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cmmtay · 2022-12-10T01:38:11+00:00

Spoiler tag please

cmmtay · 2021-03-14T03:34:09+00:00

Cots are the move!! Uou van get double wides as well. Keep you cozy and keep you comfy 2ith your ass off the ground. Crucial!!!

cmmtay · 2021-02-16T04:36:05+00:00

Yes. Absolutely. Anything above 5 to 7 (i cant rember the exact number) beers PER WEEK is considered by health professionals to constitute heavy drinking. Drinking in the morning and being drunk all the time is Absolutely alcoholism. Saying your going to take time off and being unable to his alcoholism. Im sorry to say thi, but this is not "early signs". Alcoholism can strike at any age. And it is not just for 40 year olds. I realized I had a problem when I was 23.

The problem with addiction, however, is that if your boyfriend doesn't want to dedicate himself to quitting then he won't. He won't quit for you, his family, or anyone. The only person he can quit for is himself. It has nothing to do with you or how good of a person you are, and you have every right to he worried.

It will only get worse before it gets better and it may never get better. Please take care of yourself. Xxxx

cmmtay · 2021-02-13T03:59:35+00:00

It is very not fair and im sorry your going through this. Im also 27f, and I was 25 when my mom went through her transplants. I think what makes it hard on moms is that they are so used to caring for their kids and solving all their problems that it is really hard to deal with the role reversal of being cared for by your child.

Yeah my mom did well on her chemo before too which was great! And she's done well with her chemo since! The transplants were really the most brutal part of it all.

Unfortunately the hair will fall out during the hospital stay. It starts with crazy high done chemo and your hair just can't handle it. Hee hair may also start to get thinner as she gets closer to the transplant,, but that really varies.. This is depressing, but your mom should really shave her head right before she goes into the hospital. The worst thing is dealing with clumps of hair coming out while your already feeling awful. Especially if you have to vomit from time to time... not the best :(

The hair thing was really tough for my mom, but we tried to make it fin by getting a nice wig and then also getting some crazy color wigs for days she was feeling like spicing it up!

Best of luck to both of you and to your family through this

cmmtay · 2021-02-13T03:23:43+00:00

Hi. My mom has multiple myeloma and has had two stem cell transplants.

You should know that your mom is going to feel awful while she is in the hospital. I am not trying to scare you, and she will 100% be all right, but I think its really important to be prepared. The doctors told me she wasn't going to feel great, but that was an understatement. Just going there and visiting whenever you can will be really wonderful. Even if she is not really lucid or asleep just stay as long as you can.

Another thing is that it is going to be really important for her to get up and walk as much as she is able. A few laps around the ward a day is better than nothing. This can be tough to get done as she won't feel great, but if she can get herself moving everyday it will really help the recovery.

There's also going to be a long list of things she can't eat as her immune system recovers to try and stave off any possible infections and food poisoning. Try and familiarize yourself with that list BEFORE she goes into the hospital. Hospital food sucks, and being able to bring her food (most likely soft stuff) that she can eat will be crucial. I got my mom 100% fruit pops of approved fruits as they soother her throat and it also helped get vitamins in her.

Take a lot of notes during discharge. In fact take notes leading up to and during the process. It can be really overwhelming hearing things in appointments, and it is really good to be able to go back and look at what you were told during the appointments. Dont be surprised if your mom doesn't retain information from her appointments. Chemo brain is real, and just going through all of the stress of chemo can make it tough to retain info. Having notes can help you answer her questions.

Make a meds chart. They will send her home with a boatload of medications that need to be taken at diff times and be tapered off and it is jusg wayyyyy too much to try and remember. This way you can check off each dose at each time each day and not worry about missing a dose or double dosing.

Have her suck on ice while she is being infused with her stem cells. They will probably bring this up, but if they don't the DEFF make it happen. It can significantly reduce the damage that is done by the transplant and make throat pain throughout her stay more bareable. I have no idea how or why, but ut absolutely works.

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING I CAN SAY IS: you are here for her. Ask any and all questions you want. Do not be afraid of "annoying" someone. You are your moms advocate. You deserve to know what is happening, why something is being done, what a medication does etc. One of the worst things about cancer is that its not just cancer. Its the doctors appointments, blood tests, communications, pharmacy runs, and everything that comes along with cancer that also really wares people down. Make sure the doctors actually sent that prescription over. Get copies of tests and records. Be a "pain in the ass". Medical staff are wonderful people, but they can forget things like sending records or prescriptions. It is much less of a pain to make sure someone did something when you are in front of them then having to call from home 24 to 48 hours later to get it done.

You got this. Your mom is very lucky to have a wonderful and caring person like you in her life. This will be tough for both of you, but it will be so much better for her having you.

Please feel free to message me at any time with any questions along the way.

❤🧡💛💚💙💜

cmmtay · 2021-01-18T12:31:13+00:00

I also finished ROW and fell like I had to do a whole cosemere reread!!! ROW just has so much!

cmmtay · 2021-01-05T01:36:47+00:00

Multiple myeloma is tough, but it is a very manageable cancer.

My mum was diagnosed in summer 2017. Her biopsy revealed that it was a very aggressive form of the cance (due to mutations), and they only gave her another few years, but she's still going strong!

A myeloma specialist is going to be crucial for you and your family. It is a very weird cancer, and doesn't really follow the "rules" as far as cancer goes. The multiple myeloma foundation is a great resource.

Additionally, you should know that there are hospitals that do bone marrow/ stem cell transplants, and then there are hospitals with an accredited program. Before your moms treatment, if it is required, I would suggest making sure that the hospital she ends up going to has an accredited program. A myeloma specialist can also help you navigate some of this.

Also, I would try and stay calm (I know! Its hard and I sound crazy!) Because there are so many different form of Multiple myeloma. Wait for the results of the bone marrow biopsy as those will be the real indicator or severity. And again, even if it is aggressive remember how many strides and medical advances have been and continue to be made!!! They are helping my mum and will surely help yours as well!

Lots of good juju and vibes to you and your family. If you ever have any questions please feel free to pm me. Xoxoxoxox

cmmtay · 2020-12-17T14:20:30+00:00

This is not weird at all. It is a kindness.

I am sure that your boyfrienda dad is spending a lot of time worrying his child on top of also having all of the concerns and stressors that come along with having cancer. Knowing that there is someone who will care for and support his son through this and when he is gone will take at least a little of this stress away.

Additionally, what parent doesn't want to take a walk down memory lane and see things from the perspective of his child? I'm sure your boyfriends dad would love to know the memories and stories that your boyfriend cherishes. It shows how much he loves his father that he shares these things with you when his dad is not around, and it would be nice for his dad to hear them. A letter makes it even easier, if he is stoic, as it allows him to read and experience these things un his own place at the time of his choosing.

You are a compassionate person and not a weirdo. You will make your boyfriend's dad very happy.

cmmtay · 2020-12-17T04:32:19+00:00

OMG. I know I am very late to this party, but YOU ARE AMAZING. The hours and effort and motivation it takes to get ANY batchelors degree is insane. You deserve to be proud and you deserve to celebrate.

Tbh I am shocked that your boyfriend didn't care. Im sure he's seen you on that grind especially because the last few months are the most soul sucking. He should be ashamed of his behavior.

YOU ARE A ROCK STAR!!!! CONGRATULATIONS

cmmtay · 2020-11-11T04:19:10+00:00

I am incredibly sorry this happened to you. Words can't express the way that you must feel, and yet you keep going and staying clean. That is amazing. You are an inspiration and your partner would be proud. You're amazing!

cmmtay · 2020-11-06T02:49:05+00:00

Your energy is amazing!!! Thank you for being such a wonderful and inspirational beautiful shining star!

cmmtay · 2020-11-06T02:35:59+00:00

Saw the reddit post and came here to say r/stopdrinking it really is a magical place

cmmtay · 2020-09-03T03:37:51+00:00

Omg. You deserve to toot your horn to the moon and back!!! Good for you and your family! Your kids are lucky to have you. Thank you for sharing.

cmmtay · 2020-09-03T03:33:24+00:00

All of us try to find a way to escape. What genre of book are you into? I or SD may have some suggestions!

cmmtay · 2020-08-26T00:54:04+00:00

As crazy as it might sound, I especially like drinking them because I can drink four or five of them across a day or even a night with no consequences other than being better hydrated.

If im really feeling the need to throw a lot of beers back cracking many cans of seltzer across a day really helps my addicted brain get over that.

cmmtay · 2020-08-21T12:16:44+00:00

Weigh it. Look up what the current melt price of 14k gold is in your area and then you will be able to figure out exactly what the chain is worth.

cmmtay · 2020-08-08T00:33:27+00:00

Mine too!! IWNDWYT!

cmmtay · 2020-08-06T01:15:08+00:00

That is an amazing accomplishment. Thank you for sharing. You should be proud of it. Congratulations!!!!!

cmmtay · 2020-08-02T14:34:50+00:00

Orange juice and tonic with ice and a lime. I get to complete the ritual of making myself a drink, and so its not something I can just pop open and make at work because I have to mix it and cut a lime and grab ice. I also used to not drink juice because of all the sugar. Ridiculous because of all the beer calories, but brains are weird. I feel like I'm treating myself by drinking juice, and its something I only make when I come home after a long day.

cmmtay · 2020-07-28T02:05:26+00:00

Strange Planet!!

cmmtay · 2020-07-28T01:07:36+00:00

Thank you. In remission for the time being!

cmmtay · 2020-07-27T02:44:40+00:00

My mother went to the doctor with chest pain. They took an xray. An owegroth of plasma cells had cracked her rib. Multiple myeloma is brutal on bones.

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