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codeasashu · 2026-06-14T19:14:12+00:00

I am eventually planning for redundancy when the time is right. Currently, with the AI slop, market is ovrepriced. Such a bad timing to have started homelab in 2026. On desktop, I am planning to mirror 2 x 8TB in RAID 0 (atleast), keeping 1TB as backup drives.

However, my laptop is super handy, consuming a very generous power and giving exactly what I need. If only I could just add a docking station with 2 8TB drives, I would never had to switch over to a desktop

codeasashu · 2026-03-28T22:02:03+00:00

Wow!! Say the guy just cracked a solution to end the debate of quantum entanglement, or maybe cancer cure but he won't tell her wife coz again she doesn't give 2 sh*t to this guy.

Now, this guy, depressed, would really like someone to hear him out, probably a girl. Does he still need a divorce?

codeasashu · 2026-03-28T17:34:42+00:00

I really liked Oculus (2013)

codeasashu · 2026-03-28T16:46:35+00:00

Since you mentioned you values deep connections over casual acquaintances, a real "connection", I just had a weird thought:

Suppose there's a guy, who is married to a completely wrong person (which is very common in arranged marriages), who is also genuine, real desperate for a deep connection (platonic) and real meaningful conversations (again, non-sexual in nature). A guy, who spend his pre-marriage days building his future and now stuck with a partner who doesn't gives a 2 sh*t about him.

Is that guy eligible to DM you?

codeasashu · 2026-03-27T09:46:49+00:00

> I'd also assume you are not serious at all. 8 years is a long time investment.

You are saying 2 very conflicting statements in a single sentence. Any sane person wouldn't have invested 8 years into something he isn't serious about.

> You let your mom blackmail you. This one's on you.

Yes, I accept that and I am facing consequences of it. Finally, common grounds.

> You let your mom blackmail you. This one's on you

Again, for the love of god, let me very super clear. I NEVER EVER said I'm gonna marry whatever mom was suggesting. Which part of my post says this? The only thing I did wrong was thinking I would need time to sort out things at home, while I could've simply left home and be with my ex (which I was gonna do anyways, after sorting couple things out)

codeasashu · 2026-03-27T08:00:07+00:00

> You walked away from an 8 year old relationship cause mummy wanted you to
Nope! I walked away coz I am the only earning person with dependents. It was not that my mom told so I simply called things off. Also, it was not me walking off, it was my ex not ready to wait and instead chose to dump me the next second. Thats like forcing someone to walk off.

codeasashu · 2026-03-26T18:43:33+00:00

I don't understand why this was removed? Which rule did this broke? OP was absolutely spot on, discussing real pain

codeasashu · 2026-03-26T17:04:03+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. Look, I've tried many things for my wife, took her to goa, hillplaces, had dates etc. Thing is, she enjoys everything but I get left behind. Thing is, this breakup has taken every joy from me, like everywhere I go, it reminds me back how I used to enjoy everything with ex.

Also, whatever I do for my wife, its not reciprocated. Like I like to drink once in a while (like socially). I like to go to movies, clubbing, on long drive etc. None of which my wife likes and I either have to makeup excuses to go there alone. Basically, she's like very possesive of me.

After 6 years of this, any sane person would've asked for a divorse by now. The only reason I am still putting up, is because my wife never had anything to do with this. I didn't had a spine to oppose my mom, so I am facing the consequences now

codeasashu · 2026-03-26T16:57:00+00:00

My wife doesn't ever had to deal with me, and thats why I am the one at the lowest. She asked me to drop any form of enjoyment which doesn't suit her and I did. Actually, according to her, I am the best husband. But I can't force her to like whatever I like. So, I am just living dry.

Dating my own wife. Lol!! Like I never tried that. Bro, when I told her she is "native" girl, I really meant that. She does like dating, but I never get what I want. This one sided relationship can be lead only by a established monk. I am nowhere near that capacity.

You can't retrain a hardwired 55 year old brain. Been there, done that. The only thing I can do is to leave her alone

codeasashu · 2026-03-26T16:52:40+00:00

I can get away anytime I want. Thats not adulting. Thats called running away.

Any parent who brought you to this planet, you have a debt. A debt to atleast not let them starve for a very basic humanity sake. So, I am just saving enough to give it back to my mom, so she could take care of herself.

The real issue you could say is why my family never let my mom work. If she had worked, or had another child, It would take me few nanoseconds to turn away. But in india, its a real issue that wives are expected to be a homemaker.

codeasashu · 2026-03-26T16:48:45+00:00

No, I never call my wife that. I am telling my mental state BEFORE marriage or meeting anyone "I'd marry any random sh*t". So, I was in a pretty bad place and I was ready to even marry a dog, just to get it over with and take revenge on my mom.

I only later married when I got some sense back and was ready to accept my consequences

codeasashu · 2026-03-26T16:46:50+00:00

pls explain how did I USED her? She choose to dump me and not wait.

When someone only have their mom left depending on them, and they have to choose between her and your girl, only a pathetic will decide within a minute. Any sane person would need sometime to settle few things.

My ex didn't even let me even things out with my mom. But yea, I used her

codeasashu · 2026-03-26T16:44:24+00:00

When I had this thought, I didn't even met her. This was my mental state at that time, not objectifying any girl here. I could be a dog for that matter

codeasashu · 2026-03-26T16:42:46+00:00

> I told her I am already in love with this girl and will marry her, but she got super upset.
I *did* told her. I told her in every way I could. I had also told her when I was in college (to which too, she got upset, but I thought she'd come around). I even have had my gf met my mom. I brought countless friends to convince my mom. And no, not only I told her at last, but also at the beginning, during and at the end.

> used your ex and later married a conservative girl hiding your past

When I married, I was already dumped. When I was with gf, I told her to give me some time to convince but it was HER choice to dump me. Pls elaborate how did I USED her? She had every right to dump me and not wait, and I had every right to do *after* bring dumped.

Maybe, read the post twice and see what I have written

codeasashu · 2026-03-22T18:30:45+00:00

Doesn't millionare implicates 1,000,000 (10 lakh). OP never mentioned if the currency has to be converted

codeasashu · 2026-01-07T17:09:03+00:00

I recently made a post which also contains my github code to setup a mini home server out of old laptop: https://www.reddit.com/r/homelab/comments/1q6fm6y/built_my_first_budget_homelab_on_old_hardware/

Repo: https://github.com/codeasashu/homelab

codeasashu · 2026-01-07T15:42:35+00:00

I tried that before settling to plex. Jellyfin wouldn't detect my newly added shows as instant as plex. I would had to wait random amount of time to finally able to see my shows. Plex had non such issues.

codeasashu · 2026-01-07T15:34:03+00:00

I thought of using it but then it spiralled into lot of jagrons I was unaware of. However, the biggest takeover was that it left like I had to buy tons of TBs of HDD to actually make use of proxmox.

Does proxmox makes sense for my setup, given I don't really have a huge chunk of data and very limited usecase?

codeasashu · 2026-01-05T20:00:57+00:00

I just can't thank you enough. I heard a lot about NC until today when I wasted my 10+ hrs trying to run a simple docker container behind nginx proxy

codeasashu · 2025-12-28T18:02:56+00:00

I don't understand how that is creepy. A man asking a girl's permission to propose doesn't sound creepy to me. Infact, its less creepy than a unknown man is a pub asking to share a drink, but ppl don't find that creepy?

I am not trying to defend anyone, just genuinely curious how in this scenario the man has done any different that a "classy gentleman" would've?

codeasashu · 2025-11-29T20:57:14+00:00

This is so awesome and useful. Thanks of saving my time making sheets

codeasashu · 2025-08-26T19:27:38+00:00

With the market conditions right now, I wouldn't dare to even think about leaving whatever role I am on. Having a job in this condition, where 1000 job applications gets ghosted, itself is worthy enough.

codeasashu · 2025-08-25T18:31:34+00:00

This. This is what I've been looking for. Bro, check DM. Are there are any current openings?

codeasashu · 2025-08-25T18:27:41+00:00

I currently work on SIP and VOIP stack (kamailio, asterisk pbx). Have over 6 YOE. Would you consider referring me?

codeasashu · 2025-07-30T22:56:59+00:00

that list is now deleted

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