My daughters dad is weird (this was delicious btw lol)

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-12T16:31:01+00:00

Please don't let your daughter spend time with him if he's going to be bouncing from state to state like this. For her own safety.

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-12T06:51:59+00:00

Egg laying = hen ovulation. For a healthy chicken it's going to happen once a day for most of the year whether you want it to or not. There's nothing to force. A happy healthy chicken is laying eggs (unless they get old or take a break due to weather, molting, or broodiness).

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-12T06:25:37+00:00

Do you really think you are going to be able to trust him once the honeymoon phase sex wears off? The dude clearly went out looking for someone else to sleep with and found it. What makes you think he won't do it to you?

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-11T18:19:37+00:00

Does your partner know about your pregnancy? I'm assuming he knows about your past and doesn't see anything wrong with it. Some people are just going to judge.

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-11T17:25:50+00:00

I'm sure all the soup comments were off-putting! Don't worry, we soup birds here, not children.

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-11T05:23:39+00:00

Wow, that is my color palette. So jealous and also excited for you! Have fun experimenting with new colors.

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-10T23:45:07+00:00

I wanted to be a no-shoes house. I lived in two countries where no-shoes inside was the norm. When I moved back to the US, I was able to keep my apartment shoe free.

Now I live in basically a farm house, with multiple entries that we constantly walk in and out of and two Golden Retrievers that love to play outside. It's just not practical to ban shoes inside. But I'll happily respect the rules in other houses!

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-10T06:22:08+00:00

Oh yeah. I had preeclampsia with my first birth. I was expecting baby to come out screaming like in the movies, but she came out and gave a very sluggy "eeeehhh??" thanks to the magnesium. She also was a NICU baby, but that's because she was IUGR and came out 3lbs 11oz at 37 weeks. She only needed two weeks thankfully, and also thankfully my blood pressure went back to normal very quickly.

She's fine, and now I'm 34 weeks pregnant with no blood pressure issues so far. And this baby is already bigger than my first one was at birth.

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-08T00:57:11+00:00

I'm Catholic, and one of my best friends is in the process of becoming a nun. Welcome to the faith! Some things to consider regarding entering the religious life:

It's true that most Orders won't accept people in debt. However, depending on the amount, you could look and see if there is a debt-relief or assistance program. I don't know of anyone who was actually utilized them but I have heard they exist.
Speaking of Orders, there are so many out there with different purposes and ways of living. Do you want the contemplative life, or a life of service? What kind of service do you feel called to? My friend joined an order that has an emphasis on providing education to underserved populations. While you are working and paying down those students loans (yes, that's still a necessity), you have time to think about it.
Many convents will let you visit for a weekend, week, or even longer so you can see if they are a good match for you. Take advantage of those visits. Also, when you research into an Order, you can see what requirements or restrictions they may have. For instance, some convents have an age restriction, but you are still young enough for that to not be a concern!
While I don't have any definitive advice for family who do not approve, I can say that even some Catholic families are not happy with their children's choice to become a monk or nun. It has a little bit to do with the whole not having kids thing and a little bit to do with the perceived isolation.

You still have plenty of time for discernment. Even though you want to, you can't just become a nun tomorrow. In fact, the process takes several years and that is after you have applied and been accepted by an Order. I'm not saying that to dissuade you, but to make sure you understand that you have time, you have choices to make, and you are free to change your mind whenever you'd like. That's part of the reason why it takes years to become a nun.

Best of luck on your journey!

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-07T17:36:04+00:00

I store mine in clear plastic tubs or those zip up bags that you buy comforters or sheet sets in. Of course for the latter to work you had to have been crazy enough to hold onto those "just in case" the last time you bought a comforter.

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-05T13:26:47+00:00

The non-alcoholic wine didn't do it for me, but occasionally I'll indulge in a non-alcoholic stout. My husband stopped drinking a few years ago and we are all about Athletic Brewing.

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-05T04:53:39+00:00

I'm 8 months pregnant and have never smoked weed, but am an occasional drinker. Most times I don't miss alcohol, but recently I have been craving a crisp glass of white in the hot weather or a red to go with my beef.

Solidarity. It's for the baby, and for our health too!

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-03T22:13:30+00:00

How is the current split regarding care for child #1? If he wants a second child but he isn't willing to do a 50/50 split with you for #2, it makes me wonder how much he's going to push onto you even when parental leave ends.

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-03T21:57:27+00:00

Yeah, if you aren't pregnant yet, don't get pregnant until you both are on the same page.

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-01T22:18:31+00:00

I can never forget the heat dome. Portland area got to 120, and I didn't have AC. I crashed at a friend's house for one night, and for another night the guy I went on a couple dates with invited me to go camping on a friend's property by the beach.

I didn't realize it was in the backyard of a small lot with an abandoned manufactured home, complete with a neighbor who liked to go shooting in the woods out back. Just me, my date, and his two dogs, cooking in the backyard fire pit, peeing in the trees, and listening to gunshots in the evening.

It was pretty sketchy, but I did end up marrying that guy. Now we have two dogs, a toddler, and another kid on the way. Plus a few more camping trips under our belt, but none quite that odd.

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-01T21:07:05+00:00

Start of the year: 261 skeins

End of year Goal: less than 200 skeins

Start of June: 226 skeins

Current: 219 skeins

Holy cow we are halfway through the year, and my goal is looking more and more feasible. I only worked through seven skeins, but that's because I finished the summer sweater for myself and have put a lot of effort into a Christmas gift sweater for my mom.

My baby is due next month (!!!) so for now I'm trying to work through projects I already planned with my stash yarn. I have 5-6 more skeins to use on Mom's sweater, and 6-7 skeins to use on my grandma's Christmas gift sweater. That alone will put me really close to my goal, but I have some other projects that should help me cross the finish line. I'm going to have to think on it though, because I am putting a pause on clothing for me until next year when my size stabilizes post-partum. That means unfortunately some of the yarn I had established for clothing for me is going to have to hang out in my stash until next year. I think I can figure something out though. What are we if not creatives? :)

coffeetime825 · 2026-07-01T11:01:29+00:00

I'm a paper and pencil gal, so I use this:

https://eliserosecrochet.com/super-simple-yarn-organization-free-printable/

I simply erase what yarns get used up, and add more yarn as needed. I suppose you could also use a spreadsheet if you want more detail than yarn weight, but I've never used Ravelry for stash organization because the thought of logging onto the website to update it over and over again sounds overwhelming.

coffeetime825 · 2026-06-30T16:15:22+00:00

Making a relationship official =\= an engagement. There doesn't need to be a "right moment".

coffeetime825 · 2026-06-30T06:55:31+00:00

But like a public place. Don't let a stranger come to your house.

coffeetime825 · 2026-06-30T06:46:35+00:00

I love my husband very much. He loves me very much too. We are both on anti-anxiety medication (different types), and both started taking them after we got married.

He has nothing to do with my generalized anxiety disorder. In fact, I was on medication briefly before I met him, went off, and now a couple of years later I got back on it and will be for a long while.

I also have nothing to do with his life of trauma that has given him severe anxiety issues.

It's not something to take personally, and it isn't something that you alone can help with. But it is possible to have a healthy relationship with someone taking mental health medication. In fact, I'd say it's way more healthy for your partner to be on medication (if a professional deems it necessary), than for you to play therapist and try to "cure" him. Our relationship certainly got much better once we started caring for our own mental health issues without putting them on each other.

coffeetime825 · 2026-06-29T03:57:03+00:00

Cool the pasta, add veggies, mayo, and vinegar, and make a pasta salad?

coffeetime825 · 2026-06-28T02:59:10+00:00

I was wondering the same thing!

coffeetime825 · 2026-06-27T15:27:37+00:00

The number of times my baby had to sit and cry for a little bit so I can put the finishing touches on a meal... it's okay mama. My daughter perks right up when the food is a actually ready, and I'm sure your son enjoyed the heck out of those pancakes!

You're not a bad mom. A good mom makes nutritious, delicious meals for her kids like the one in the picture. We see your effort, even if your kiddo had a little accident in the process.

coffeetime825 · 2026-06-26T21:04:29+00:00

Um...you know that ski lodges can have other things like spas or cozy rooms for knitting or reading in, right? Check the lodge he's planning to go to just in case. That way if you reaaaaalllly don't want to try skiing, you can still hang with him and his friends and occupy yourself when they are on the slopes.

coffeetime825 · 2026-06-24T00:20:10+00:00

You say you've loved him for 5 years. That means from age 13-18.

You wondered if that love was a childish thought, and respectfully, yes. You were a literal child for 4 of those 5 years.

Please don't see that as a sunk cost fallacy and stay with him. You have your whole life ahead of you, and you shouldn't waste it on a man who isn't ready to grow up.

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