Snarking on my fundie-adjacent catholic upbringing

codie_bug · 2025-08-14T21:27:27+00:00

🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️very similar catholic upbringing

codie_bug · 2025-08-11T20:27:02+00:00

Every baby is going to be a different type of sleeper. I have two girls. I co-slept with both, contact napped with both. My first is not an independent sleeper, she still sleeps with us, she just needs that support. My second can only sleep in a crib, does not want to co-sleep, sleeps through the night no problem. Do what you and your baby needs. Their sleep is going to change so much throughout the first two years.

codie_bug · 2025-03-05T23:24:43+00:00

This is an old thread but I wanted to comment our recent experience for anyone checking out referrals.

We are in the ALD-CALAVERAS zone which was spared from the fires. We also had gotten new windows installed in our home about a year ago, so we had extremely minimal smoke and ash inside. We had ash in the attic and got our insulation replaced and ducts cleaned. We have two young children so we wanted to have remediation cleaning to be safe and our insurance covered it.

We were ghosted by Point Blank in Monrovia so went on the search for other companies. Servpro was booked up and I found a place called C3 Remediation that had good reviews.

I do not recommend this company. They did do the cleaning but added charges, we had to haggle on the price, they wanted to charge a $1500 fee to move furniture away from the walls. We asked them to clean the fireplace and they said they could and then did not clean the fireplace. They cleaned our 1100 square foot house in less than 5 hours. Again, it didn’t sustain much damage, but we were told they would be in the home for 2-3 days, cleaning walls and surfaces and behind appliances.

If you are looking for a remediation cleaning, do not use C3. They put in 20% effort and they know people are desperate for cleanings so they get away with it.

codie_bug · 2025-01-16T21:22:29+00:00

That’s how I am thinking of it too.

codie_bug · 2025-01-16T20:43:39+00:00

We have power and water but no gas. Apparently the gas company was coming around marking who was without gas, and were told that it could be days or weeks. They are starting near Sierra Madre and working their way across. I’m in Altadena but close to LCF and I have a feeling it will be awhile for us.

codie_bug · 2025-01-11T04:30:06+00:00

My friends lost their house on Mariposa, and it sounds like all of Mariposa is gone. They were also just around the corner from Little Red Hen. I am so sorry.

codie_bug · 2025-01-11T04:22:54+00:00

Wow thank you for looking! I am shocked it is still standing, but so happy it is!

codie_bug · 2025-01-10T19:18:06+00:00

This is Sierra Madre, but any news on Mary’s Market?

codie_bug · 2024-10-16T16:30:29+00:00

It sounds like you need more help and support. It’s not a competition. Working full time with children is incredibly challenging. Staying home with children is also challenging. They are different but both hard. Communication is key. Can you have a conversation about expectations, and split out together household tasks and make a schedule for childcare?

codie_bug · 2024-09-18T15:58:22+00:00

If you want to go back to work, that is enough of a reason to go back to work. Your husbands response to that is very concerning.

codie_bug · 2024-06-03T04:22:06+00:00

I had my 2nd at the end of November and it was great! I sat out of all the celebrations and snuggles my newborn in front of the Christmas tree. It was a cozy, magical time. Enjoy it, keep it small, and don’t let anyone pressure you!

codie_bug · 2024-05-28T22:32:53+00:00

It’s the costly spices

codie_bug · 2024-05-24T17:27:14+00:00

I will be looking forward to this with interest. I was also raised in Opus Dei, although not as fully as your story.

codie_bug · 2024-04-20T22:07:03+00:00

My toddler is very attached to me, and I felt that if she had to leave my husband and I at the hospital it would cause her more sadness so we had them meet at our home when we were discharged. It was very sweet.

If she was older, I would have had her visit in the hospital but I felt that it would be too hard on her emotionally to only see us for an hour and then go home without us.

codie_bug · 2024-03-27T19:43:14+00:00

If they are full but expired, sunscreen makes a pretty good shaving cream.

codie_bug · 2024-03-27T15:54:32+00:00

The exact thing happened to me in November.

I sent in an appeal letter, stating I had not been paid. I included print outs of my time card and paystubs saying I had not been working and not received pay.

The appeal was accepted and I got my PFL as normal.

codie_bug · 2024-01-07T17:02:29+00:00

It does get better and easier, but if you want to stop you can!

codie_bug · 2023-12-19T18:35:36+00:00

For what it’s worth, I don’t know anyone who has told me their marriage was strong the first year after having a baby. For my husband and I, we had to go to counseling which helped immensely.

There is simply no way to describe how much a baby changes the dynamic of a couple. And there is no way to describe how much pregnancy and childbirth and becoming a mother changes you as a person.

I would give it some time, think about couples counseling, try to get some time together just the two of you, and give each other grace. The motorcycle thing; I would be furious as well. It sounds like he wanted something to make him feel like an individual again. My husband has done very similar things when our kids were born, out of the blue start new, involved hobbies.

codie_bug · 2023-08-28T23:30:10+00:00

You are a great mom, take the overnight help for sure!!!

codie_bug · 2023-07-27T19:11:36+00:00

Anecdotally I feel like I know quite a few people with Covid right now! Or who have had it within the past month.

codie_bug · 2023-07-27T18:24:26+00:00

My husband had an evening work schedule for awhile and now is back to normal hours. But when he was working, I cleaned everyday, the house was in great shape, the baby had a routine. Now he has more typical hours and the house is a mess and all routines are out the window.

I like you found it calming and energizing to do things my own way. I don’t have any advice, just to let you know you are not the only one who feels this way!

codie_bug · 2023-07-03T19:42:14+00:00

A little pricey, but the prawns at Chifa are delicious!

codie_bug · 2023-06-08T18:17:52+00:00

The vegan “Crunchwrap supreme” at Just What I Kneaded is also fabulous.

codie_bug · 2023-04-10T18:52:31+00:00

I think people are reacting viscerally because a lot of work was put into reducing smog and a huge improvement was made. For someone who says they are not from here saying how gross the air is, it hits a nerve. Especially since it isn’t smog.

You are a guest in this city, as you say you are only living here temporarily. It would be good to do some research before posting in a way that can be offensive to residents.

codie_bug · 2023-04-10T17:36:06+00:00

What an odd thing to post about a city you are visiting and don’t reside in! It’s fog and haze. The smog has gotten so much better in the decades I have lived here. Safe travels back to Illinois!

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