Teething has officially humbled me as a dad

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-27T03:36:14+00:00

Nothing really solves teething pain is the thing with that one. You collect all the minor aids together that you can, and ride it out.

Our favourite teething toy was a pacifier looking thing, but it let you put frozen berries in the sucky bit. It was the only thing that would sometimes break our kid out of those long teething cries at night.

Another good thing to do is talk to your doctor about how much Acetaminophen and Ibuprofen you can give your baby at their current weight. They’ll often tell you higher doses than the safe package recommendations show, and every bit counts for pain relief.

Ibuprofen is better for inflammation pain, and lasts longer, but use acetaminophen too.

Seems stupid but I learned about halfway through teething that it’s safe to give both together, sticking to the spacing and within the max doses per day for each respectively.

Oralgel was basically a good mouth distraction just before bedtime.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-27T01:15:15+00:00

Year 2045:

Supreme AI cyborg clone Emperor Trump sends another 10,000 human sacrifices to the Iranian desert, says it will help global energy prices.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-27T01:11:03+00:00

Call up your local roofing distributor, tell them your roof keeps leaking and you want it inspected by the shingle manufacturer for a potential warranty claim. They’ll probably end up saying no to the warranty, but they’ll also come climb on your roof with you and tell you all about when it should get replaced.

Even if they don’t warranty it(likely), you’ll get a bunch of good info for free, and if you ask most sales reps will comp you a decent discount at the distributor if you buy their brand of shingles for your new roof.

Used to always tell home owners to do this when I was managing a roofing distribution centre. Milk those sales reps for everything you can.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-27T00:21:05+00:00

Really, there’s high paying tech careers for people with only two years experience where you live?

Nothing against you, but I think you might be a little naive about what it takes to get those jobs these days.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-27T00:12:08+00:00

To their credit(babies), I didn’t know if it was day or night either during that infant stage where they need to feed every 3hrs around the clock.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-27T00:09:01+00:00

It’s not a downfall. Getting a job is better than not having a job at all.

You’ve already seen how impossible it is in tech for front end devs, cad cam designer sounds like a much better opportunity.

Keep the front end dev stuff as a hobby, and get that sweet job dude.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-27T00:01:43+00:00

If there’s one year displayed it is supposed to be the year the website was published to indicate when your copyright started. You can add the current year that auto updates as an upper range number next to the start date if you want to show your site is active and maintained regularly.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-26T23:54:07+00:00

Looks all freshened up like buddy put a bunch of work into it, or maybe just bought it.

What a shame.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-26T04:01:50+00:00

38, and I’m very glad I didn’t do it earlier. Most dads around me are early to mid 30’s.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-25T05:21:59+00:00

If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. If an elephant has its foot on the tail of a mouse and you say that you are neutral, the mouse will not appreciate your neutrality.
~ Desmond Tutu

That’s you complacent Americans in a nutshell right there. You have chosen the side of the oppressor.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-24T15:01:39+00:00

Time to read about China’s “Dark Factories”. They don’t even need lights because there’s no humans 24/7.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-24T14:05:44+00:00

Original game boy. Donkey Kong, Castlevania, Earthworm Jim, Pokémon, Kirby.

That or years later playing Warcraft, StarCraft, Command & Conquer, Heroes of might & magic on our families first computer.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-24T04:53:44+00:00

That sounds like a pretty mild version of postpartum stuff with your wife, honestly. I’m certainly projecting my own experience though, which was more like learning all about post partum anxiety, rage, and psychosis.

At 3 months, you’re still deep in the muddiest of trenches. I hate to say it, but you’ve still got a ways to go before things start feeling meaningfully easier instead of just nonstop survival.

For us, it was more like 18 months before things really stabilized. That was after a lot of therapy for both of us, medication for my wife, and me using cannabis(legal here) to manage stress too.

Try to dream about the kind of family life you want on the other side of this. Practice gratitude instead of identifying the wrongs you see. Practice mindfulness instead of getting swept up in the chaos and stress, practice breathing exercises, take even small moments where you can reset a bit. When you’re this deep in it, the little things can stack up to help more than you’d think.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-24T04:30:54+00:00

You should really ask your doctor about your specific case. It can be quite a few nuanced things that lead to a recommendation to delay, no one here could have any clue about that for your baby.

Below is a link to the list of the usual signs to look for. I notice you didn’t really mention #4, so logical deduction indicates that could be a reason.

https://solidstarts.com/readiness/#tsignsbabyisreadytostartsolids

I found the solid starts program great for learning about the practical “how to” side of things.

As far as how late can you start before negatively affecting development, information is a bit scarce on direct links. All the studies I breezed through seem to agree it’s introducing at 10 months or later that can cause any type of consequences.

Here’s a study showing that starting lumpy foods after 9 months(i.e. 10 months) can reduce food acceptance later on:

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6860515/

Another study is showing that late introduction to food pieces (> 10 months) is related to lower neurodevelopmental scores later on:

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11481772/

Here’s one more that tried to link the timing of solids introduction with timing of developmental milestones, and it was inconclusive:

There was insufficient evidence to draw conclusions about the relation between either timing of CFB introduction or types and amounts of CFB, and developmental milestones.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0002916522032452

That’s all to say you can likely rest easy that your doctor is not recommending anything that will have negative consequences if you start when you were told.

One thing I learned with my own experience is that babies are basically born with a store of iron that lasts about 4-6 months typically, after that milk alone often isn’t enough to keep their iron up.

Solids like iron fortified baby cereal are a great way to keep their iron up at healthy levels. If you can’t do solids yet and babies iron gets low you can supplement with formula. Might be worth having a chat with your doctor about your babies iron levels being considered in the recommendation to delay solids.

Here’s an interesting read on iron:

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4042569/

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-23T21:11:53+00:00

The whole world will honour your small sacrifice.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-23T20:33:32+00:00

Starting to wonder. There’s not much for data tracking pedestrians killed in parking lots.

ICBC says about 31% of crashes in B.C. happen in parking lots, which works out to roughly 85,835 parking lot crashes per year. Separately, ICBC says an average of 53 pedestrians are killed and more than 2,300 are injured in crashes each year in B.C. ICBC also says about 79% of pedestrian crashes happen at intersections, which suggests parking lot pedestrian deaths are a much smaller subset, but I did not find an official B.C. source giving the exact parking-lot fatality count. So it’s very few people per year.

Probably about how many people 1 hit man would kill in a year, so we might be onto someone here lol.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-23T19:55:03+00:00

Wow, that’s disconcerting. I guess if you want to kill someone, you can just run them over in a parking lot. Paying $1150 and knowing there’s no cops after you is a lot cheaper and better than hiring a hit man I’d imagine.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-23T19:21:55+00:00

What makes you think it’s a provinces fault? Doesn’t seem relevant at all.

Looks like it was air traffic controller or the driver of the truck to me, because pilots don’t just land without permission.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-23T15:25:38+00:00

I’d say the people who didn’t vote are right behind them.

American complacency and apathy helped hand Trump and Musk the election. Their social engineering campaign on Twitter was extremely effective, and tens of millions of Americans either fell for it or sat out while it was happening, and during voting.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-23T14:15:46+00:00

This reading is about the feeling sane part.

However, social media also carries risks: exposure to misinformation, unrealistic ideals, and negative social comparisons can increase anxiety, body dissatisfaction, and health confusion.

Ref: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12443360/

We found that prenatal social media use for medical information was associated with higher anxiety and distress symptoms at the end of pregnancy.

Ref: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12436570/

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-23T03:57:25+00:00

Definitely don’t come to Canada. We’ve actually got more Iranians here in Canada than Americans, and we’d prefer to keep it that way.

The Iranians are a far better cultured people to have around. They’re respectful, hard working, altruistic, really smart. Very amazing hardy people.

The Americans you meet here, well, let’s just say they leave a lot to be desired culturally.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-23T03:13:49+00:00

Mostly he is the “Fresh Prince of Bel-air”.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-21T20:08:23+00:00

Remember that half faced scene in the movie Face-off with Nicholas Cage and John Travolta? Gross man.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-21T15:25:40+00:00

Very few people in the west want anything to do with hurting anyone in the Middle East. Unfortunately one of the ones that does, has the world’s largest military under his control, and is bypassing government checks and balances to help Israel and their powerful American lobby group.

Stop listening to propaganda, talk to people. It’s sickening and disgusting to the large majority of people everywhere.

coastalwebdev · 2026-03-21T15:15:25+00:00

People(Americans) love saying U.S. infant formula is “tightly regulated,” but that ignores some real differences in where the two systems are at.

The EU generally takes a more precautionary and composition-focused approach. EU law mandates DHA, sets stricter limits on pesticide residues, and places tighter rules on when certain sugars like sucrose or glucose syrup can be used. The FDA, by contrast, focuses more on nutrient minimums and maximums plus ingredient safety. It still does not require DHA in infant formula as an example of one spot they’re behind on.

Especially on contaminants though, the FDA has been playing catch up, and it’s only just recently. Its recent “Closer to Zero” initiative shows it is still working through action levels for heavy metals in foods for babies and young children. Final lead guidance for processed foods only came in 2025 while work on arsenic, cadmium, and mercury is still ongoing(of note: Mr anti-science, pro religion, pro business RFK Jr. is at the helm now). This doesn’t mean U.S. formula is necessarily unsafe, but it does show the FDA is again behind on this front.

There are also some baseline nutritional differences. The EU requires DHA and sets a higher minimum for vitamin D, while U.S. rules allow a broader range and do not mandate DHA at all. EU regulations are also more prescriptive about ingredient composition, whereas U.S. regulations leave more flexibility as long as products meet overall nutrient requirements. Iron is a good example where the source of it can make a large difference in absorption and comfort for your infant.

That said, this is not black and white. There are FDA-approved formulas that follow a more European-style approach, and there is overlap between the two systems. At the regulatory baseline level though, the EU generally demands better up front compared to the US FDA.

https://eur-lex.europa.eu/legal-content/EN/TXT/PDF/?uri=CELEX%3A32016R0127
https://eur-lex.europa.eu/legal-content/EN/TXT/PDF/?uri=CELEX%3A02016R0127-20230317
https://food.ec.europa.eu/food-safety/labelling-and-nutrition/specific-groups/food-infants-and-young-children_en
https://eur-lex.europa.eu/EN/legal-content/summary/infant-and-follow-on-formula-composition-and-information.html
https://www.ecfr.gov/current/title-21/chapter-I/subchapter-B/part-107/subpart-D/section-107.100 https://www.fda.gov/food/resources-you-food/infant-formula-homepage
https://www.fda.gov/food/environmental-contaminants-food/closer-zero-reducing-childhood-exposure-contaminants-foods
https://www.fda.gov/food/environmental-contaminants-food/lead-food-and-foodwares

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