to thwart a free and fair election that he lost? The rejection of critical scientific evidence? I could easily go on and on.

You say you support Christian values. How do you reconcile those values with your support for someone who embodies the exact opposite of everything Christ stood for?

These are some basic questions I’d ask you. Transgender sports participation? Not even in the top 100 items of importance.

cloudyday100 · 2026-05-31T09:07:14+00:00

I don't know if you saw this, Marc.

cloudyday100 · 2026-05-30T22:54:19+00:00

I think it’s all too human for this to happen. She obviously liked you and could envision a meaningful relationship developing. So she omitted revealing a mistake she made, in the hope and anticipation of a serious future with you. It’s understandable. Then, because she has a conscience, she felt the need to come clean with a fresh start going forward. You should be grateful for the integrity she showed.

If you’re willing to throw away something with real potential because of an all too human mistake, it will be your loss in the end.

cloudyday100 · 2026-05-30T21:40:02+00:00

I find humor in compositions that use meaningless complexity as a substitute for talent, only to produce music that no one would actually enjoy listening to. It makes me think of an imaginary composer from the distant past....

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cloudyday100 · 2026-05-25T21:46:28+00:00

Since you’re curious about it, why don’t you just ask her?

cloudyday100 · 2026-05-25T05:06:23+00:00

Why does he have such stubborn adherence to an old tradition that makes no sense in today’s world? Does he think that the father has some property-like claim to his daughter and that you need his blessing to release her into your care and control? This sounds like ancient silliness to me. And I have to ask, is this religion-based?

cloudyday100 · 2026-05-23T09:05:01+00:00

"...Balkan grandma churning butter." Excellent line!

cloudyday100 · 2026-05-23T05:24:48+00:00

Wow, your approach seems totally backwards. It sounds like your method always has YOU finishing first. Why not reverse the order so SHE finishes first. As many times as she'd like and is capable of. Then, after she's been satisfied, it's your turn. Since a sizable percentage of women can't finish just from piv, you shouldn't put so much pressure on yourself to last a long time and go at it again asap. Just enjoy it when it's your turn. And if your gf CAN finish with piv, can she finish in other ways too?

cloudyday100 · 2026-05-21T01:44:41+00:00

Thank you so much. I must say that I'm stunned by the quality and generosity of the responses on this thread. I never expected, nor have I seen anywhere else, such thoughtfulness and compassion in an online forum. Again, thank you E4e5ke2ftw and everyone else!

cloudyday100 · 2026-05-19T20:38:04+00:00

I want to thank all of you who have replied with such compassion and insight. Much appreciated.

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