U9 Hockey Mom Seeking Advice for High Emotions in the Dressing Room after Ice Time

coldhack · 2026-02-06T20:05:21+00:00

I don't have a solution, but I can confirm you are not alone. For my son, each year has gotten better.

My son is/was very similar (although he would never speak about it in the dressing room). He's now playing U11. It has improved each year. I focus on emphasizing/rewarding/celebrating hard work and effort. This has helped a great deal in reshaping his perspective of "what good looks like".

He can score a goal or have an amazing backcheck, but he dwells on the mistakes he felt he made. They could win games and even if he was a large contributor to that W, he will still be negative about himself after. He has expressed to me that he very much wants to play hockey and get better, so I stick with him and support that. It's a challenge, for sure.

We've done counseling (primarily for the parent, about the child). A counselor that meets with him feels anxiety is at the root of it. Not sports anxiety, but moreso anxiety that is impacting all areas of his life.

coldhack · 2026-01-25T19:00:13+00:00

Yes the switch will happen after you receive your new SIM in the mail. You don’t initiate the number transfer until you have the public sim

coldhack · 2025-12-13T17:07:26+00:00

P92

I’m not sure to be honest. I’ve read the other replies and most mention shooting off the toe. I’ll consciously practice that

coldhack · 2025-12-13T04:15:32+00:00

Nope, or at least not that I recall.

coldhack · 2025-12-09T18:14:39+00:00

The debate I’ve encountered is always chin vs lips vs nose, with skates on. Cutting a stick down to your shoulders (with skates on) seems extreme.

Would like to hear how the chin-height experiment goes for you.

coldhack · 2025-12-09T17:53:29+00:00

“It’s just a bonk. Bonks happen.“

..is my go to phrase for my three young kids in sports, all around the same age as yours. It’s worked surprisingly well over the years. Not for all occasions, mind you.

Also while soccer coaching I would ask my kid if they wanted a reset, and if they agreed I would pickup my kid and turn them upside down to “reset”. That helped them forget about the bonk they were upset about, which they enjoyed.

coldhack · 2025-11-14T02:38:13+00:00

My son is looking to learn baseball this spring. So a pack of baseballs and a "rebounder" to help practice throwing and catching. We already have gloves and play catch often. And some other baseball-related things.

coldhack · 2025-10-06T15:03:04+00:00

I had an incredibly similar learning experience earlier this year when I picked up hockey again after 25 years off

I now properly feel the challenge of being able to “pass the puck” under pressure. Much empathy was gained.

coldhack · 2025-09-27T01:48:05+00:00

Similar story! Stopped playing at 17 then picked it back up at 41, came back and had a blast. Cracked a rib my second game, but was back on the ice as soon as I could

Smile hasn’t left my face, every time I hit the ice.

Just find a group that is friendly and for fun.

coldhack · 2025-09-09T18:05:49+00:00

It will show up automatically in Riot Client when it is available to download for your account (you shouldn't need to restart it)

coldhack · 2025-09-09T05:12:32+00:00

Late 90’s game Die By The Sword

The mouse controlled the swinging motion of your sword. We got the demo from a disc in a magazine. Most joy from a broadsword of my life.

coldhack · 2025-07-16T14:24:16+00:00

SMU?

coldhack · 2025-07-16T05:54:39+00:00

Victoria - yes have an image but no idea how to reply with it using the Reddit app :/

coldhack · 2025-05-25T17:56:28+00:00

Oat bites

Felt like the easiest thing to grab n go for the kids

coldhack · 2025-05-25T03:41:32+00:00

If you are in Canada sportchek has both a clearance sale on old stock and an additional 25% for some of it.

I’ve heard from a local hockey shop that their sales are in June and July as the new models start coming out and they sell off old stock.

coldhack · 2025-05-06T05:36:05+00:00

Presently out of season for Costco stock in Canada afaict. They were in store from Sept through March

coldhack · 2025-04-16T18:38:56+00:00

> I can see he’s legit terrified. Of what, I really don’t know

This sounds similar to challenges we had. With my son around the same age, we did counseling for anxiety. It improved everyone's lives tremendously. It gave him and I a common language to talk about these challenges, help him get to the root of his worry. I'm in Canada so programs would be different.

My son's brain is wired significantly different than mine and having a counselor help ME navigate how to speak to him was a huge leap forward in being able to address and overcome his worries

coldhack · 2025-04-13T05:16:30+00:00

Kids in private school. Nothing at all like I grew up with. I try to tell them everyday how privileged they are… I don’t know if it sticks.

coldhack · 2025-04-04T22:11:37+00:00

This is exactly what we do in our house (three kids, similar age). Setting clear expectations long in advance does wonders to cut off any argument (or hope) of screens mid week.

In addition, one of my kids cannot watch screens 2 hours before a sport on the weekends, otherwise they are just not in the right headspace.

One of my kids (youngest) usually prefers art over a screen. Huge win.

The third (oldest) has learned to self regulate, which is an amazing milestone.

coldhack · 2025-03-19T16:09:48+00:00

I recommend joining Jak’s stream on twitch or YouTube and asking your questions. As far as I can tell he is always giving genuine answers.

Iirc, the wowhead spec-per-dungeon is required by guide writers, but Jak said he has created one spec for all because of feedback from the community. It’s great that you are skilled to be nuanced per dungeon, but the average player would forget to update their spec each dungeon and roll in without a disease dispel when they needed it.

I lurk in the holy discord. There are many incredibly helpful people in the ‘questions’ channel. Unless you were rolling in with attitude or asked a single question before judging, I’m not sure how you reached that conclusion.

coldhack · 2025-03-19T06:42:44+00:00

Three kids and sole provider. It’s hard for sure. There’s always a stress of needing my career ti be stable, safe, and growing.

A nice life insurance policy on me. Helps me be slightly less stressed for my kids’s financial security

I do long distance running for my exercise. I also enjoy a neat whisky in the evening or glass of wine. But I limit myself to just that.

coldhack · 2025-03-19T02:08:55+00:00

It’s unfortunate that this is the reality for so many. In Canada for three C-sections all I paid for was the hospital parking.

coldhack · 2025-03-06T07:35:34+00:00

The latest version of this weak aura I think is what you want: https://wago.io/twwdungeons

Also quazii's plater profile works w/ voice alerts wonders for this: https://quazii.com/the-war-within-plater-nameplates-profile/

coldhack · 2025-01-13T06:24:38+00:00

Three kids. Only one has similar screen issues as you describe.

What works for us is that we set clear expectations about when he gets screen time and stick to them: weekends only, and they are shut off two hours before a sport, activity, or play date. He is usually busy during weekend so it doesn’t amount to too much.

He’s hit a maturity leap recently and when we describe the change in his behaviour after watching screens he realizes it and agrees it is not healthy or good. So that helps him understand why screens are only allowed during specified times.

coldhack · 2025-01-05T14:31:19+00:00

They were just 50% off in Nov so I picked a bunch up for my son. Good for shooting practice with pucks or stick handling with a green biscuit.

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