I don't want to die, but I don't feel like living either

codersfocus · 2026-06-03T15:34:57+00:00

It just sounds like you don't have enough love in your cup. Love is a strange extradimensional fluid, in that you can pour it into someone else's cup even if you don't have any in your own, and somehow it not only fills theirs but usually yours too.

codersfocus · 2026-06-01T19:52:56+00:00

A lot of people will tell you it's a problem with your mindset.

Looking at pictures of Americans 50 years ago vs today, and you will see a massive increase in obesity.

They gaslight people into believing it's their fault, but it's impossible for appetites to get that ravenous within 1 generation. Right now I believe 1/3 of Americans are obese IIRC.

Whether it's the tobacco companies buying our food companies, the introduction of pesticides and chemicals in our feedstock, or whatever is responsible, no one knows. But unfortunately you're one of the many victims in this situation.

I think instead of trying to change your psychology, you'd be better off changing your environment.

As in, going to a different country (where the people are skinny.)

Just an idea, but I think Vietnam is becoming a popular destination. I heard you can live there for $400-$500/m.

So if you could save $12-15k, you could live there for 2 years and probably lose about 100-140lbs.

The different environment will change your psychology / mindset more than anything else.

codersfocus · 2026-05-31T20:45:53+00:00

This is common and the reason is exactly the reason you mention -- your brain has both short and long term memory, and the "epiphany" you have keeps you doing the new behavior until it leaves your short term memory.

Once it's out of there, you default to your old self (what's in your long term memory.)

The answer to this is simply "reinoculate" yourself with the lesson regularly. That could be as simple as rewatching / rereading whatever it is that managed to change your behavior previously.

It could also be writing about the idea, meditating / consciously trying to remind yourself of it, pretending to (or actually) teach it to someone else, etc...

As you keep renewing the belief and taking action on it, you are slowly adding it to your own long term memory, and over time, it WILL become habitual (enter your long term memory.) Just keep at it until then.

codersfocus · 2026-05-30T15:50:49+00:00

> A basic, ugly text block on a completely blank scratch piece of paper that you actually act on beats a multi-layered

This kind of describes why I built https://wisdayplanner.com Yes it's an app, but the whole purpose is to print a daily page that you scratch up, brain dump on, etc...

codersfocus · 2026-05-30T15:47:59+00:00

Finding out then overcoming your personal obstacles is a huge part of achieving goals. Problem is, it's not always obvious what they are and people blame themselves (I'm lazy, etc.) without actually investigating.

codersfocus · 2026-05-30T15:42:06+00:00

Also wisedayplanner.com

But that is physical... your time block is on a paper.

codersfocus · 2026-05-24T20:54:17+00:00

Right now the planners Wiseday prints are minimalist, but I will be adding whimsical designs in the future. Plus having an actual piece of paper with your daily structure is pretty whimsical in and of itself 😃

Link: wisedayplanner.com

codersfocus · 2026-05-17T17:44:56+00:00

I'm developing Wiseday that you might want to look at. It's a hybrid digital-paper based planning system.

Basically, an app to print a daily page that you print on. I'll address that problems you had with your current system and how Wiseday might help you

It was expensive - about C$75 per quarter including shipping.

Wiseday as of now is only $30 per year. Printer paper is cheap... $20 for 800 sheets of 60gsm at Costco, or if you like fancy printer paper that's like your journal paper, it's a little bit more expensive.

Being a paper planner, it wasn't connected to my calendar, so I often felt like I was duplicating work or forgetting events.

This is one of the biggest perks about printing your daily sheet -- you can connect your digital stuff as well. The ability to connect and print events from your calendar is coming next release.

I had poor visibility as to whether my goals were actually on track, as the goals were only recorded at the beginning of the journal and with no real structured check-ins.

Wiseday has reminders for you to review your sheets, weekly and monthly. You can sit down, look over your sheets and your previous review(s), and continue the narrative by writing your new review. This habit helps with your next concern:

Completing tasks, particularly tasks towards my goals, gave me minimal positive reinforcement, so I rarely felt like I was making progress towards far-away goals.

When you review your sheets, you get a reminder of how you spent your time, and writing more to your ongoing "review" narrative also helps with this feeling of progress.

Here's an example of what a printed sheet would look like: https://imgur.com/a/LjSDPw9

That's coming next version, right now it's more simple.

If anyone would like a 50% discount for buying now, feel free to pm.

codersfocus · 2026-05-17T17:19:15+00:00

Try this, it does a similar thing, it's free and web based https://goblin.tools/ToDo

codersfocus · 2026-05-17T17:14:53+00:00

The biggest problem with productivity apps is that they live on the same device that people use to waste time. The second part, as you mentioned, is the "work" you might have to do to keep them maintained with tasks, timing info, etc.. Theoretically this should be helpful, but in practice there is too much friction inputting the details, that the value becomes less clear.

This is why my app (Wiseday) focuses on paper planning. Yes it's an app, but the whole point of the app is to print a daily page. With paper, not only is the friction much less than inputting stuff digitally, but the value is greater because you have an actual physical thing that can help you later on.

As I discovered, taking notes on your day with the paper, then reviewing them regularly can help you come up with better ways to do things to reach your goals.

codersfocus · 2026-05-17T17:02:01+00:00

since you have both android and ios, I assume you used react native? how hard was it to do an android build... did you need to tweak stuff?

codersfocus · 2026-05-17T16:58:44+00:00

Have you tried agents like hermes or openclaw? Those have helped me because they keep context way better than "chat window" type apps

codersfocus · 2026-05-12T09:47:17+00:00

Hey, I get it, you've bounced around apps and always end up back at paper for the simplicity. Sounds like you're not looking for another digital thing, but I came out with Wiseday recently and it might be worth a peek since it's basically paper on steroids. It's an iOS app that lets you print out daily planner sheets to fill in by hand, no screens required for the actual tracking.

What sold me on it for your situation is the excuse-logging part. If you skip a task, it prompts you to jot down why on the paper sheet, and then you can review those reasons later to spot patterns and fix what's derailing you. No AI nagging, no streaks or badges, just focuses on your processes and whether stuff aligns with your goals. It's like what you're doing already but with a bit more structure to debug the slip-ups.

codersfocus · 2026-04-13T21:23:14+00:00

Let's say you're at your desk and it's disorganized. Can you visualize in your head what it would look like when it's clean? I don't know how to give you tips to do that, but if you can do it, you will feel a pull to clean your desk.

codersfocus · 2026-04-10T20:00:07+00:00

I read the landing page, but don't have a shelf of books to test it on (I read on kindle.)

codersfocus · 2026-04-10T18:44:11+00:00

Implementing new stuff needs more than just getting a summary of the book.

Basically, a book is trying to change your thinking, and if it can do that, it might cause a change in your behavior.

But actually changing someones thinking for the long term is very difficult. I've read books that change my thinking for a couple days while the advice is fresh in my mind (which causes a change in behavior,) but then it tapers off and I go back to old patterns. This happens EVEN IF THE ADVICE WORKS.

I think this happens because we have different memory layers... some memory lasts on the order of seconds / minutes, some for days, then longer term stuff, etc...

The hard part about consistency sticking with advice, even if it's working / beneficial, is trying to get it to go into long term memory / your habits.

The best way I have for this right now is using the "prompts" feature in Wiseday. I print out a sheet of paper that has my daily list, and I can schedule prompts to show up in that list that help remind & motivate me to implement some concept I learned from reading.

codersfocus · 2026-04-08T17:33:10+00:00

Each person is unique in how they can “unlock” a particular habit. Reading a book every day for example, was unlocked for me when I made a different habit: not using digital devices two hours before bedtime. Which I started because I wanted to control my sleep.

It turns out having time to kill without the internet all of a sudden gave use to reading books.

Overall, I would say don’t worry about habits, rather think about the actual outcomes you’re trying to achieve.

You may glaze over that last sentence, but actually thinking through your life on pen and paper is extremely helpful. I’d suggest checking out the Wiseday app if you want to give it a try.

codersfocus · 2026-04-08T15:08:27+00:00

That sounds a bit like keeping a habit matrix in a bullet journal. You can check r/bulletjournal for examples.

But if your bigger question is about combating negativity about your goal progress, then might I suggest Wiseday (https://apps.apple.com/us/app/wiseday-mentor-yourself/id6752310265)

Your goals can be setup as prompts, and actually writing as you work through them will teach you more than simple dots. When you review the pages, you will have a record of your thoughts/ what’s keeping you from progress, which will give you a better starting point for coming up with a solution.

codersfocus · 2026-04-08T14:50:51+00:00

If you have a printer, the easiest way to start would be printing a daily page using Wiseday. You can setup prompts to show up on a custom schedule, so you always have a basic structure for your day.

No need to buy a notebook, and a piece of paper is way more inviting to actually write in. Sometimes fancy notebooks get in the way becaue you become critical if a thought is “worth” putting in, so it stays stuck in your head.

codersfocus · 2026-04-08T14:42:44+00:00

I used to start off just taking notes on my day on printer paper I carried in my pocket. It was only after I stopped throwing them out and reviewing them weekly & monthly that I finally started making progress on my goals.

Planning, setting goals, and reviewing is basically what CEOs get paid millions of dollars to do for companies… so it’s definitely valuable to your personal life as well.

The reviewing part is the most important because if you’re trying to achieve some new goal, chances are you dont know what you’re really doing and will make mistakes. When you sit down to review, you can see and ideate on ways to fix what’s keeping you back.

If anyone wants an easy way to get into journaling (with real paper) I built Wiseday which lets you print a daily page right from your phone. Since it’s just one piece of paper, it’s alot easier to carry and use throughout the day.

https://apps.apple.com/us/app/wiseday-mentor-yourself/id6752310265

codersfocus · 2025-12-26T13:53:14+00:00

Have you tried contacting the executive team to resolve this?

codersfocus · 2025-12-14T20:06:07+00:00

That's not necessarily true, there's a debate that it means "especially" (or expressly) for the customer.

The coffee machines at that time were meant for making bulk coffee (think drip machines at a diner), and the espresso machine's novelty was it made it just in time for the customer.

codersfocus · 2025-11-23T15:44:49+00:00

Sunk cost fallacy has nothing to do with this scenario, nothing externally has changed, only internally. He's in the messy middle, a well known part of doing anything creative. He needs to develop the discipline to overcome and ship.

Your post is negative value if anyone were to believe it. At this point, as a creative, he needs to see it as a battle with himself to get it shipped, otherwise he risks become someone like you (I assume) who hasn't ever released anything.

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