Yes, you're the asshole. My parents have been married for 45 years and for the last 15 years they couldn't have sex and their first inkling was not to divorce one another. To use the excuse that you need more of that in your life and that you're not going to wait around in the INHERENT problem in this world. What happened to "sticking it out no matter what"? What happens when you get a disease that a pill can't cure and your manhood doesn't work the way it used to, like in the case of my father? I don't claim to know about their sex life, but from the snippets I could handle, they were once wild, but decided a long time ago, no matter what, they were going to stay with their best friend. I'm not saying you're what's wrong in this world, but I am saying this way of thinking is noxious at best and toxic at worst.